Sunday, 15 November 2009
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What Do You Say to a Cheating Girlfriend?
One of my girlfriends has been cheating on her boyfriend for months. They have been dating for 5 years now and have lived together for 2 years. It was obvious to me when we met that she was not "into" the guy so I am surprised it worked out so long because, you know, no relationship is perfect.
It's also ironic because we were in the same situation 4 years ago. We were both dating guys we weren't really into. On my side, I was just scared to break up - I ended up doing it anyway. She did not want to break up because who wants to be alone? No one else interested her anyway. Plus the guy is a lawyer. Flash forward 4 years and she meets this guy she's totally in. They start an affair and it lasts for months. She sneaks out to be with this guy who obviously has a reckless personality. They talk on the phone in a foreign language so that her boyfriend won't understand. And yes, all this time, he never suspected anything, until guy #2 showed up at their place and got into a fight. Anyway, major drama.Now my friend and guy #2 are "dating" officially. Last week she calls me to say she got breast implants. This is really not what she would do. But I guess love is blind?What would you say to a friend who is not only a cheater, but only crazy in love with someone who is obviously a bad influence?
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I would say to the person...
"The two of you are made for one another. "
@QuantumStorm@xanga - LOL.
hoooooooly cow.
first i'd ask her if she's on anything. jokes.
i really don't know :s
@QuantumStorm@xanga - lol, clever way of pointing out the truth. I second your comment.
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you can say whatever you want.
whether she listens to your advice will test how strong your friendship is.
they sound like deserve each other. and guy #2 is her bad karma for cheating on her boyfriend that she didn't even like in the first place.
just be honest with her
xo
The truth.
Tell her exactly what you think about her situation.
Then again, I'm pretty sure she won't listen and are going to do what she wants to do, anyways.
She'll need to learn her lesson on her own.
rofl, sounds like your friend is batshit crazy. that's probably all you need to say.
Relationships begun in infidelity are doomed from the start. If she really wanted things to work out with Guy #2, she'd have the sense to break it off with the first one.
Maybe let her get it out of her system? If you tell her the truth, I doubt she would really listen. :/
Goodbye lol.
But to the girl, I'd make sure to constantly remind them that they are really fucked up.
Yeah, just let her get it out of her system. When people are confused about their life and unhappy with their situation, they'll do things like that. I would just stick by her for when the let down comes and she realizes she's over this guy.
I would tell a cheating girlfriend that she is a fucking slut, hoe, and whore, mindless, soul-less, cold-hearted, vindictive, selfish, arrogant dumbass bitch from Venus Hell
she needs to snap back to reality.
lol whatever you say to her, she won't listen. people never do. they're very stubborn when it comes to these things
I don't think saying anything to her will do much. Usually people don't realize their own stupidity, even if you flat-out point it out to them. Let her figure things out on her own. To be honest with you, I don't think she really deserves any help.
She's the only one who will make herself change...no matter what you say. Give her your two cents anyway.
your friend's a scumbag. i doubt you could say anything that would change her behavior, you're just going to have to sit this one out and hope she learns on her own.
i think a intervention is in order. lol. but jokes aside. Be blunt. If your truely friends then being blunt is probably the best way to tell her. Only friends can tell their friend the cold hard truth. And being blunt is the best way to get their attention and keep it there. I hope it all works well in the end.
You can tell her whatever you want her to hear, the fact is that she's going to do what she wants to do, no matter what you say, even if you think it's solid advice. In fact, it well may be, but she won't listen to it, because she's got her own mind and her own though process. But if you really want to try and tell her she's going down the wrong path, DON'T sugar-coat ANYTHING! Tell her exactly what you think, and don't mince words. Yes, she might be mad at you, but she'll look back and know that you were just trying to help her.
"bitch i'm gonna break your implants if you don't fix yourself up"
haha i'm just joking
i'll rat on her ass for her every encounter
I would tell her or him how reckless i thought (knew) it was, one time and one time only. After that it's their ass... But as a friend i'm still going to be there for them to fall back on.
@L_O_R_D_X101@xanga - THANK YOU!!
who cares how can u continue to care about someone who chooses to live her own life carelessy jus let nature run its course u will see. i mean really mind ur business nosy
Tell her the truth about how you feel, even if it isn't pretty.