Sunday, 15 November 2009

  • Mixed Race Couples: Do You Have A Chip On Your Shoulder?


    I just watched an interview with Ann Coulter from a few years ago and she stated that mixed race couples have a chip on their shoulder and are just waiting for someone to comment on the fact they are a mixed couple.

    Now, I'm almost 100% positive the statement she made is not true, but it did make me think that maybe the question should be asked because I do think it is a stereotype that needs to be busted.

    So those of you in a mixed race relationship, do you have a chip on your shoulder or could you not give a damn about what people think about you and your SO?

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  • JoeytheGenie@xanga

    I have a feeling I will be one of those (my most major crushes have been on Italian guys yet I'm Asian)
    but I wouldnt care of what people thought of me
  • salvatruca_stalking_havok13@xanga

    If Ann Coulter said it, then it's definitely a lie. She's too busy living in her own little world of privilege to realize that, yes, mixed race couples do have to be on the look-out for hateful crazies who like spreading their racist stink all over other people's relationships. Mixed race couples don't have a chip on their shoulder, society does.

  • neekuuh@xanga

    i don't give a damn about what people say about my relationship, i'm happily in love and that's all that matters 
  • just_the_average_jane@xanga

    I wouldn't say all mixed raced couples have a chip on their shoulder.  However, our past experiences definitely color our perceptions of present/future experiences --so a mixed race couple who has run into a lot of flak about their race in the past will be more likely to misinterpret or be more sensitive to the issue. 

    In contrast, a mixed race couple who has experienced nothing but acceptance will be unlikely to consider that, and they might even miss instances of more subtle discrimination, simply because they're so unused to even considering that as a factor in how people perceive them.

  • LurLurBunny@xanga

    First of all, EW ANN COULTER.

    And, I could care less what other people think. It's just annoying when friends/family say negative things about us. But that probably only makes me want him more hahaha
  • Spongebobandbeyond@xanga

    @salvatruca_stalking_havok13@xanga - If Ann Coulter said it, then it's definitely
    a lie. She's too busy living in her own little world of privilege to
    realize that, yes, mixed race couples do have to be on the look-out for
    hateful crazies who like spreading their racist stink all over other
    people's relationships. Mixed race couples don't have a chip on their
    shoulder, society does.

    My thoughts exactly. You took the words right out of my mouth!
  • Parsimony@xanga

    If that's the case, San Francisco would be a drearier place.  Ms Coulter seems to be the opposite of secular with those opinions.
  • white_wintr@xanga

    I feel like being in a relationship with someone of another race is just beautiful, and also it shows just how far civilization has gone from people having slaves, and how everyone isn't racist anymore. (well at least some people)

  • Lordv16@xanga

    Can't say I've ever had a chip on my shoulder because of something like that.

    She needs to worry about herself, not us.
  • stupidcravings@xanga

    really? wow, everyone's in a mixed relationship out here in toronto.
    most common being asian/white
    then there are black/white, brown/white, black/asian (yeah, that was hot, korean mom with black dad and CUTE baby), asian/brown (jap boy, brown chick), brown/black
    all kinds.

    (sorry if you find the language above offensive. it's acceptable in my society. so im sorry if you do find it offensive.)
  • wizard_howl@xanga

    I could care less what others think about who I'm with because I love him more than anything. All you have to do is ignore people who comment on that, not create drama around it. My boyfriend gets most of the comments from his friends and family because I'm not Israeli and I wasn't born Jewish. He just doesn't give a crap. Neither do I.


    If people are going to judge you as a couple because you're not dating within your race, obviously they have a pole up their butt or they just have nothing better to do. It's best to just leave the situation alone. They can't be old-fashioned forever.
  • laytexduckie@xanga

    Ann Coulter is nothing but a pile of trash held together by the vomit of small children. She would not be someone I would miss if she disappears.

    Second, I'm pretty sure that mixed couples get together because they like each other and love each other. Simply going after someone just because of their race is . . . .well, racist. While, yes, you can be attracted to one race more than another, you shouldn't just say, "This is the best race and will only date this race."
  • dance_for_love_4_him@xanga

    I dont care what people think about my relationship, i love him and vice versa thats all that matters. Ann Coulter, no
  • iJUST_ATEabug@xanga

    two of my best friends are in a relationship. she's black (light, but still), and he's as white as it gets (a redhead, lol). i really don't think they care what other people say. they even poke fun at it sometimes!
  • iTekno@xanga

    i hate that kind of thinking with a passion. I only date white guys (its my preference). I get looked at crazy from all aspects. From my family and the losers who are against it, but it doesnt stop me. So from that, you can probably conclude that interracial couples dont care what others think. 


    I cant believe how incredibly stupid that statement is that Coulter made. 
  • UnopenedSuitcases@xanga

    haha i guess so? I don't really care what people think when they see me and my bf [i'm asian, he's all kinds of white ;p]. I just find their comments hilarious sometimes
  • artistgrl13@xanga

    Ann Coulter never knows what she's talking about. Most people in mixed race couples barely take their partners' race into consideration. Ever. And they don't enjoy getting shit for dating someone of a different race. Has anyone ever wanted to face discrimination and societal disapproval for who they love? No couple is ever "just waiting" for people to racially discriminate against them.
  • Shopgirl0393@xanga

    Screwy logic. Many same race couples care what others say about their relationships. Most mixed race couples don't. Oh don't you see, Ann Coulter? Yes, she obviously would..NOT.

    If anything, it's quite the opposite for mixed race couples. They would be the ones that care the least about what others think, coming together regardless of any naysayers (which nowadays are fewer & farther between, regardless--mostly old schoolers stuck in the past).

  • talithakoum7@xanga

    i think mixed couples are so beautiful <3
  • Shinbi_Belldandy@xanga

    What planet is Ann Crapter from? Seriously...


    I think interractial couples just want to be seen as a couple in love, that's it.

  • XoAsianBabioX@xanga

    sigh ann coulter likes to make assumptions that are soooooo ridiculous. 
  • frozencherries@xanga

    I never even thought of me and my boyfriend as an "interracial" or "mixed" couple until someone else mentioned it. He's hispanic and I'm white...but that fact has ZERO impact on our lives as a couple, on our relationship, or on anything else. Except the time I went to his house to meet his parents and they served guinea pig...
  • T0m03@xanga

    We've never really thought about it.

  • tavatava@xanga

    We thought it was interesting and exciting while we were dating, but we never sought attention for it.
  • glamthatsparkle@xanga

    At least I'll be making beautiful babies...... 

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