Thursday, 12 November 2009
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What Not to Buy For Women
This is the female counterpart to Titanic_Spaz's post, "What Not To Buy A Man". Originally, this was a comment, but I've copied, pasted, and edited here per the Spaz's request. :)
WHAT NOT TO BUY FOR WOMEN:
#1 - LINGERIE... This is not to say that women don't like having nice bras and panties, but only we know what we like, and what "fit" is most flattering. Guys may think it's sexy to buy something THEY want to see us in, but chances are, it's going to either be offensive or laughable. So, hand us a gift card and we will buy something that makes BOTH of us happy.
#2 - CANDLES... As a woman, I love candles. But, like most women, I have a select taste for just a few scents, and probably have all the candles I need for the next half-decade. The only time candles are acceptable as a gift are a) when you're certain we've just thrown away the last candle of our favorite scent, or b) if it's got sentimental value. For example, my husband an I had a fall wedding reception with pumpkin spice candles, and he bought me one of these for our first Christmas as Mr. and Mrs.... Or if c) you were horsing around in an "I'm Chuck Norris" moment, and broke a candle... Though replacing it is hardly a "gift". lol.
#3 - GLOVES/SCARVES... Really? Nothing says "clearance rack" like receiving a winter-weather set when the cold weather is half over. It's like buying someone a coat for their summer birthday. Come on. lol.
#4 - CHRISTMAS DECOR... See above.
#5 - BAD PERFUME... This equates to buying a guy sports memorabilia from the wrong team. Good perfume -- meaning, something you know we wear, not the old "Jordache" our grandmother bought us when we were 14 -- is always a good choice.
#6 - FOOD BASKETS... I don't know any women, even my lactose-intolerant friends, who would snub their noses at a meat and cheese basket. But please don't give one of these as a gift. It screams, "I looked all around Wal-Mart on 12/24 and couldn't find a thing to get you, but this caught my eye at the register." Besides, if you're a man like my husband, you'll probably eat more than your share anyway. Save this type of gift as a "To Both, From Santa" one. :D
I'm going to stop short here, as Mr. Spaz did, to allow for additions to be made. Can you ladies (or gents) think of any other BAD gift ideas that should not be explored for women?
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Anything that has to do with cleaning.
I understand the first three, but I really don't think any guy would ever really consider buying the others for a gift. No guy or girl wants any of those!
i don't know about #3. cole haan gloves and anthropologie scarves are looooove.
Exercise equipment/weight loss stuff, unless she asks for it.
a scale.
MAKEUP!!!!
@noree_n@xanga - HAHAHAHAHAHA win!
Um, getting them nothing? I've had that happen a few times. I'd rather a card than nothing.
Yeah, I don't like it when someone gets me scented anything (perfume, candles, fabric sprays, lotions, etc.) unless they already know exactly what kinds of scents I like. It usually ends up sitting in the back of a bathroom cupboard, unused, and I feel bad about it. I'm always grateful for the gift itself, of course, but I hate wasting things. Sometimes, no one else wants the gift, either.
@noree_n@xanga - if there was a "LIKE" button on xanga i would totally click it on your comment.
There's nothing I would absolutely despise, but I would love to get Pokemon cards and food for Christmas.
Clothes or shoes unless you know for certain her size and tastes.
I agree with the scales and cleaning stuff from above. An Oversized flannel pajama nighty is another on my list. In fact, oversized t-shirts as well.
Be grateful for ANYTHING you get as a gift. I hate when people are picky about something they receive. It's a GIFT. And if you can't enjoy the gesture, you probably deserved something shitty anyway.
Stuffed Animals! The first one is okay, but I received 3 different build-a-bears from this one guy, and probably 3 other stuffed animals during our relationship. It was obvious he didn't put a lot of thought into the gift.
1. I love when my guy buys me lingerie. It saves me quite a bit of money. If your guy really knew you, he would know what your taste is, and if your guy had good taste and really knew your body, he would know what "fit" is most flattering. Maybe I'm just lucky. And, in relation to food baskets and putting no thought into the gift, nothing says "I didn't know what to get you" like getting someone a gift card.
2. I do have enough candles to last me through the next half decade, but if he wants to get me a candle, they'll last me that much longer. Again, he knows what I do and don't like, even if he may not like the same scent.
3. If it's still cold, half way through season or not, I will want scarves, gloves, hats, anything to keep me warm! Besides, he won't want me whining that I'm cold because he didn't think to get me anything :P And I've never seen winter clothing on clearance half way through the winter. However, if it is nearing the very end of the season, then no, I wouldn't want it.
4. I agree on this one.
5. Bad perfume is...bad. But good perfume is good. He can get me good perfume if he likes, but it isn't likely because I don't wear much perfume as it is.
6. I agree with this one, too. That's more like something he would want.
bath stuff... makes you wonder what they're hinting at haha
Lol, I HATE food gifts!
I don't agree with #3. Scarves are some of my favorite things to wear.
I wouldn't mind getting gloves or scarves. And I need a new coat... so no matter when I get it I would like it. Actually my bf just got me a really nice winter coat this summer. I loved it.. but still looking for a coat, because it's a bit short.
I just wouldn't want candles, period. The only time I ever get candles are when other people don't want them anymore and I can't resist because I don't approve of throwing things away.
I don't use perfume... so I agree with you there.
As for food baskets.. I've never seen one with meat and cheese in it o_o
Glad to see some nice additions to the "do not buy" list!! I think the scale is my most favorite... that would piss me off. haha. I'm surprised that so many people would be okay with receiving scarves, but maybe it's a regional thing? I live in South Carolina, so by the time Christmas comes, we're just a few short months from summer. lol.
@darkconception@xanga - I would agree with you totally if I was talking about friend-to-friend gifts. But my post is based upon buying things for a significant other, which should typically involve more thought. In my experience, the ones who say people should be "grateful for anything" they receive are the same ones who give thoughtless gifts. :)
Hey, it's the thought that counts.
I don't agree with #3! My boyfriend gave me a beautiful scarf in my favorite color as a complete surprise because I wear A LOT of scarves. I've never even thought of #6 as a possibility, that's pretty funny.
I think it's the thought that counts. I would be happy with anything I can use. This will disqualify clothes since I am very picky about fit, but anyone who would complain about a gift doesn't deserve one.