I don't have time!
There is nothing more frustrating than hearing the excuse "I don't have time!". Frankly it makes my skin crawl. Time, of course, is a finite resource, and it's conceivable that you could have run out of it, but what is most irritating is that the people that most use this excuse are the lazy procrastinating types who would rather make excuses than actually do the task requested.
"I don't have time.", you tell me, but I'm telling you, "I don't have time to listen to you say "I don't have time!"."
If it's important to you, you'll make the time. If it's important to you, you'll find the time. If it's important to you, you'll put off other tasks to complete this task. But, what you're really saying when you say "I don't have time!" is "I don't care about that task!", or in the case of more personal requests "I don't care about you!"
Herein lies the struggle of all couples, siblings, parents, and partners. Who do you make time for, yourself, or them? Do you find yourself saying "I don't have time" to the people you supposedly love?
If you truly love them, make the time. Because time IS a finite resource, and when you're dead and in the ground the 50min you just spent watching TV would have be much better spent with your loved ones.
But hey, that's just my two cents....I'd give you more than two...but I just don't have time!
ps. Yes....I'm a hypocrite and I catch
myself saying this same excuse
too often. Self improvement only comes when the flaws we recognize in others we can see reflected in ourselves and we make the choice to acknowledge those struggles and strive to improve as a human being.....at least that's what I read in my fortune cookie...
What's the excuse you hate the most?
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If you use the excuse yourself, you have no room to talk.
Time is infinite, but each person's time is limited. Our generation of humans are multitasking more than ever, and we just don't have enough time for everything. Of course "I don't have time" isn't saying "I don't care about the task" a more accurate translation would be "I have another task which in my perspective, is more demanding of my time"
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"If it's important to you, you'll make the time. If it's important to you, you'll find the time."
Even if it means I have to take time away from another task, I must find time for another task which is more important to me.
i loved this post lol you said it all nothin left to comment lol and with all the time i have ths post was amazing perfectly worded
@pawnshop_heart@xanga - She stated that in the end. "Self improvement only comes when the flaws we recognize in others we can see reflected in ourselves and we make the choice to acknowledge those struggles and strive to improve as a human being....."
And I agree with you, you need to know there is a problem in the first place in order to fix it, so props in that aspect. But it kind of sounds like you were pissed off with someone specific when you wrote this? Am I wrong?
The excuse I hate the most is, "I have to work." My husband uses that with me all the time...I know his work schedule and he has plenty of time to come home and spend hours on his Xbox. I don't know why him working means he can't take out the trash every now and then or run to the store for me. Haha...there's my little bitch rant. =p
I agree, I hate it when people say that.
I feel this is the lamest excuse for not doing things, or not creating relationships. I'd rather hear an actual excuse than this, even if it came down to "I don't find you attractive enough." Why can't people just say what's in their heart instead of hiding behind this so convient masks?
i'm so guilty of using that line, and it works every time to my loved ones. i guess sometimes i just don't want to hear it.
I liked your post. I think everybody uses that line every once in a while. And I wholeheartedly agree with you that if you really care about someone/something, you'll make time.
But on the other hand, sometimes people really do not have time! For example when somebody asks you to do something right away when you have to be at work in 10 minutes. Or 10 minutes ago. I think that's an appropriate situation to use the phrase "I don't have time!".
Or when you're a pregnant woman going into labor, but your husband won't take you to the hospital yet because he's watching the game on tv and asks you if you'd like to join and watch with him. I can imagine the woman saying "I don't have time!" then too.
I admit, pretty unrealistic, but they're fun to come up with. I can think of more!
Yeah, just yesterday my brother said he didn't "have the time" to hear me explain something, before giving him a question on a homework assignment. One minute was all I asked for, but it took ten minutes for him to finally listen and help. Grr. And he complained about having one minute taken out of his life.. yet he manages to be so stubborn. He didn't want to hear me explain what I'm trying to address about the question, since he thinks I'm trying to "lecture" him when he "already knows what the whole process of RNA transcription is." But how would he understand my question (which could not stand alone) . . . without having an explanation of what I've learned so far.. so that he could understand where I'm at and going with the question? He's so full of pride, and so nerdy, he's somehow got the privilege to be mad at me for "lecturing him." Grrrr. There, I ranted. Awesome post! Totally reminds me of yesterday.
Wow. I wish my fortune cookies were that telling :P
"I don't know" "I don't remember" and "I forgot."
Well, then I don't know about us, I don't remember why I got with you in the first place, and I forgot to care. See ya.
I don't mind when people say I don't have time when you're asking them to do something. What I hate is when people start complaining about things like "Damn I need to clean this house. I just don't have enough time." Yet all you do all day is sit around doing nothing and make everyone else do everything for you. Also that ties into "No one ever helps me, I have to do everything myself." When you and I both know that you get everyone to do everything for you, and you throw a fit if you are even asked to help someone else....ok those are more pet peeves than excuses I hate heh.
@MistressAislin@xanga - I say I don't remember, and I forgot a lot. But in general it's true.
@AbbeyDawnx@xanga - LoL, sorry this reminded me of a few things and I just had to comment.
When I go into labor it happens FAST. I go from being dilated at a 2 or a 3 to a ten in an hour tops. Neither of my labors took longer than 5 hours. When I went into labor with my youngest son my husband started trying to pack the bag, and get our oldest dressed...etc (he came two weeks early) and I was in a LOT of pain. after a half an hour I was livid. "I DON'T HAVE TIME FOR THIS! GET IN THE CAR, YOU CAN COME BACK FOR THE BAG LATER" and our oldest woke up with a cookie bribe. :P
On another note, They built a new hospital in our city. They built it right next to *drumroll please* a strip club. I couldn't help but laugh and think, a little sadly because it'd probably happened, that some guy probably left his wife during labor to go to the strip club thinking he "still had time" and missed his baby being born. Strip club isn't there anymore btw.
"I have no time" is a perfectly acceptable excuse. If that person does not want to do something for you (or themselves) because they do not have time, it is not that there are not enough minutes in a day. It's just that they would rather allocate their energy and minutes towards something else that they want to do instead of what you would like them to do (or what they SHOULD do).
I use this excuse a lot, and I admit it's because I'm lazy and would rather lounge around on the sofa reading books than do some of the things I'm supposed to.
@JusticeCho@xanga - it can be true, and everyone forgets, but there's a point and time it's just an excuse... like when you use it for everything... and a point when it becomes inexcusable, like you "forgot" you were in a relationship because you were drunk, or "can't remember" having those conversations with that girl, or "don't know" why you cheated or "forgot" you cheated...etc.
Sorry, little bit of a rant. *le sigh*
@MistressAislin@xanga - Well timing can explain the "I don't know why I cheated" part. Like if it's a few years later and you ask. Also people who aren't in tune with their real emotions might not understand what they're going through and have no real way to express it, so an I don't know makes the most logical sense at the time. I used to be extremely detached from my feelings and pretty much never knew anything heh.
Hm, I use this "excuse" all the time. I think in some cases it is legit. Like refusing to get into anything with a guy because I know I don't have sufficient time to commit to a relationship--I don't think it's fair. Yes, maybe it's a matter of choosing work and other responsibilities over him, but people don't always have such luxuries to shuffle things aside all the time.
I use it with serious intent...I've learned using it as an excuse is not effective, because many people don't buy it and further pursue.
I've been extraordinarily busy.
"I feel asleep." An ex-boyfriend fell asleep and stood me up on Valentine's Day after getting ready all day. He also did this on Halloween and Christmas.
@JusticeCho@xanga - I suppose I could see that... but in my case it hasn't been years, or even months. It would have been hours or days. It's really rediculous. Selective memory perhaps?
@MistressAislin@xanga - Doubt it. In your case sounds just more like fear. Because of fear he may know the real reason deep down, but not be able to understand it or express it. So an easier answer is just I don't know. Fear is just going to push the understanding farther away. But not being in the situation myself "I don't know". heh.
I agree with you; if they really cared enough, they'd MAKE time.
This is stupid.
If someone is telling you that they 'don't have the time' to see you, they're trying to spare your feelings. I personally would prefer to hear that then "I find your prescence boring."
As for people who use this excuse being 'lazy," I say who fucking cares. We treat time like a commodity. We save it, buy it, spend it. Being lazy is GOOD. It keeps you sane. Sometimes I WANT to spend my time in front of the television. Nobody should feel obligated to go and fill every free moment of their life with obligations. Fuck.
@JusticeCho@xanga - Lol, well thank you. I appreciate the discussion anyways.
@silverlocket_88@xanga - very annoying...