Monday, 09 November 2009

• From Kid Sexuality to Adult Sensitivity?

  Recently, I took a read at someone's blog named "Reason #237 to not have children". The focus was upon finding out a kid as young as 10 has a "face down, ass up" picture of a girl on his PS2. When I read this, I actually was a bit shocked but also had a point that maybe that stuff was normal, if you just happened to be a boy who was introduced to something sexual at a pretty young age.
  

  It brought me back to a sudden conclusion I drew to within my life: if a kid is drawn to something raunchy and sexual when they are young, there is a slight chance they will grow up to be gentlemen when they are older. After all, the story goes that the way they are when they were younger WILL change once they get older.

  I'm pretty sure you guys knew my sexual story when I posted it earlier, but just in case you needed a little bit of a memory jogged, here you go. And most of this will be of the most honest truth.

  I remember when I was young, I would see these women, some of them as young as 15, wearing midriffs. I didn't know what was sexy about a woman showing their bellies, but I just knew it was normal. I also would see some women in R&B videos wearing booty shorts. More or less the ones where the legs of the jeans were cut off. Added to that, I read some music magazines where a woman wore a chain around her belly like a gypsy dancer, and it was called a belly ring. Added to that, I saw plenty of women with their belly pierced. That added right to the picture of the most sexual "hero", named Terry. I was envisioning movies at the time wen I was around 7ish? I don't know how old, but I drew that. She became like my version of Barbarella (funny enough, I didn't hear about Barbarella until I reached college). Luckily when I was young, I never really knew how to draw when a woman's breasts showing cleavage. Either way, my sudden sexuality search out of nowhere was nothing new.

  I remember when I was young and seeing my first oral sex scene in a porno in my brother's room when I was younger. I didn't understand it but I imagined it for nothing. I saw plenty of things pointing to raunchiness in a mininum but what kept me from going so far is knowing I didn't understand it, but I guess I kind of understood things when I first started to explore my sexual organs. I didn't know why I was doing it. I just assumed it was normal. And it was to the point where when I was as young as 7 or 8, I had assumed everyone including women had penises.

  Yes, there is a good point to this, and we'll cross that hump when we get to it. Just bare with me.

  Needless to say, as the sudden curiousity about sexual situations came, so did the old stereotypes about what men liked, and there was a big streamline of things in order from

  1. Bellies (I once again can't explain it)
  2. Big butts (Every other rap video I saw, it was in my face, as soon enough I wound up sneaking peeks at butts from so apparent reason. Thank goodness I actually had he power to keep composure)
  3. Big breasts (this one was a problem I could never ever figure out honestly. I saw plenty of guys liked big boobs, and yet again, I thought it was just plain normal to like women like that. There was a time I saw a girl named Monique and thought she was sexually attractive, and I was only probably 11. Thank goodness she shut me away before I was planning to do nothing but sit next to her. Hehe! But after seeing cleavages and bikinis, it came at just a random woman thing)
  4. Thick women in general (To be honest, this one carried from then to now, because I just liked that most thick women cared so little, as a means to have their own set of confidence, and confidence to me was definitely key. But mostly it started with a cute Latina girl who happened to have been young, but was also the rudest girl you have ever met in your entire life.)

  Funny enough, there was this curve when I was little, too. Whenever I found someone attractive, and I actually got to know them, I would fall for them and want to be their boyfriend. Let me explain.

  This particular woman did not fit any of the stuff much. Not quite at all in fact, but she looked like an absolute angel. I feel in love with her as soon as I looked at her. And she was a plain Jane, who was also your typical average girl, too. I talked to her more than I talked to any of the women in that list of attractions on the top. This is the main clue to the point: I thought women who were sexually attractive were cool, and even eye-catching then, but as I grew older, I was a lot more interested in women who were simple and would make you want to fall for how good they were.

  Here my friends is where I skip right up to college year. By then, I came across plenty of people who were either promiscuous or sexually attractive, but I had made up my mind: I really wanted someone who was easy for me to love. Someone that to the core made me want to stay with them for eternity. Physical attractions will indeed be built in, but when the dust cleared, I knew that the girl the bad guys wanted were also the girls that may be prone to breaking a good guys' heart, so I was determined to keep out of that jar, and find someone to be a good gentlemen to.

  Case in point, here is where we cross the bridge: I found that psychologically, a kid will find it normal to explore young sexuality. But when they grow up, assuming they'll be their real selves, they'll be something completely different. More or less, they will grow up to be young ladies and gentlemen. To put it more generally, The way you are now as a real person is the opposite of what you may have been as a kid. If you were a good Christian kid as a child, when you grow up and learn more, you are going to be the everyday preacher's daughter. If you were a grade A student when you were younger, when you get older, you are not going to care about straight A's once the stress hits you. When you are a do-gooder if you were young, grow up, you won't seem anywhere near that. And you can blame that on the world influence. Becuase there is a big difference between being young and being older: when you were younger, it was considered normal. When you are an adult, you learn just enough to turn yourself a new leaf.

  So, don't be shocked when they are young and oggling booties. Odds are once they completely learn about their people, they'll soon be taking a regular woman out for a real date and having a family. Bet on that.

  What are your thoughts on sexuality and sensitivity from a kid's and adult's point of view?
  

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