More and more I have heard, or seen women and sometimes men losing their identity to please their significant other. I am an open minded Church of Christ member, and today I found out from a friend about his sister, who we are good friends with. I believe her boyfriend has made her lose herself, that, and who he hangs out with. She now believes in wearing a head covering(if you're a Church of Christer you understand) if not, I can sort of explain-in 1 Corinthians it mentions women wearing head coverings in church, its basically a giant doily you place on your head. I don't have any problem with it, I just hate when people change their identity because of their SO.
That's not the friend I know, at all, even my husband agrees. He knew her before I even met her, and her brother is outraged, which I don't blame him. He knows her better than we do, and she is rapidly losing who she is so she can please her boyfriend and his friends he hangs out with. Her boyfriend is "friends" with my husband, and since we got married he has become distant. Another example is our friend Emily who just got married. Since she got together with him, she's no longer the fun-loving, goofy Emily. She's too serious, and shes even changed the way she dressed because of him.
It's sad to see someone lose their identity because of their SO, because I believe you have to be yourself and then someone will love you, you don't have to conform to what your SO wants. Losing yourself is the first step to losing your independence as a person. As a wife, my husband wanted me to keep who I was, he was a good example and helped me change some of my bad habits. That's the way it should be, you shouldn't become a robot clone of your SO.
But I want other opinions is it right for you to change your identity to fit what your SO wants or should you keep who you are?