For starters, this is not a blog invitation to a swingers party nor have you stumbled onto a Craigslist ad.
I know there were some recent postings about virginity and questions about losing it or keeping it. To me, I didn't think it was a big deal anymore because according to some of my friends who teaches High School, kids are very sexually active. Some were active even before they graduated Junior High.
So anyway, my friend then tells me that the guy she's currently dating lost his virginity to one of his platonic friend freshman year in college because he didn't want to stay a virgin. I asked her "Did they date afterward?" and she informs me no, they were just friends. They didn't hook up anymore after that. The deal was, he just wanted to lose his virginity and asked his friend to do him a favor and she did it.
I couldn't help but think, is that like when you find a surrogate to carry your child because you can't do it yourself? If one of my guy friends came to me and asked me for that favor (if I was single) would I be able to help him out? I don't think I can be that courageous or selfless.
What would you do if a friend, not a stranger, asked you to be their first because he or she didn't want to be a virgin anymore? Would you do it?
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Wow. It depends on my relationship with the guy and if I could trust him enough. But I highly doubt it.
If she is cute, I would do it =).
Nope. Even if I were single, I still wouldn't because I'd still be waiting for marriage.
i don't see the harm if your both single?
depends lol.
-good-lookingness
-gender (i usually would only do girls)
-how much i liked them
-clingyness
-if i myself am not in a relationship
Lame in general? It doesn't make you any more cool to lose your virginity to someone who was only doing you a "favor" so you could brag about not having a v-card anymore than it does about having to admit to being a virgin anyway.
Honestly, the whole friend bit is only a small consideration. Attraction is a big deal, as is the ability to leave sex as just sex. I think it is difficult for guys and girls to be "just friends" for an extended period of time anyway, if not nigh impossible. That being said, a guy and a girl who have hooked up... the stakes are very high in terms of changing the nature of that relationship fundamentally, for at least one party if not for both.
if he is cute and is well endowed, why not Lol he must give me a ring pop candy first. nothing is free
Are they hot? Or more importantly, Am I attracted to them???
If so, I'd seriously consider it.
@P0RCELA1N_D0LL@xanga - hahahah he must give me a ring pop candy first.
Nope.
haha. Yes, because my girls are hot and I've probably have had the hots for them at some point in my life but only if I was single.
No way. I've been down that rode. It's really awful.
Ehh I'd probably feel pretty bad.
I wouldn't be able to do it because we'd have some sort of contact afterwards. It would be strange...and awkward.
uhm. weird.
No, that's just weird..
I couldn't do it. I've actually been asked that before, but for a friend by another friend. I still gave the same answer since I feel that the first time needs to be with someone that they really felt was special.
I know this is a common thing for younger people when it comes to first kiss, and in that situation yea I wouldn't have minded that at a younger age, or even now on the rare chance that any of my friends who are my age (18-22) havent had their first kiss.
Bur when it comes to sex that's a different issue. I don't think I could do that. It would totally change if not ultimately end the relationship. While I'm attracted to quite a few of my female friends on one level or another, it's just not something I could bring myself to do. Then again, it could lead to a closer and potential romantic relationship so maybe, but probably not.
@P0RCELA1N_D0LL@xanga - lmao. good point =)
i was going to sleep with one of my oldest &+ dearest guy friends. he said that he wanted to sleep with me because he's always had a crush on me &+ i'd be his first ( &+ last - his words not mine ) black girls that he would ever be with. we didn't because i left for the trip but i wouldn't say that i would be completely turned off by the idea. there are quite a few factors that need to be considered. would this be a one time thing or would it continue after the first encounter? would this person develop feelings for me / would i develop feelings for him?
I'd ask, what the hells the big deal about being a virgin? and there's a reason you're a virgin still. I'd never do that. I have a boyfriend who I love who I can make love to anyway ;) hehe
ive been propositioned, but said no. the timing wasn't right :P
@turnyalightsdownlow@xanga - what race was this guy? im curious.
If I was single and if he was attractive, then honestly I probably would be able to do it, lol. It also depends on how good of friends you are. Either you can be so close that its no big deal, or so close that you get your heart involved. It is a VERY fine line.