Saturday, 07 November 2009
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"Princess Girls" and Why They Don't Have Boyfriends
Sure, most little girls like princess stories and pretend to be princesses when they're young. There is nothing wrong or unhealthy about this. But, according to my observations and theory, there comes a time when reality needs to set in. It seems more and more obvious to me the longer I live that lots of girls don't allow this change to happen.
Sure, all of the blame can't be placed on them. Romantic movies of today idolize the princess idea. If that's your taste in movies, that's fine. But the problem comes when these fictional movie story-lines are considered reality. So many girls expect their lives to play out as they do in the movies. I personally don't understand this phenomenon what so ever, but then again I have never been a "Princess Girl". But it should be a considerable consensus that this is not appropriate behavior. Movies are not reality!
I don't really understand why that point has to even be stated at all. Most of these movies have story-lines that consist of stupid girls that go after the jerk while all-along having a good close friend who is always there for them. Yet this good guy is completely ignored and in the end the jerk magically falls for the stupid girl and they live happily ever after, leaving the good guy alone or with some un-known character in the movie. Another popular story-line is the stupid girl dates a really good guy, but she treats him like crap. Sometimes she will then try to go after a jerk. But she soon realizes, for one reason or another, that she has made a mistake and decides to try to go back to the good guy. The good guy, being as sweet as he is, then forgives her and they live happily ever after. Why on earth do we expect him to just forgive her and start dating her again? I'm sorry, I probably wouldn't if I was in his position.
All of these basic story-lines that seem to be very prevalent in movies are so awful in terms of how girls expect guys to treat them. Why on earth should good guys be nice to horrible stupid girls? Yet another popular plot is the persistent stupid girl who tries to make it work with a handsome jerk. What message does that send to young girls? That all handsome guys are jerks and you just have to put up with it if you want one? Since when did this become OK?
The main point I'm trying to get to is that girls in high school and beyond that believe in these FICTIONAL story-lines as being what is supposed to happen in reality and how they should treat guys and vice versa is ludicrous. These "Princess Girls" expect good guys to just fall out of the sky and come to them. They also are normally incredibly sexist. They believe there's only one guy out there for them and all other guys are no good and just want in their pants. They think they know the type of guy they want, thanks to FICTIONAL books and movies, and are simply waiting for them to come running to them. How on earth did this become an expectable trend?
These girls never for a second think that the reason they don't have boyfriends is maybe the fact that they have annoying and horrible personalities and treat guys like crap. No, it's not because you're not a size 2. The reason is because you're incredibly annoying! You think everything is the guy's job and all you have to do is wait around for him. You don't try to improve yourself as a human personality wise what-so-ever, you don't try to make friends with good guys which may someday lead to a romantic relationship, all you do is sit around and complain. WORSE YET, you do EXACTLY what your FICTIONAL girl characters do and go after jerks. If you really want a sweet guy, why are you going after jerks?
Another common trend of "Princess Girls" is that when good sweet guys to approach them in a complimentary and sweet manner, girls get grossed out. I'm not speaking about stalkers. I'm talking about nice sweet guys who say "You look really nice today" or "I like your outfit" or "You're hair looks pretty". "Princess Girls" then say that that's creepy or weird and don't give the guy a chance. Worse yet, they will simply look at that as a reason NOT to be interested in them because obviously all real worthy guys are jerks. I seriously don't understand this logic what-so-ever but I'm not making it up. I watch it happen all the time. I'm not saying you have to be interested in every complimentary guy, but you have to treat him with some decency. Good Lord, if you want compliments and want guys to tell you you're pretty, you have to be able to take them. And how on earth would people respond if they heard a guy reacted the same way to a girl? EVERYONE WOULD BE ALL OVER HIM am I wrong? No. You know I'm right.
Over all, "Princess Girls" have horrible double standards which would be considered intolerable if the genders were switched. This is my theory due to observations. Think what you wish.
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Loved how you called them "Princess Girls." I feel like a good friend of mine is like that... She expects the guy to do everything. *sigh* She also watches a lot of romance movies. I agree, I do think that some girls are unrealistic about their expectations, or completely ignore decent guys.
i don't think i've ever come across this description of a "princess girl". i always thought they were girls that got everything handed to them (cars, bfs, money, etc). the girls i thought were princess types weren't usually mean to guys either. they may have seduced guys or flirted a little to get their way but i don't see the harm in that (seeing as all types of girls do the same). i don't mind the princess types. they are high maintenance but i think culturally, seeing as i'm pretty traditional anyways, it doesn't really bother/phase me.
I don't really see any back ups for your claims. Which "princess" stories or movies are you talking about? I can't think of or remember any, which means they were probably not even significant enough to really influence anybody's relationships.
Bwahaha! High standards are okay, treating men like scum is NOT.
"This is my theory due to observations."
That's your problem; it's merely an observation. Live it, breathe it, and experience it on mulitple ocassions with various shapes, sizes, colors and etc which happen to fall under the so-called type, and then state your theory. I assure you it would, likely, be different then.
I completely agree with this post tbh.
I hate girls like this.
And i think chick flicks are unrealistic and just plain friggin stupid.
Good post x
@arenfro@xanga - high five to that!
I wont lie I LOVE frilly,pink girl romantic things...But I know its simple intertainment...Never took anything to the extreme.
This is the first time I have ever seen someone use "princess girl" to describe something other than a spoiled brat (although that is certainly included in the description). I never watch chic flics or modern sitcoms so some of this information is new to me. I never understood why so many women are drawn to jerks, but I suppose
the movies and TV shows play a significant role in mate selection.
And you're right, a nice guy won't just fall into their lap, the nicer guys are far less aggressive than the jerks when it comes to pursuing the opposite gender. However, there is one point that I disagree on. I DO think that most guys just want to get inside a girls pants. For most guys that is either the primary goal or a significant ancillary goal.
This is why I don't bother with girls and relationships. They expect everything to play out like some crappy click-flick and honestly expect and happily ever after.
Why can't they be as realistic as guys are?
- Kunoichi
@amor_e_alegria@xanga - Everything you listed he should do are all other ways for him to observe and gather more information, allowing him to make his already solid theory even stronger. What he's saying is true, snobs will be snobs.
@Ambrosius_Augustus_Rex@xanga - Yeah, never mind those guys who actually just want friends of the opposite gender, right?
i don't really get this. i don't know any princess girls in my high school. some girls are maintenance but they always know what they want and what they don't. there is nothing wrong with that. and high school girls - at least my friends and the ones i know - are not stupid, naive girls who believe in movies. lots of us are the way we are from personal experience, whether that be our own relationships or family relationships.
this is just generalizing and being stereotypical in my opinion.
was this a girl or guy who wrote this?
yea i always thought princess girls meant the girls who dream of meeting their perfect prince charming so they can live happily ever after.
AMEN to that... so MUCH of what you've described in this post I have been a part of and have first hand experience...
Rofl. Nice guys don't even need to Compliment.
@KrazeeKunoichi009@xanga - LOL guys are NOT realistic!! a lot of guys want pornos to be real. girls want chick flicks to be real. chick flicks are to girls what pornos are to guys. neither have anything to do with reality.
@godofthelost@xanga - Most is not the same as all. I very seldom make semantic slips.
My first - and currently last ex was like that. I was the good guy she had known for so long. We did date. Then, for some reason, dumps me for another asshole whose is gonna be even worse than she is...or me even.
I feel sorry for both of them. I, on the other hand, have moved on...or is trying to, to the best of my efforts...I hate how first relationshps end so badly (we do not ever talk to each other, and she did call me a faggot [slut]).
dude, is that dakota fanning?
i still wanna be a princess when i grow up .. :)
and meet my prince charming and live happily ever after ..I don't believe in fairy tales nor do I believe I am a "princess girl" I work hard for everything I get. =)
... but sometimes, it's nice to dream. You just have to remember to wake up to reality.
what about the girls that claim they know what they want but cant seem to say what it is when asked? the girls that act like a train crashed infront of them when you question what those wants are. Those girls are the ones you gotta watch out for. from my experiences what they really mean is "I like you and all but i really want to be able to flirt and sleep casually with my guy friends" its seeming to me alot of girls from my generation and early 1990's are really running a razors edge to being the death of honest feelings and love itself. it also seems the "Princess Girls" you are writing about are just your typical "Bitches" in layman's terms. nothing new or breaking about that, and you cant deny its true. they want their cake and eat it too. nothing fairy tale about it. your just dealing with a social group of women (And men do this too) who just want what they can get. and dont think about getting attached because then you are the wrong one in their eyes.