Saturday, 07 November 2009

  • Do You Regret It?



    I've heard a lot of women who've I've talked to (and a couple of guys too) that they regret losing their virginity before marriage. It seems like girls who sleep around a lot before marriage regret it much more than guys who do the same thing. I'm thankful I've made it to 25 without sleeping with anybody-and as a black male in this society we're usually expected to have slept around and have had all types of sexual experiences. For example, a few girls that I've told my virginity about didn't believe me-at all. One of them told me they found it hard to believe that I was still a virgin and had no sexual experiences at my age.

    What about you-do you regret losing your virginity before marriage? If not, why?

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  • my_secret_diary_xx@xanga

    i'm waiting till marriage and i don't regret it at all.


    i'm in a relationship, and he's happy to wait too :)


    oh, i'm only 17 though, so still a couple of years.
  • laurenmaureen@xanga

    i lost it when i was 15. it's been roughly 5 months and i have not once regretted it. not once.

    *id like to add that the boyfriend i lost it to and i have since broken up. and i still haven't regretted it.
  • GiantUnicorn@xanga

    I did for a while because I went about doing it the wrong way. For some reason I don't regret it. I waited till I was 19 and now I'm with someone who I love and I love sex, so I don't really regret it.

    If I got an STD than yeah. All those people who say they regret it would still do it again if they had the chance. I believe they just regret who they did it with and wish they weren't whores. That's easy to stop but they don't stop, therefor they don't regret it.
  • KillerKitty78@xanga

    No, I don't. I don't see a point in regretting something like that. I can't go back and change it, and every experience makes you who you are. So I'll focus more on going forward than backwards.
  • KristInRainbows@xanga

    I don't regret it at all. Sex is wonderful and it can make you feel closer to the person you're with. Don't get me wrong, I respect the decision to wait until marriage, but that just wasn't what I chose to do. 
  • jeezshoua@xanga

    I lost it to my ex-husband before we got married, so no, I don't regret it - even if we didn't get married, I wouldn't regret it either.
  • tigerdauphin@xanga

    People are just skeptical with virgins in general, especially over 18, in this day and age, sadly.  It doesn't matter gender, race, social status, or anything.

    Even my friends are surprised when they find out, "since [I'm] 23 and all!"
  • goblinsinthemirror@xanga

    I don't regret it. I kind of wish I had lost it sooner to be honest [I was 19 when I lost it]. of course, I'm not "sleeping around a lot." I only want to have sex with guys that I think are special.

    sex is wonderful.
  • look2ice@xanga

    im 19 years old, married and i lost my virginity at fifteen to a different man. Although, i have said that i dont regret it for many years, a part of me does now. I look at my little family starting and i wish to myself that i could have saved my virginity for the man that i adore. 
  • Gorrific@xanga

    I've only had sex with my fiance, and it's the same for him.  But I don't believe in waiting until marriage or "saving yourself" or whatever.
  • zxzeebrastar@xanga

    I don't regret it. Sex is beautiful & wonderful. 
  • feelslikejuly@xanga

    I don't regret losing it at 18. I do, however, regret losing it to my ex (he always bugged me and wouldn't stop, and at 18 I was still giving in to peer pressure) and not my current S.O.
  • xa06@xanga

    I really let loose when college started and lost it to a guy that two of my good friends from high school introduced me to. Although it was only the third time we actually ever hung out, I don't regret it at all since we've pretty much become best friends now. Funny how that worked out.
  • XoAsianBabioX@xanga

    not yet. let you know if i do. 
  • proudsmartypants@xanga

    I dont plan on losing it for a while...but I've always thought/hoped that when I do lose it, I dont wanna regret it later. So...yeah.
  • ForbiddenIllusion@xanga

    I think that is incredible good for you!! 
  • Inaheartbeatx@xanga

    I don't regret it. 

    There were many times when I almost did lose it, and i think i would have regretted it. I am glad I waited. I am in an amazing relationship. I wouldn't have it any other way.I don't think i ever will regret it either. because i lost it in a time that i truely do love the boy. Even if things end in the future, in this time now, it's what i felt and thats what makes it special.
  • JusticeCho@xanga

    I don't regret losing it before marriage. I kind of regret losing it in general though.
  • MistressAislin@xanga

    I didn't have a choice... mine was stripped from me.


    Then I was told it was my fault, made to feel damned.  I didn't realize I still had some semblance of innocence, even if no physical proof... I thought I was dirty, and stopped caring, and slept with a lot of people.


    I wished I could have given my virginity to someone.  My actual virginity I mean.  It has haunted me.  I have wished even more that someone had told me it wasn't my fault, that I was still good and innocent, then I could have given my first willing time to someone, could have waited for someone really special, until I was married, perhaps.


    But I'm glad I didn't.  I wouldn't have any of my children had that been the case.  They are perfect and wonderful and I wouldn't trade them for anything, even that... 


    Everything happens for a reason. 

  • tata_on_the_roof@xanga

    I think people don't regret losing it before marriage, but the person they lose it to. 
  • kawasaki_saiyan@xanga

    good on you for being a virgin; but be nice and not brag about being a virgin, only tell people if they are curious.  if they are not, keep it to yourself.  at least then you won't offend some of us; some of us may react poorly than others.  as for me, i don't give a sh!t.  heck, i showered in public bathrooms before, and i could careless what other thinks.

    regret?  the word regret isn't even in my dictionary.  instead, i live and i learn.  if it doesn't go well the first time, there's always opportunities the next time.  living a life full of regret is like not living at all.  you're so afraid of making the same mistake or hurting yourself again that you're afraid of opening up again and of being yourself.  and in the end, you're wasting opportunities, you're wasting time, and essentially you're hurting yourself even more.

    but don't take my word for it, find out yourself.

  • MsKittyCatty@xanga

    I regret losing it to someone who isn't my husband. Now, if I had lost it to my now husband before marriage and we got married, I wouldn't regret it I think. But the guy I lost it to was sexually abusive, so yes, definitely a regret. Also, my husband was a virgin before me, and he was 21, and I thought it was fantastic! so good job for you!
  • Tips

    I don't regret losing it before marriage, but sometimes when I think about it, I regret losing it to my ex. Mostly because the next day I found out he was cheating on me. I waited for someone I loved and trusted too. :-/

    My new boyfriend wasn't a virgin when we started dating, but that doesn't bother me. I'm just so happy I can trust this one. Sex is so very meaningful to me. It means so much more with someone I love and trust. =]
  • seabass8321@xanga

    i dont regret losing my virginity to the person i lost it too but im also not to worried about having sex or getting laid anymore i mean yea it would be nice but i dont like it when chix get attached to you and start having feelings and stuff like that i was like that before and now i just wanna hit it and quit it and move on no feelings no emotions involved nothing
    i sound kind of heartless but i never had the chance to play the field either if u get what i mean
  • Bamecus@xanga

    I like the idea of beeing virgin until marriage but I wonder if :


    - It is a real choice ? or is it just social/religious conventions that make ppl think that is the right thing to do.


    - Could it make ppl want to get married faster ? (I''ve been  in a relationship for 3 years and marriage isn't planned anytime soon even if I think she's the One)


    - I notice that ppl who wait for marriage have child rapidly after, is it linked ?


    I lost my virginity very young with a older girl I never slept a second time with and I have no regrets, it stays in my memory like a great moment.

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