As more and more of my friends are fast becoming single again versus pairing up just for the sake of not being lonely, I want to salute them and give them this tribute. It's something I wrote when I was single and I want them to feel just as I did back then.
Single and Fabulous,...Exclamation Point!"So being single for almost a year has liberated me in a way. Yes, it is lonely at times but it also forces me to go out there and experience new things.
In Asian culture, women my age would be married with kids already and yet I'm flitting around with the idea of whether to date this guy or date that guy. I know lots of people will say that at my age, I shouldn't be so picky and just settle down. But I know myself better than anyone and if I were to "just" settle down, I would end up being a status quo of "cheater" and end up on a statistic divorce poll. Not saying that I am unfaithful but rather I am still a romantic at heart and would love to end up with a guy that makes my world spin even when I'm 50.
Don't get me wrong, it is hard being single. I can still hear my biological clock ticking very loudly with the alarm about to sound off. I have 3 baby showers and a wedding coming up and I will have to brace myself for questions about my dating life and then suffer through a slew of pity looks. I'll have to smile and force myself to get up there with all the teenagers trying to catch the bouquet because it's pretty and not because they want to be the next in line to get marry. (By the way, is that a myth? And who the F*ck invented that sh*t up?)
I've seen two sisters around my age fighting for a man's attention and it's on a scale between sad and pathetic. And let me just say, this guy is not even cute. Sure he may be funny and witty at times but definitely not enough to induce such behaviors. No matter what age you're at, you should never fight with a sibling or a friend for a man. But it is ok to fight with a complete stranger for a man you want, just make sure you don't get beat up for it. I on the other hand don't put up much of a fight. I feel that if he likes me enough, he'll be with me no ifs, ands, or buts.
Even for such mishaps every now and then, I've accepted the fact that I'm single and fabulous. I have great friends, a good job and plenty of compliments to keep "Ms. Insecurity" at bay should she venture out of the closet again. If not, there's always Vodka."
Are you single and fabulous?
Comments (31)
I love it!
You go girl! I hate those peer pressure of getting married and having babies. My parents, fortunately, do not chase me on marriage even tho I'm in my late 20's. They chase me to pursue my career, God bless em!
Aromantic in the house. I guess I'll be fabulous for life then. XD
I do believe that anyone can be fabulous though, regardless of relationship status. It's just about time that people recognize we single people aren't sad saps. We're awesome too! :D
I'm single, trying to be fabulous.
i couldn't agree with you more on this post. who cares if everyone else is getting married. as long as you're having fun and living life, what does it matter that you're still single? seriously! i say never settle and always try and find the best of everything. like you mentioned, doing it half ass would put you on some sort of statistic eventually.
I am single and I am absolutely fabulous. Life is good. :)
"It's good to be single but it's even better to be loved."
I think I go through the same feelings/experiences you do since all of my friends are married, in serious relationships, and/or moving up to the next stage of life with kids. I also think you're right about not having to fight your friends/siblings for a guy. Relationships start the best when the feeling is mutual without interference.
I'm not single nor I am fabulous, but I hear you on this one.
I'm pressured by my family a lot to even find a right girl to date. And every time I bring a chick home, they always disagree. So I'm pressured to marry early and to find a girl to date, but they never like it. I'm trapped between the impossible and the impossible, make that impossible^2.
So much pressure, yet I'm only 19. But I admit I put pressure on myself because I don't like to hit and run. What I mean is that I don't like dating here and there, having a bad reputation and being the player of the block. So I try to find someone suitable for me and that I can relate and hopefully go the long way with.
couldnt agree more! Theres something so liberating about being on your own and being single. You find out so much about yourself, that is not to say that being in a relationship sucks, because it doesn't (if with the right person) but embrace the singledom, because it aint gonna last long!
I'm taken and fabulous! :) But I hear ya! No one should settle down just to settle down because the moment you do that - you become the statistic. Marriage is hard and raising a child is even harder. Take your time and who cares what everyone thinks if you're single. During the days when i was single and baby free my relatives used to ask me why I wasn't married with children and I'd say it was because I'm gay.
Yeah I am
Hi five!!!
Go girl! I LOVE THIS POST!
I have been single and fabulous then single and not so fabulous. Now I am back to being single and fabulous again. Being single is a gift. There is so much a single person can do like volunteer,travel,change careers with a problem and just hang out when they want to. Single life can be very enriching if you allow it to be.
Not single but i still am and always will be fabulous hahahaha.
I am still single, proud and feel fantastic and fabulous.
@xXDC_luyouXx - That quote sounds awfully familiar. <3 haha.
Yup, I'm single and fabulous. :)
Single by choice and fabulous because of it.
Single and fabulous. :)
i'm single and i love it! i can flirt with any guys and not have to worry about explaining myself to someone else. i don't have to worry about someone else when i'm making plans and if i want to go some where, i just pick myself up and go.
Love this! Dont give in, you'll find him! Yesss I am single and super ;)
@at_eex3@xanga - Haha. Sorry I forgot to give credit because I forgot your id.
I love this post, and agree wholeheartedly :) Single and fabulous!
@xXDC_luyouXx - Ha, it's seriously okay. i just feel special knowing i was quoted anonymously.
I'm single and somewhat fab. (: