Monday, 02 November 2009
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True Love from a Man's Point of View
Ask me anything... love_star14: "Um, ok, I find myself wondering a lot...do men in general have depth of character? I asked a friend and he laughed, he just laughed.
And one other thing...: What is true love (from the heart *blushes and hides face*) from a male's point of view????"The result if this is going to sound like a poem, so...brace yourself.
Everyone can agree that true love is the closest you can get to floating a few feet above the ground. Once you tell someone that you love them, their eyes glow like a fluorescent bulb containing a waft of the brightest and most luminous flame in our heart. Our heart turns from ice hard to pillow soft. As imperfect as we are, someone willing to love and take us for everything we are just warms us up. And afterward we appreciate that.
When a man is in love, he is pretty much like a scared little child and his teddy bear: not necessarily clingy, but if he ever loses you, then he goes possibly berserk.
Only the person willing to accept that and feel the same can be worth those three fatal words. I say fatal, because you can't ever just say them to anybody. If you say you love someone in love, you better mean it at some point. Otherwise, that love drops and cracks. There goes a small piece of your heart. Those who back away from saying it too either need growing up time, before they can truly understand, or truthfully doesn't feel the same inside.
When it comes down to the kiss, one single kiss is the equivalent of feeling very high, basically. Where our hearts was once small and naive, our heart is now full blown and golden after one heartfelt kiss.
Also, when a man is in love, you are some of his priority. If anyone messes around with you, he messed with the wrong queen, biznitch! This need to keep you happy and protect the thing he loves can be kind of disenchanting for those who rather fight their own battles.
Once the trance of good, true love reaches you, the impact would only leave if your partner has felt it fade. Once it does, its best to set him free as a bird, till he comes back. After all, love makes you do very crazy things. The least you can do is be sure to find a king that is worth all those crazy thing you will wind up doing.
I had so much fun answering the second question that I have to answer whether we have character.
The answer is yes, we do. Some men are wild and some are romantic, but you can't really expect a lot of them to be as old school as women would like us to be so quickly. some women love that vision of settling down with the old school loverboy. So, that takes a little bit of patience to get out of your guys, especially those that are your age.
Then again, if I could be pretty serious about love and romance at the age of around 13, finding at least one that isn't taking love too elementary at your age shouldn't be TOO hard, right? It's best that you take your relationships, or mostly your meeting with the guy easy in the process, just to be sure.
Do you agree with this perspective of a man in love?
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well written, wow. enjoyed reading! this girl agrees with your picture of a man in love. it seems rather accurate...maybe? o_O lol
@broknheartshurt@xanga - I'm a little worried about whether this is just me, though. Haha! Everything about this is how I feel whenever I am in love with someone. Really, the description of how I feel, when I am in love is kind of like those tunes that describe everything about life that words fail at.
By the way, I edited this a little bit for Xanga, and this came from a column on Xanga I'm doing on my blog named Ask Me Anything, where there if you had a question about love and sex that you would like to ask a man, you could ask me...or anyone else.
It's part of me stepping up to being one of the comically few male love and sex bloggers on Xanga.
it was interesting :)
I had a hard time understanding this post...I had to read it a few times to get what the poster was trying to portray. To answer the question, I think it's debatable whether men in general have depth of character. I would say the majority do, but it all depends on the individual. And "true love" in a man's eyes is a broad topic. Again, this has to do with the individual, and how he perceives what love really is. I think these questions should be asked to a particular person, rather than trying to generalize the male species in how we think. Am I wrong?
omg this made me melt lol. I love your view of this. I'm already on a "romantic" high, and this not only added to it, but made me realize a lot about someone I know ^_^
@DeathzDezign@xanga - The poster's a small joke on whether men can have the feeling, in order to describe it. Haha! I describe it with a beam of light, Ron Burgundy describes it with a hit about afternoon orgasms. So, people's description can be different.
@DeathzDezign@xanga - Not at all. It's the same for women.
I know many girls that claim to have fallen in love with someone every few weeks. But once the sex gets mundane... love's gone I guess cuz they're on to the new ones right away!
For others, love is like the OP says: a very uplifting and yet scary thing so we all try to make sure that the guy is worth it before we say the fatal words also.
As one of the females, I know that we tend to say these three words a lot. But when we say it to you in the heart of love, you'll know it.
Pretty accurate. Although it doesn't account for pride, societal standards, and male stupidity that are pushed onto guys heh. While the guy may feel all those things, he won't necessarily be able to show all of them up front in the way a woman may want. But deep down yeah, that's a rather accurate description of how men in love are.
@tigerdauphin@xanga - hmm...I dont think the three words should be considered "fatal". Maybe I take those words too literally, but either way, they should be said with true meaning as the intent. I know there are those who use the phrase far too loosely, but for me it should definitely have the feelings/actions to back it up. People should be able to express love without saying anything at all, or else how can mutes love? It shouldnt have to come down to "fatal" words =P
@DeathzDezign@xanga - once I say those words in the romantic sense, my sense of normalcy and sanity are gone! So I think... they are fatal. =oD
@tigerdauphin@xanga - haha I'm sure it's much different from a female perspective since in most cases they tend to be more emotional than men. So I got chu!
@DeathzDezign@xanga - @DeathzDezign@xanga - The thing I no longer get anymore about the words "I love you" is that, according to a quiz and a survey that was conducted in college, men say it to their women when they mean it, and women just say that to anyone. That goes for calling someone "honey", too. What's up with that?
Oh, someone else who thinks they've mapped the human genome. Do you really think you can just draw a blueprint of the human heart, hand it off to someone, and say "Here, now you have all the answers, you're welcome"?
I just can't stand it when someone sits there and claims to be Dr. Love, trying to tell us that all men undergo the exact same mental processes and harbor the exact same emotional complexes in any given romantic situation. As an example, all men, when in love, are not all like "scared little children." Some are subtle, some are extremely blunt, some are overly aggressive, etc. Going even further, how do you define "being in love?"
I just think that people, in general, try too hard to organize one of the most chaotic forces of the human psyche. And the same principal applies to the minds of women, of course. People deal with different situations in different ways that can't just be thrown into a flowchart and discipled across the internet.
@mynameisblueskye@xanga - I can't stand when ppl call me honey, sweetheart, darling, or any of that BS when they first meet me or do not know me well.
As for the "I love you"s that us females spew out at regular interval... well, we're a much more emotional breed. We feel something, we say it. But it's very obvious it's a platonic ILY not romantic ILY.
Guys can feel a very deep bonding with their male friends too. I'm sure you say it now and then. Us girls, we're not afraid to admit it. Although I do admit some go overboard.
i.e. Halloween night, I'm at my friend's bday party, and I made a joke/rebuff towards a guy that tried to grope me. Some girl said "Honey (grrr) I just love you!" (double grrrr) and then she put her hands on my butt! um wtF!
I have the best guy in the world, we've been together for a year and a half...and he lives with me. In my eyes, I'd swear no guy is like him. He actually has a heart, the guys I've met other than him just want your ass; honestly.
Yeah. I was in love. I thought she was too. And now, we're not together. And my heart still aches.
@tavatava@xanga - DId you notice the elipses? I didn't say they were scared cildren, I said that like one, they sometimes can go nuts or feel nuts, if the right woman or women they think is right leaves their life..
Plus, Datingish does that kind of "mapping out" plenty of times. How come all of a sudden you finally take the time to call a post out?
@mynameisblueskye@xanga - "It's part of me stepping up to being one of the comically few male love and sex bloggers on Xanga."
It's a tough job man....but someone has to do it.
You seem to have hit the nail on the head without being sarcastic about the subject.
"When a man is in love, he is pretty much like a scared little child and
his teddy bear: not necessarily clingy, but if he ever loses you, then
he goes possibly berserk."
agree :)
i think men and women act similarly when they're in love. i know females are more emotional and romantic than the average guy but men can be both as well. i think it's broken down into 3 categories:
(1) the emo romantic - self explanatory.
(2) the avg joe - he may forget special dates at times but he brings you flowers and chocolates on vday and tries his hardest to learn from his mistakes.
(3) the hardass - he may not show extravagant signs of his love for you but he'll fix your stuff when they break, or let you have the last piece of ___, or secretly beat up people you hate.
you get the idea!
Hm, I can only (mostly) agree with being like a scared child and his teddy bear. lol
I would say this is how my boyfriend probably feels because I know he acts tough but would die if he ever lost me haha. aww I liked this post.
@tavatava@xanga - Calm down! I'm pretty sure he asks us if we agree with this "perspective" of a man in love. This is just how he feels.
@laytexduckie@xanga - Amen, man. 3 years later, I'll still remember her from time to time.
"After all, love makes you do very crazy things" ...truer words have never been spoken ;)
Well done, Blueskye :)