If you want, you can always do what I do. Take it as a lesson or a misfortune, and move on. Sparks disappear all the time.

And if you want to get the hurt off your mind, do whatever you always wanted to do. Anything to keep you busy, and his hurt from really getting to you. When I had a bad breakup with someone, to cover it up, I just focused on college, and also took up teaching myself how to play the guitar and write songs. Just understand that the breakup is going to last as long as you have been out with the guy. Maybe longer. It all depends how deep in love you really are with him. Heck, after that breakup, as much as I promised, I still can't help but occasionally think about my first love.

If you see yourself marrying him, then the breakup is likely big. But all you can do is just move on and try not to let the breakup eat you up, and also, try ot to let it turn you off to love. Many people will sit down and let the hurt take you over for a while. But how long are you going to do that, till you realize that sometimes the hurt is not going to bring him back to you?

So, all you can really do is resume with your life and move on. If he wants you back, and you want him back, you both know where each other will be. Otherwise, being friends never hurt anyone. Right?

Plus: listening to sad songs is just putting salt on your wounds. Trust me. You don't need that.

forcing yourself with someone else will temporary help but in the end you'll just go back to square one. don't force yourself to do anything.  don't try too hard to find answers (nobody can tell you how to mend your heart except your heart and it will mend when it is ready),   don't think too much. 

thus my advice, do whatever you have to do to get past 'how you feel' - heartbroken, lost, insanely confused and frustrated - but do one thing for both yours and his sake, leave him alone.  If he loves you, he'll reach for you.  If he really loves you and wants to be with you, he'll do whatever it takes to be with you. 

breakups suck. i guess you're going through the grunt part of it now but trust me, as time passes you will feel better. you have to stop torturing yourself over it though and get your life back in order. no one finds that attractive (esp your ex if he's keeping track, which i'm kind of sure he is - making sure you're okay, if nothing else). you have to start going to classes, study, just do your daily and things will just start getting better (no better explanation). go out, enjoy yourself. let go and move on. i don't believe all breakups are final but if you keep at it the way you have, it'll most likely be that: final. if you make the effort to move on and enjoy yourself, you might see him come back. absence makes the heart grow fonder...

Dunno, I've been in that consistent pain for the past year +, granted I was in my relationship for 5 years and we lived together for nearly 2 years.  Most people's advice to me was to do a few things.  Try to move on, find someone new (you've only been broken up less than a week so I don't think that one will help yet).  Try to focus on yourself.  Find things to make you happy, a new hobby, a new goal.  Exercise creates endorphins which make you happy, so constant exercise helps.  Actually the few times I get it out of my mind is when I'm exercising non stop.  Ummm some say focus on the bad and make yourself angry over what went wrong...but I think that one is worthless.  Time will heal, you're lucky that you have some sort of work to delve into.  When I broke up I had no work, no school, no friends I could even talk to about it so I was stuck with just dealing alone...which ended up messing me up and making me crazy for a long time heh.

The first few weeks are gonna suck no matter what. But this is my advice to you (as I am still recovering from a breakup...and my situation sounded a lot like yours):

I've never been able to get over a break up. Ever. All I've done is as soon as I find someone decent I get in another relationship. I've only been in 4 relationships, the first one was 4 years and 9 days after that one ended I was in a 1.5 year long relationship and from that one I went into an engagement to almost married to in my current relationship thats been over a year. My only way I know how to "get over" someone is to find someone else before my ex does. But when the relationship your currently in gets stale or breaks up it leaves you with feeling the pain of all the break ups before.

I have no idea...I'm going to be trying this single thing soon because the relationship I'm in is about to corrupt because of my attachment to the past. I'm in for a lot of pain because I need to get over my past loves to find a true love.

I'm going through the same thing...we broke up about three weeks ago, but we're still hanging out. I don't really know if it's helping me or making it worse.

I know that I have to cut him off and move on. It will be better for the both of us.

There's a book out there called, "It's Called a Breakup Because it's Broken," and it's the best breakup book ever written, I swear. It's funny, honest, and it really, really helps.

Good luck, hun.

I'm in the same boat as you are right now. She fell out of love. I still have that love for her. I don't know where to place it. I've been through worse so it's not like this is the big one. But my love is just about the same as the long one and right now, I'm frustrated and don't know what to do. I can only do so much homework, and most of my friends live about an hour away from me. We still hang out (we just had dinner last night), but I still long to hold her hand and kiss her.

Wallowing has never done anything good. If you acknowledge the feelings you have, you should be able to deal with them. You can never let anyone go if you don't let them go. I've seen this happen far too often. People fall into this habit of "woe is me! woe is me!"

It's ok to feel hurt, but don't let it stop your life. If anything, try to find something constructive/artsy to concentrate the feelings onto.

Seriously repeatedly thinking about it, writing about it and telling it to people will only make you more depressed. If humans couldn't feel emotions then we wouldn't be very human, to embrace the good ones and burden the bad ones we some how are able to go on with life and accept the flaws/beauty of humanity. But like what everyone had already said, there is no way to make the pain magically go away, even though you find your actions pointless. You know all this crying and deterioration of your lifestyle won't bring your boyfriend back, but you can't help the way you feel, it just happens. 

I'm sorry. I've been there.

You can't force yourself to move on. I think for a while you'll just be waiting, consciously or not. Eventually you get tired of crying.

For me, I was seventeen, a mature seventeen. He was my bestfriend. We weren't dating, just lots of flirting. Then along comes this girl, also seventeen, but everything I'm not: tall, really thin, blonde, extremely talented in those not so useful ways. It's like I never even existed. I had to wait a few years to be over it. Now I see that he isn't, and he'll never be the man I thought he was, and I'm glad that nothing ever came of us. But I miss his friendship like I've never missed anything else.

All I can tell you is to just wait. Wait and watch. He might come back. He'll probably make a whole bunch of stupid decisions that will hurt you terribly, just because you love him. But eventually, he might turn into someone you can't see yourself with. It isn't easy. And there's going to be a lot more tears. Two years from now, you could very well be happy about this.

Just try to keep your mind off of it. Don't stay at home and mope. Go out, do something with your friends.