Monday, 02 November 2009
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Is Facebook the Ultimate Dating Site?
So you meet a guy/girl say at a party or in the library or whatever. You are instantly attracted to them. Maybe you introduce yourself, or say something about how you like what they are wearing or comment on how much you love the book they are reading. The conversation is short and you both go back to doing other things. However, later that night you find yourself still thinking about that person and how you should have said more to them and maybe even gotten a number or something. What if you missed a great opportunity? Suddenly an idea pops into your head- you'll find them on Facebook!
So you Facebook friend them. If they are interested, they will probably send you some sort of message and from there, in a much less intimidating setting you can ask them for their number or make plans to hang out. Ta-da! Facebook has saved the day!
Another great thing about Facebook when it comes to dating is that you get a quick preview into the other persons life to help you decide if this is someone you could or could not be in a relationship with. Facebook is like match.com to the extreme because everyone is on it!
Do you think Facebook is beneficial or harmful when it comes to dating? Why or why not?
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This is totally irrelevant, but I find the photo to be a bit silly. Who wears sunglasses indoors, while looking at the computer in the dark?
Im sooooo sick of posts about facebook, is that the only thing yall can post about now and days like really....NEXT SUBJECT PLZ
You could use Facebook to see if someone is in a relationship or not, which will help alter your perspective of whether or not you should think of them as dating potential. Unless you meet someone whose relationship status is unlisted, then that produces a whole host of questions...what's their deal? Are they in a "secret relationship"? Do they just not want the whole world to know they're single? I'm one to talk though, since my status is unlisted
facebook does not equal dating site. but i've currently used it to ward off guys who may be interested in me by posting that i'm in a relationship. i am, but i never really took the time out to post it up. it was always unlisted.
the aviator sunglasses dude is a facebook stalker, who is very paranoid that dateline nbc will catch him
I mainly use facebook to stalk celebrities j/k I haven't dated anyone on facebook but if they have a good facebook reputation without pics of themselves looking like jackasses, then they are okay to date.
My husband asked me out through an e-mail on facebook, we've been married almost 8 months...we met at church, I found him on facebook my dad and a preacher friend got us together :) facebook did make it less awkward for my husband to ask me out
I think it's beneficial. When you "friend" the person, you can look at their interests, read what's on their wall (I mean, seriously, who doesn't decide to be nosy/stalkerish and read the posts on someone's wall?), see their relationship status (which is obviously important if you're interested in them), and see the pictures they have/are tagged in. If you want to know everything about a person, Facebook will definitely help you with that. It's kind of creepy, but at least you get all the information you need, right? Haha.
@XoAsianBabioX@xanga - Mine says married for the same reason (to ward off annoying people trying to ask me out)...but I don't even have a girlfriend right now heh.
And with that, I move on to the main topic. If a girl found me on facebook after having just randomly barely met once with the hope of going out with me, I would be scared. I used to call facebook, stalkerbook which it has toned down a lot in the past couple years it used to be ridiculous. Also Facebook isn't a very good factual depiction of someone's life. People tend to put up tons of party pics, or fun stuff pics that make them look like they have a lot more fun than they probably do in real life. Mine for the sake of being different is the exact opposite of that. I hardly put up any pics, have my status as married, and try to keep it as non current as possible because I don't really want people to know what's going on in my life on there.
Soooo no I don't think facebook is ideal for dating heh.
I find Facebook to be super helpful. If I'm interested in someone, I stalk their profile, look at their relationship status (for me it's unlisted because I'm too embarrassed to admit that I'm single), briefly scroll through their pictures, and just make sure that they're okay by my standards.
Edit: Which is hypocritical because I keep my own facebook profile as much on the down-low as possible, with pretty much no personal info on it, so anyone who stalked it would find it pretty unhelpful.
I wouldn't know. I don't use my Facebook as a dating site. I mean I would if I could. But I don't meet new people at all anymore etc etc.
The only thing I use it for is just to keep in touch. And it's good with that I guess.
Facebook makes it easier to find people, and there are things about it that make it both good and bad for dating.
Good things include being able to check the age, basic information, backgrounds, social circles, and relationship status of anyone you friend if they provide it, making it really easy to "get to know" someone without actually getting the information out of them. It's also really easy to reach people over Facebook because of the listing of contact information and Facebook IM.
Bad things include the lack of privacy that makes it hard to hide anything about your social circle and acquaintances, the way people learn so much so quickly so impersonally over the internet, and the omnipresent the awkward fear of getting stalked that comes with having your name listed anywhere on the internet.
The lack of privacy makes it harder to hide things like relationship status and what not, but the other information about music, film, and book preferences and interests/activities that Facebook provides isn't really anything that one can't learn over the course of a coffee date or two...
Judgment: If you are comfortable with being very connected and transparent with whoever you add in hopes of dating, go for it!
Facebook has its uses in these situations. Harmful or not really depends on the person. :O
lol it truly is the internet age. i commented on a previous post similar to this: i don't understand online dating. i enjoy the old fashion route - go out, meet ppl. if you click, ask for the number. i find, looking for the person on facebook, a little stalker-ish. LOL but thats just me.
makes it easier to find people, but I don't think it is a dating site. when I think of dating sites, I think of I'm looking for x,y, and z, totally different fronts.
If it wasnt for facebook I wud of never my babyy =))
@lot223@xanga - I agree, I wouldn't find a person on facebook that I had just met and had a tiny conversation with, even if they were hot. It's a bit stalkerish, unless you actually talk to the person continually for a while and get to know them. Then I'll be "friends" with them, haha.
Facebook does allow it to be easier to find the person and learn a bit more about them, it doesn't hurt.
It makes it easier to connect with people who can't text.. :PÂ
Well i had never tried it in that manner. But the best source i ever got is Modern Man. This website provides a great advice to me, and helped me a lot to have a great dating..
Modern Man
depends on how you use it... stalking is uncool, facebook stalking is even more uncool...
I have found it very useful. I talk to family and friends for one. I also look at events my friends are planning.
For dating purposes I look for new people as well as women I know in person, offline already. Then again I would not use facebook if I had a girlfriend, because I'd be with her most of the time.I think using facebook to keep tabs on a girl or guy is distrusting.If you cannot trust the person, why be friends or more?Overall I think it's beneficial.I've met some really nice people.It's a great way to find out if you like their lifestyle, friends and hobbies.It can be both.
FB is helpful and has loads of info. hmm...some times a little too much if you ask me. =P
It is...considering I met my boyfriend of 20 months on facebook and a few of my friends' relationships blossomed because of it. =)
no idea, but i'm bloody well addicted to it :|
I only add people I know. Because if I don't know you...I don't really wanna try to talk to you.