Saturday, 31 October 2009
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Are You a Porno Kisser?
I used to argue with friends that there was no such thing as a bad kisser, just bad kisses. I believed that each person had their own style, which was predetermined by exposure to kissing (nurture) and physiological things like the size of their lips, teeth, and tongue (nature). The most enjoyable kisses I have had were with people whose nature and nurture agreed with mine.
There is the church kisser who uses just a little bit of tongue and aims for moderation. The porno kisser who might try to clean your molars or perform fellatio on your uvula. The pecker who doesn't use tongue, ever. The racer who moves their tongue around as quickly as possible. The whaler who opens their mouth really wide. And the list goes on...
My contention was that the least enjoyable kisses were usually with people whose styles did not match our own. Sure, there are universal things that make a kiss less enjoyable, such as bumping teeth, bad breath, or turning your head the wrong way, but those things can be forgiven. Especially if they are not habitual, they are rarely insurmountable problems. For the most part, though, the worst kisses occur when you combine incompatible styles, like the pecker and the whaler.
Recently I have had a run of bad luck, meeting several people who are simply not compatible, and I have started to wonder if some people are just bad kissers - if my theory about incompatibility is just plain wrong.
What makes a person a bad kisser? Are bad kissers teachable (or just dumpable)?
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they are teachable it takes time
@mindyeat@xanga - seriously.
you can kind of influence how they kiss with time. i know you're not supposed to change other people, just saying, it can be done (:my SO was a church kisser, but he's learned to open up (haha) abit. now we have sexy, passionate kisses - but thank God no porno kisses, whaler kisses, or racer kisses. those are nasty.
They're teachable if they're willing to learn/change. Unfortunately, some aren't willing. It's not a deal breaker for me, though.
I hope they're teachable! Boyfriend and I are probably terrible kissers, but it works since neither of us have anything to compare it to. So we just try to figure out what works for us, haha.
i think you're totally on point! if people's kissing styles agree with one another, the kiss will thus be enjoyable. who's to say, then, that the person you're emotionally compatible with will kiss the way you do or are used to? from my experience, even though a first kiss might not be enjoyable, people's styles conform to each other over time.
moisture control is pretty important in a kiss. >___< don't want a slobbery kiss. blegh.
well according to this i may be more of a "church kisser" and my boyfriend would be a "porno kisser" and out of everyone i have ever kissed i believe his kisses are the best, so i don't necessarily agree with this.
I'm definitely a church kisser :)
@Rhapsodical_Hazie@xanga - LOL. Totally depends... I've drooled on my boyfriend before - by accident of course. But we're so comfortable with each other nothing really grosses us out anymore - or I should say him really. We both just laughed about it... I was sick. He's also done the snotty gross, after-crying kisses, which I think is off but he had no problem telling me I was still sexy while I was sniffling.
People can learn. Even the experts were a novice at some point.
lol. the names you give these kissers are so funny.
but yes, you can always teach them.
They'll get better in time.
i think it takes time to sync :)
I'm a church kisser and I like my church kissin' Porno kisses are too in intrusive. I don't know what these other kisses are.
@lifes_brootal_babeee@xanga - its not a big deal your not changing who they are haha just how they kiss haha, kissing leads to foreplay, which leads to sex, which leads to WIN haha
@mindyeat@xanga - haha, I like your logic =P
You can teach a bad kisser how to kiss. Just take charge and show them how it's done.
@mindyeat@xanga - Oh yeah! Spot on. ;D
I hate tongue.
Ahaha. I need kissing lessons.
Not that I'm bad, I've just never done it.
I'd say a good kisser is someone who can be any of those styles you mentioned, but learns and figures out what their partner likes. A bad kisser is someone who never learns and just continues to kiss the same way every time. The bad kisser might get lucky and be with someone who likes their style, then later will get confused when they're with someone who absolutely hates their style later. Usually with the reaction "Well my ex loved the way I kissed" or something similar to that kind of mentality.
It's definitely a nurture thing, although Nature (big lips, nice tongue etc) can truly help some people.
my ex was porno kisser. yuck
I kinda just move my tongue a little bit and stuff when I'm kissing. Then move to pecking a little bit. I don't really do much. haha. I need more technique <_<