Friday, 30 October 2009
Guys make great friends. If you know a really great guy, make him your friend. I have this guy friend and I love him to pieces literally, he is a GREAT GUY. You know what else great guys make? Great boyfriends. I am surrounded by great guys at my school. My boyfriend is an absolute sweetheart, I love him but I have my guy friends who I love too. Most ladies have this kinda status, many many guy friends while having a steady relationship with an actual boyfriend. Many ladies... well at least if their boyfriends are anything like mine have a constant fear around their guy friends whenever he is around.
I'm not a slut but I hang out with many guys, I find them sometimes more relateable than my girl friends but my boyfriend is so uptight whenever I am with them. There is this one guy I consider my best guy friend... let's call him Rocker Dude (lame but bear with me). Me and him go way back and truly I do love him, we share common interests, like the same type of music... we are really close. We'd been close for way longer than I have known my current boyfriend. Now, Boyfriend and Rocker are friends but since we started dating, he and Rocker aren't that close anymore. He told Rocker to stay the hell away from me! Can you believe that? I didn't take that lying down, I haven't changed a thing about mine and Rocker's relationship, why? Because I LOVE HIM AND HE IS MY FRIEND. He actually took Boyfriend's threat for a while but we are cool now but I'm not sure the same can be said for Boyfriend.
The rumor mill says that he still gets mad when I talk to Rocker and as the good girlfriend I am I asked him if he was okay with it. He said he was.
He might not be deep down but he can't expect me to throw away that kind of a relationship, there is no way I am going to. I don't mean any disrespect or tartness by it, I love him but my boyfriend can't be the only prominent figure in my social life. If this 'being mad' pushes him to the point of breaking up with me, well I will be sad, I might cry... maybe even put on ten pounds but I will still have Rocker and the rest of my friends. I would make every compromise to keep the two guys the way I like em'.
Tell me, do you dump your guy friend for your boyfriend's sake or do you tell boyfriend to get an effing grip?