Friday, 30 October 2009
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Meeting the Parents
My boyfriend and I have been in a long distance relationship for 2 years. We met online and he comes to visit about once a month. He recently got a job in the state I live in. Tomorrow his parents will be helping him move out here. He said he wants them to meet me (and after this long I want to too!).
The only thing is I have some health issues going on right now. I've been dealing with dizziness for years and lately it's been at it's worst. A few days ago I was diagnosed with something called postural orthostatic tachycardia syndrome. Basically if I'm standing or sitting up too long, my blood pressure drops, my heart rate shoots up, and I get very dizzy and feel like I'm going to faint. His parents suggested going out for dinner but right now, I honestly don't know if my body can even handle that. So my mom suggested that they all come here. My parents would've been going along to meet his parents anyway, that was already part of the plan. So it wouldn't be awkward if it came to staying here. She offered to make a meal, or just have coffee and such with them. Whichever they would rather do.
I'm just worried this is a lame idea and I have no idea what his parents will think of me if I can't even go out to eat with them when their son is moving all the way out here for me and our relationship. I guess I could always just go no matter how I feel and hope nothing bad happens, I really don't know what to do. What is your opinion?
How did you meet your boyfriend or girlfriend's parents?
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Maybe your boyfriend can explain the deal to his parents? Seriously, you're not copping out, here. If going out would make you pass out, then it's reasonable to explain to them what the deal is. Especially if you're afraid that they'll judge you otherwise.
Communication is key in any relationship, whether romantic or not. Just let them know what's up, you know?
-Katie
It's quite understandable with your health issues. I think it sounds like a nice idea to invite them over to yours instead. See what your boyfriend thinks of it too.
Your situation is very similar to that of mine. I met my husband online and we were involved in a long distance relationship for about 3 years before we got married. At first my parents disapproved of our relationship because he was Cambodian and I was Vietnamese. They always wanted me to marry someone within my race but I was just never interested. When he moved to be with me, I was 3 1/2 months pregnant, he really grew on my parents and now they love him! And I absolutely adore his mom. She's a single mother or 2 and she's been on her own for over 13 years now. She's such an inspiration. I'm sure that his parents will be very understanding of your health problems. You can't help the way you feel and I'm sure that his parents will only want what's best for you. Don't stress out about it, you'll only feel worse. Good Luck!
I walked into their house and my boyfriend introduced me. It was no big deal. He met my parents the day after he & I met. I'm surprised he stuck around haha ;)
i'm sure they'll understand that you have a condition that doesn't really let you go out much!
I really dont think his parents will have a problem with u not being able to go out for dinn. when they get there, U ask anyone and they will tell u that your health comes first and whatever makes u feel better i think u should do it. I have no doubt in my mind that his parents are going to disapprove of you because of your condition. Also like someone said above communication is key no matter if its a relationship or just being friends....COMMINUCATE with your boyfriend and let him know the deal and u or him can talk to his parents and i bet u they will say "thats fine" I think they are more focused on who there son is going to be with for long term and the type of person you are and the enviroment he will be in as well....ugh parents lol.
But anyways i hope the meeting goes well and goodluck, i really think u should keep us updated about how it went as well im sure we all (speaking for myself mostly) would love to hear what happen. take care and take it easy. =)
My husband met my parents before he met me. I first spotted him when I saw my mom holding onto his arm and leading him across the auditorium to meet me. (I love my mom...!)
:) I think dinner at your parent's house sounds great....it'll be more comfortable and laid back. And probably more relaxing for you since it's a familiar environment. Good luck!!!
I think it's an excellent idea. They will understand your reasoning behind it considering your current health issues. - There is no need to put yourself at risk for the sake of pleasing his parents.
it's a much better risk than going out to dinner and passing out in front of everyone, no? he sounds wonderful, and i'm sure that he will be understanding enough for his parents as well. They might think you foolish if you merely tried to play it off that you were fine and then ended up floored for several hours or days, wouldn't they? It's always better to be safe with one's health.
I think it would be an excellent idea. Talk to your boyfriend about it. Have your boyfriend let them know about your condition.
Meeting his parents at your place is a good idea too. Both of your families can mingle with each other. I don't think his parents would make a big deal about you not being able to dine with them. Just have your bf or yourself explain to them about your health condition. I'm sure they would understand.
@jeezshoua@xanga - agreed completely.
i'm sure they'll understand, how could they not? anyways, i think a meeting with "the families" at your place is more intimate. it'll also be a lot more comfortable for both parties because it's less noisy, no one worries about taking care of the bill, and no one feels rushed to leave.
His parents should be reasonable and understand your condition. It's not like you didn't want to have dinner with them.
You should go, your condition doesn't sound too terrible, just don't sit or stand around too long, take a washroom break or something lol. Seems like to me you're getting nervous about the whole idea and just trying to dig yourself out of the meet-up. You should just relax. If that's not the case though, have him and his family over to your place. Health is important. For the majority of people, It's usually the dinner meeting with parents.
I think you should have him tell his parents so that you're not embarassed, and they definitely should understand, as lots have already suggested. And the dinner at your house doesn't sound lame at all, I think it's a great idea so that you'll be more comfortable.
That sounds like a very nice idea! If they are reasonable people at all, they will completely understand.
I met my boyfriends' parents when he told them that he was getting married. Of course they wanted to meet this mystery child, so they threw a barbeque and invited the 'whole family'. Yeah, it was pretty much just us.
i think you need to explain your situation to them and they will understand.
Met my boyfriend's mom weekend of Scranton St. Patrick's Parade. So needless to say we met her for about an hour Friday night and picked me up on Mulberry Street Saturday at 3 when my boyfriend and I were plastered haha...very entertaining..
@nancynn89 - I'm Cambodian and my grandparents are like your parents...and I don't understand why. I mean, whatever transgressions there were can't we forgive and let things go?
I think you reason is very vaild and its cheaper if they just come to ur house.
Shoulders back, smile on my face and alot of blushing.."ay que linda..you're so tall.." expect the family questions..work questions..and did i mention blushing? you'll be fine :)
I think the first time I met them was when I came over to his house, the same for him. I actually vaguely remember him meeting my parents more than I remember meeting his.