Wednesday, 28 October 2009
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Asian Men = Cheaters?
So, for those of you who know about my crazy shenanigans with Japanese dudes already know the deal with me. Ok, so apparently it's not just me having trust and cheating issues with Japanese guys. A friend I know in the JET program is married to a Japanese man. She told me he cheated like effin' crazy on his ex gf before he married my friend so now she's flipping out and checking up on him like a dog. I feel so sorry for her, she seems like a really nice lady. Another friend of mine dated a Vietnamese man who cheated on his ex gf with my friend and decided he wanted to have his cake and eat it to, meaning he went back to his ex gf afterward and she accepted him with open arms but claims he's still in love with my friend. But that story gets long and confusing....bottom line, the dude cheated. A girl I met not too long ago is dating a Japanese man who constantly threatens to break up with her whenever he doesn't get his way. That situation....I'm not going to even go there. They're both touched. Another friend of mine was cheated on by her Chinese bf by her supposedly "friend." Of course that's another story within itself.
I know what you're thinking, ok, my black friend, or my white friend or Hispanic friend cheated on so-and-so. Yes. People are people. Cheaters, idiots, and whores know no skin-tone, race, ethnicity, or size.
The point here is that I've noticed a trend with a lot of Asian men cheating on their gfs. I know this sounds racist, but I've seen and have experienced some valid points to confirm this theory, which is why I'm writing this! Those of you who ARE Asian or are like me that are Asian Studies majors or just so happen to be interested in Asian cultures know exactly what I'm talking about with this. As well as other points such as Asian beat-around-the-bush methods, tatemae (Japanese), and basically just making simple situations complicated for no reason.....method.
I think it's because they have such a low self-esteem that they feel the need to cheat with other women. Also, for Japanese men---I think it's hereditary for them to cheat! REALLY! I've even brought this up to my Japanese guy friends. And no not all of them are hosts, but college students, teachers, computer engineers, businessmen, etc. and THEY'VE EVEN AGREED THAT THE CHEATING PERCENTAGE IN JAPAN IS HIGH!!
Which is one of many reasons why Cabaret Clubs exists..? Even if a man goes to a hostess club that's still considered cheating in my book. If you're rubbing all up on some other woman that's not your gf or wife....it's cheating. Am I wrong?
Japanese men and Asian men in general don't seem to care about the other person's feelings. That's one thing I cannot do is leave a chapter open with someone and move on to the next. If I start developing feelings for someone I'm going to tell the other person I'm with, end it properly, and move on to the next.
Another thing is Japanese & Asian men are WEAK! They can't handle a woman who speaks her mind! They want someone who goes along with their BS with no complaints or questions asked. I'm sure as hell am not even close to being a ghetto black chick....but I will bring that out of me if need be. I will "take option # 2" as my friend would say. Seriously though, I have yet to meet an Asian man who can meet my standards. I'm not a hard woman to please and I don't make unreasonable requests. I'm a woman of logic and reasoning. And the shit I've been through...oh my goodness! If you only knew! My entries don't even portray half of the crazy shenanigans these dudes say to me whenever I call them out! Wow. I'm getting fired up right now. Moving along....
I know Japanese & other Asian cultures are different from American culture. But my goodness, common sense is universal. Oh my...if you guys only knew. Anyway, getting off task again. I know it seems as if I'm being bitter from my past relationships. But no! That's not it at all..ok a little bit. But no, other people that I'm acquainted with have been going through the SAME THING or worse with these dudes. Yes, there are all different types of people in different cultures, race,etc. but I've yet to meet a pure bred Japanese man to smash my theory of them being weak and cheaters.
Yes, it's harsh and I know I'll get comments from people saying "Well what if I say all black girls are loud, ghetto, and ugly!" Be my guest because that just shows you didn't read this post correctly and you fail at reading & comprehension. For future references, because I know I'm gonna get these as well....YES I'VE DATED OTHER THAN JAPANESE & ASIAN MEN.
So, my question is do you think it's true that Asian men are more prone to cheat? Do you think Asian men are more attracted to women who do not voice their opinions?
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I'm just gonna get this in before the shit goes down: MY UGLY JEWISH FRIEND CHEATED ON HIS HOTASS, BIG BOOBED, GORGEOUS BEAUTIFUL TAIWANESE GIRLFRIEND. You don't get more idiotic than that. Also none o' my asian boyfriends have cheated on me. 1st was a Singaporean kid, 2nd was a Korean guy.
Okay I'm gonna read your entry now lolloololol
I think it's because they have such a low self-esteem that they feel the need to cheat with other women. Also, for Japanese men---I think it's hereditary for them to cheat! REALLY! I've even brought this up to my Japanese guy friends. And no not all of them are hosts, but college students, teachers, computer engineers, businessmen, etc. and THEY'VE EVEN AGREED THAT THE CHEATING PERCENTAGE IN JAPAN IS HIGH!! Cheating isn't hereditary. Unless you wanna find me some genetic shit that says "oh yeah this race and such is prone to cheating because of x gene." Also, just because you asked your friends and the cheating percentage is high (oh yeah, you have statistics? confirmed, reliable statistics? LOLOLOL) doesn't mean it's true.
Which is one of many reasons why Cabaret Clubs exists..? Even if a man goes to a hostess club that's still considered cheating in my book. If you're rubbing all up on some other woman that's not your gf or wife....it's cheating. Am I wrong?
Japanese men and Asian men in general don't seem to care about the other person's feelings. That's one thing I cannot do is leave a chapter open with someone and move on to the next. If I start developing feelings for someone I'm going to tell the other person I'm with, end it properly, and move on to the next. Oh really? Have you studied ALL HABITS and all personal issues with ALL ASIAN men? they make up about a third of the world and i think the population of the earth is like 6.8billion, so a third is a shitload. don't forget to study all the babies that are being popped out too.
Another thing is Japanese & Asian men are WEAK! They can't handle a woman who speaks her mind! They want someone who goes along with their BS with no complaints or questions asked. I'm sure as hell am not even close to being a ghetto black chick....but I will bring that out of me if need be. I will "take option # 2" as my friend would say. Seriously though, I have yet to meet an Asian man who can meet my standards. I'm not a hard woman to please and I don't make unreasonable requests. I'm a woman of logic and reasoning. And the shit I've been through...oh my goodness! If you only knew! My entries don't even portray half of the crazy shenanigans these dudes say to me whenever I call them out! Wow. I'm getting fired up right now. Moving along.... Asian men are weak? They can't handle a woman who spaeks their mind? Excuse me, aer you kidding me? Korean women are the fucking batshit insane hotties of the Asian hemisphere. Just because you don't speak your mind and expect your bf to read your mind when you reply to a "how are you, bby?" as a "FINE" even tho you're "dying on the inside" or some idiotic shit, means they are weak? I think Asian women are fucking kickass. They could beat the shit out of their husbands anyway. why do you think asian people are so loud in restaurants and headstrong? hahah "i have yet to meet an asian guy who meets my standards" i bet you're a chick who watches romantic comedies and expects ALL GUYS TO ACTL IKE THAT. welcome to the real world hon, i can't even believe datingish featured this entry. they msut not have read it thoroughly.
I know Japanese & other Asian cultures are different from American culture. But my goodness, common sense is universal. Oh my...if you guys only knew. Anyway, getting off task again. I know it seems as if I'm being bitter from my past relationships. But no! That's not it at all..ok a little bit. But no, other people that I'm acquainted with have been going through the SAME THING or worse with these dudes. Yes, there are all different types of people in different cultures, race,etc. but I've yet to meet a pure bred Japanese man to smash my theory of them being weak and cheaters. What okay you are a really disorganized writer. Yes asian cutlures are different from american cultures.... duh...what does that have to do with cheating? Yeah, you're a bitter bitch, that's why you're writing al this crap. The other people you know does not make up the entre population of Asians on this planet. Pure breed.. Damn you sound like Draco Malfoy there.
Yes, it's harsh and I know I'll get comments from people saying "Well what if I say all black girls are loud, ghetto, and ugly!" Be my guest because that just shows you didn't read this post correctly and you fail at reading & comprehension. For future references, because I know I'm gonna get these as well....YES I'VE DATED OTHER THAN JAPANESE & ASIAN MEN. Oh I read this post really thoroghly. Someone's defensive. :x Also, jsut because you've dated 3-5 japanese guys doesn't mean you get to base the entirety of what, 1.4 billion asian guys on the planet according to your standards. Right, you also forgot that Cambodian, Thai, Indonesia, Singaporean, Chinese, Korean, Mongolian, Taiwanese, Malaysian, and Vietnamese people exist. It's not just them Japanese kids.
So, my question is do you think it's true that Asian men are more prone to cheat? Do you think Asian men are more attracted to women who do not voice their opinions? No, and you are a bitter, bitchy idiot who just got owned.
Just because you've had a bad experience with Asian guys, doesn't mean they all our cheaters. And what you're saying is like saying "All black girls are X" and "All white guys are Y". Even if you have so much "proof" it's all testimonial. Even if Japanese guys are agreeing that they cheat, so what? The ten or fifteen guys you might have spoken to do not represent everyone.
i can't wait to see you attempt to dig yourself out of this hole and pretend you aren't incredibly ignorant. i don't know what poor excuse of an asian studies class you're taking, but i'd really like to see you prove this one. empirically, not with your stupid heuristics. asian men are weak, eh? maybe they were just tired of getting shit from a racist bitch like you.
yea...I'm asian, and I've had my asian g/f's cheat on me lol. hell some statistics say women have cheated more on men than vice a versa. all about the person.
*edit funny...you're getting more than "flamed" for this post, you're not even getting the privilege of that, you're being ridiculed.
lol. are you serious? haha. wow. you're hilarious. really.
this is offensive as fuck. what the hell do you even expect to accomplish by posting something like this online? this isn't food for thought, this is just a spark to incite further stupidity. you're a goddamn idiot and the sooner you realize how much of a mistake your initial conception was.
you would never see a post like this about white guys, no, that'd be just wrong. you'd never see a post like this about black guys either... hell no, that's just racist. but asian people? that's just the middle ground isn't it? i don't know what kind of life you lead in which the very best that your brain can offer is this bullshit.
F.U.C.K. Y.O.U.
my brother has never cheated, nor has my guy friends.
and in regards to your comment that asian men can't stand women who speak their mind, my brother is looking for a woman who speaks her mind, is intelligent, and okish looking.
@BlackPoetrybyFG@xanga - agreed.
I stopped reading this bullshit after the first few sentences.
um... my boyfriend is jap viet and he would NEVER cheat on me ...? just saying.
@MissPixieGlitter@xanga - Hands down to that first sentence!!! Amen!
I didn't even bother reading after the first paragraph.
Haha.
ps this post is STUPID you ignorant racist >=[
What is this? I don't even...you know what? I'm not touching this one as my palm seems to be glued to my face at the moment. No, just. No.
I can't believe this actually got on Datingish. My boyfriend would rip you one if he read what you posted. You CAN'T generalize something that happened to you and your friends to a whole race.
Depends. I mean sometimes they have to go to a hostess club because they are forced to. It's a bit of forced brown nosing because it provides advancement in their occupation. You're thinking "Hell no, I love my wife," so you wouldn't go to the hostess club for a night. But that could cost you your job in future or future promotions (the boss always have favorites). The boss is considered the BOSS here so you gotta either nut up or shut up. Different cultures, different ways of thinking. Common sense I do believe is not universal....
If a woman is rubbing all up ons, but you hate it because you are loyal, I personally don't believe it's cheating. It's kinda like if someone flirts with you, but you keep rejecting their advances because you know you're taken.
Asian men MIGHT be prone to cheating because of the available opportunites that exist. hostess bars, kareoke rooms, drinking night with the company, drinking night with friends. As for your question, no comment.
"Do you think Asian men are more attracted to women who do not voice their opinions?"-- Not sure about this one either. Personally if I wanted a submissive woman, a blow up doll would be a GREAT match for me.
So . . . yeah, how about we DON'T generalize here. It's pretty much the same as saying, "All black men are criminals. Seriously, if you think like this, you don't deserve any kind of man in your life.
Look, if you're going to make a controversial claim, you need stunningly good evidence to back it up. Where are your statistics? Where are your studies of infidelity in Japanese culture? I see hearsay, anecdotes, testimonials --but no real evidence.
These were terrible, unsound arguments. Good luck with your Asian Studies major.
Whoa, I didn't know I had low self-esteem, hate women that speak their mind, and don't care about other's feelings until I read this post. I didn't realize what an awful dating partner I am! You've opened my eyes!
@snapeful@xanga - OMG how dare you speak your mind! =P
@snapeful@xanga - Amen.
Datingish really needs to read their shit better before they post.
Wow, this was the most hilarious thing I've ever seen.
What about me?
I'm a proud woman of Asian heritage.
Am I also more likely to cheat on my Caucasian boyfriend because I'm Asian?
Oh no! What if I was dating another Asian. Would we just cheat on each other?!
Hilarious.
I applaud you and sincerely hope for your sake this post was a joke.
to give any sort of thought to this post is to give it more credence than it's worth. good luck getting anything better than comments ripping you a new one.
@salvatruca_stalking_havok13@xanga - LOL Yeah my reaction was jsut same as yours. What is this I don't even.
@Roadlesstaken@xanga - ROFL zomg i'm scared for my life....
@live_for_love@xanga - I was thinking it might have been a bitter Asian woman herself on the Datingish staff.
"Another thing is Japanese & Asian men are WEAK! They can't handle a woman who speaks her mind! They want someone who goes along with their BS with no complaints or questions asked."
Actually, that's one of the reasons why my ex (Asian) dumped me, along with the fact he was just using me for sex.
I don't know if you have enough proof other than personal contacts, but hey, that's something interesting to study. It's not racist, this has been done before with other racesand groups---likelihood to cheat, etc. It's not uncommon to study this or survey a population for it.
but insecure yellow stick bugs are SO delicious </3