I know it's normal to fight about your ex, but to fight about your ex's pet?
My girlfriend "M" is upset that her boyfriend "D" decided to keep the dog that him and his ex had bought together. The ex was initially going to take the dog but realize she couldn't take proper care of it, so she decided that it's better that the dog stays with "Daddy". It was their thing to call themselves Mommy and Daddy to the dog. Anyway, "M" has been arguing with "D" about the dog ever since the ex brought it back to him.
Before you think that she's fighting with him because she's not a dog person, that's not true. "M" actually loves dog. She grew up with them. It's because she sees it as remnant of the ex. According to "M" the ex cheated on "D" which is why they broke up but "D" has forgiven her since. "M" feels that the dog was a cheap ploy for the ex to have an excuse to continue and maintain contact with "D". When she brings this up, "D" just brushes it off and tells her that's not the case here and I'm not giving up the dog...it's just an innocent bystander in all this drama.
Ultimately my girlfriend believes that if her boyfriend loved her enough, he would be willing to give up the dog that's causing problems and fights between them. Do you think she has a right to make him choose? Are you team "M" or team "D" on this one?
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I kind of see her point but I think she's overreacting a bit. I mean it's not like a ring that you can sell on ebay or a teddy bear that an ex gave you; it's a living, breathing creature. You can't just throw away a dog because it was bought with your ex. Yes it could very well be a reason for the ex to keep contact with the guy but at the same time it's not the dog's fault.
no, I would say the dog stays, or she goes. That is kinda ridiculous. What if they had an actual child together, would she say the same thing? I would much rather have a dog than a bitchy significant other any day.
next time choose fake names. MDMDMDDM = doesn't read as well as it could
I don't think it's right to make someone choose something like that...besides, the dog was not only an innocent bystander to the drama, it was also there first!
I would agree with MrsCharlieBrown up there. What if it were an actual child? Would she want him to just give it up for adoption so she didn't have to deal with it, just because it was with his ex? Pets are a lot different than say pictures or letters, you can't just throw them away.Â
she definitely is a bit irrational.
Keep the dog, it'll stay more faithful in the long run. heh Seriously though I think your friend is over reacting just a bit, if the guy has a strong attachment to the dog, it's kind of cruel for your friend to make him give it up just because the ex and him bought it together and she may or may not be using it to keep some sort of contact with him. If he really likes your friend then the contact will have no meaning other than the dog to him...yup.
She's acting childish, in my opinion.
A better deal is to cut off ties with the ex completely since he's taking full responsibility for the dog anyways, there's no need for the ex to be in the picture anymore? That way, M feels less threatened and more likely to let D keep the dog without protest.
I would pick the dog.
That's ridiculous. I have a dog that was purchased with an ex.. I took the dog when we split and my current boyfriend treats the dog well. He loves me enough to know that I would NEVER get rid of my dog. She should have the same respect. The dog didn't do anything wrong to have to go to the pound. -.-
the girl is not really a dog person if she'd make her b/f give up his dog. I personally may not have one, but I've been around long enough to know these things.
tell her she can be "step-mommy" to the dog hahahah
I'm on the dogs team. He should dump his gf if she has that much of a problem with his dog. That's a stupid and immature thing to give away a pet because of somebody you're dating. That dog was there first and has no control. Poor dog. What kind of sick selfish person tries to make their bf give up his dog?!
Even if it's a ploy for the ex to see "D" again, I think "M" should just man up LOL and be the bigger woman.
I never understood girls who stay with someone if they don't have trust in that person or if they suspect something. If "D" wanted to be with "M" then he will be. If he didn't, getting rid of a dog won't change that fact. And why should "M" have to fight so damn hard for some guy's loyalty?
Her theory on the ex makes sense though...exes WILL do stuff like that to try to get back into their old man's lives...
teamp D
Your friend M needs to stop being so insecure. A person who loves you would never make you pick between them or someone (or something) else.
Bros before hoes. The dog, as being "man's best friend" is the ULTIMATE bro. Why give him up for someone who is engaging in Mortal Kombat with you over a DOG?
Bitch goes, dog stays.
- Kunoichi
not the dog's fault his "parents" got a separated, he shouldn't end up at a shelter or on the streets cos she can't separate between the dog and the exgf.
what the hell mann... where is the dog going to go?!.. why the hell would she be so selfish and not want to give this dog a home and tear it away from its owner.. what the hell!!
when my ex and i broke up he kept the dogs because i moved into the dorms and they dont allow pets.. i was soo freakin heartbroken because he wouldnt let me see the dog or take care of the dog and now i think he gave them away.. i think about them every day.. it really breaks my heart every time i think about it..
Ugh, too much drama
I gotta agree with @laytexduckie@xanga. Just because D and M used to date don't mean the little doggy has to go or else. I'm sorry but the word INSECURE really is her problem.. not the dog that D and M shared together.
That poor dog! It didnt do anything wrong, she justr needs to become that new dogs mommy. It would go to a shelter and may be put to death if no one adopted it, That bitch needs to shut up and love her dog
i think this is understandable, but not right.
a dog is different than a picture or scrapbook. it doesn't just hold memories, it has a personality and it's a companion. he's attached to it, how could he not be? your friend should realize that just because her boyfriend loves his dog, it doesn't mean he still loves his ex.
If he wants to keep the dog, he should keep the dog. If she's worried about the ex coming over to visit and maintaining contact, she has to talk to him about that, not about the dog. They can set up a thing where she only comes to get the dog for a week every quarter of the year.