Wednesday, 28 October 2009
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Squeezing My Brain Juice Over Love
Love. It is not something to be grown. It sparks at the most unexpected moment. One who loves would naturally finds himself thinking about her all the time, wanting to furnish her with everything she sets her eyes on, whatever it takes. When she cries, your heart feels as if it is being slashed by hundreds of knives, the pain of not being able to help, and the guilt of failing to fulfill your promise to make her happy at all time. All her little flaws would be adorable to you. Her bigger flaws would be the drive to change yourself for her better enjoyment.Who ever said love is simple is one big liar. It’s so complicated I think most people squeeze their brain juice over it. It requires a lot more than what we watch on the tv: commitment, trust, tolerance, sacrifice, time and list goes on. Hard work would be vital in order to keep love strong, cause kid me not, everything becomes dull at one point.
You cannot measure love nor calculate what’s fair or not. No one cares that you have invested years or thousands of dollars, if love has vanished, it has. So even though “to let go/ move on” may be easier said than done, it is the only thing you can do.
It may be said that we should all fall in love without letting anything hold us back, after all, what do we have to lose? But that’s not entirely true. You would experience your most horrible feeling, when all your efforts end up fruitless. Also sad but true, it does leave behind memories or sometimes traumas which are hard to get over.
But what is there to do? You cannot stop yourself from falling for someone, yet when they don’t feel the same, you cannot force your love on them. And vice versa.
For a noob like me, I’d say just go with the flow, and wait wait wait! When the day comes, I know I will not hold myself back again and I will not regret.
ps: And an "I love you" is simply insufficient because people say and hear it so easily today. Things other than that are the ones to determine whether or not a person deserves more than another.
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Comments (9)
Well, I agree with everything in this.
Except, it is possible to stop yourself from falling for someone. If you have enough willpower and determination, I've been there.
Nice post :)
Agreed I try to hold off saying I love you because it's over saturated people use it too loosely just for personal gain. If you don't say it all the time I feel it means more...but when you're in a relationship and you constantly hold yourself back from telling your SO "I love you" they begin to think you don't love them and start to lose love for you heh. Love is contradictory, and definitely complicated.
i think an I Love You can be sufficient enough. sometimes you honestly may be upset with the other person, but at times, you just need to say it. EX: my bf has been on the boat for 3 months now. i was really down because he won't be here for the holidays. he said i love you to me and even though i was sad, he needed to hear it from me. he needed the support. just little things like that, ya know.
Well said, well said.
I respectfully disagree.
Love is very simple. It's basic. The love a mother has for her child is just that: love. It exists. Simply and very clearly.
But as humans, with our ability to think, to feel - free will, we complicate things. We read too much into things, or not enough. Because we have free will, we choose to express our love or to withhold it, therefore causing lots of confusion. And because we know that we can express or withhold our love, we know the other party can do the same thing. But we won't admit to loving, for fear of rejection at worst, embarrassment at best.
My response to this was so strong that I ended up writing a whole post about it. So here is where you can read my entire response.
:) good post
the i love you bit is controversial though
sure its oversaid lately which is disappointing
but when its true love
how can u not say it?
its almost like you cant say it enough times, you just want them to know it :)
x
you really thought this out didn't you?
I disagree, LOVE itself cannot be described by words, whether it be yours, or mine. =)