I came across this article today:
A Post Coital Tweet is the New Cigarette. It basically reported on a recent study that found that 36% of people under 35 text, tweet, or check facebook after sex. They also found that iPhone users were three times as likely to do this than Blackberry users. Now while tweeting may be healthier than smoking after sex, I have to say this is a serious don't. Not only does it show a lack of respect for the person you're with, but it also hinders bonding. If you're constantly thinking about something else, what others are doing/saying/eating/whatever, telling others what you're doing/saying/eating/whatever, you can't be fully in the moment. I imagine you're enjoyment of what you're doing is seriously (negatively) impacted by this behavior.
My SO and I are both iPhone users, tweeters, and facebookers--but social networking has to be left at the door at some point. Though I can't say I'm surprised by this study, I find it really frustrating to be with someone who's more interested in the outside world/their phone than me and whatever we happen to be doing (SO or friend). It's important to set boundaries--everyone should unplug for a bit (not just for sleep), it's good to relax and enjoy the moment.
Do you tweet, text, facebook after sex? Have you been with someone who does this?
Comments (42)
Wow. That is a surprising number. I don't tweet or text or whatever electronically. I just cuddle with her.
I think it shouldn't be such a big deal, unless you're actually tweeting/status updating/blogging ABOUT the sex you just had. If you're not cuddling after sex, there should be nothing wrong with it, really.
Today I had sex and I had to high-tail it out of there right after. Seriously in out and done in 9 minutes. I'm a pro!
And you're the first I've told about it...
Mmmm...a don't.
haha I'm still amazed that people have time to conduct "studies" like these...it's like someone wakes up and goes "HEY, we need to do a study of how many people tweet after their fun time!".
God...no. I did text my best friend after I lost my virginity, but that's understandable than letting the whole internet know.
ohmygod. so tacky.
Ewww! Who would do that?
Well, I haven't had sex yet but that would definitely be a no. Why on earth would anyone do that?
personally, i think sex shouldn't be shared. i think that means verbally/through the internet too. not to mention it's just tacky. so no.
Yeah, it's a big no-no actually. Even if you're not updating ABOUT the sex, checking facebook moments after on your cellphone is like a slap in the face basically. I was with someone who did this every single time. It got old fast, but I kept my mouth shut about it.
Yeah, sure it's fine... if you don't mind looking like a major douchebag.
Nope, but my phone can't really do much. I think I would get annoyed if I was with someone who did though.
hell no.
Another reason why I hate things like twitter. It's sad and pathetic how obessed people are with facebook and twitter. I mean really? You have to go online after sex? Call me a hopeless romantic but I like cuddling after sex. Guess I'm just not "with it" with what's popular.
I would not. I would cuddle!
My fuck buddy always checks his phone after sex. It sort of pisses me off.
New Fb status- Just had sex with so and so please comment on it!
But seriously i didn't people actually did this its really pathetic you can't get away from Fb or tweeting for a few hours
weird.
ewwww
That's pretty bad. Being in a long term relationship though, after we cuddle for a short while and regain our composure my boyfriend and I will get online and do our own thing. Mostly it's if neither of us feels like cuddling anymore. After a while of dating it became ok to not do the cuddly thing after sex. Most of the time we just get up and eat after sex. LOL
lol xD
a dont :)
x
I HATE TWITTER AND NO MY HUSBAND AND I DONT GET ON NO DAMN TWITTER AFTER SEX, WE BE TO BUSY TRYING TO CATCH OUR BREATHS AFTER SEX SHIT LOL
No, I usually fall asleep afterwards. =P I think people who tweet/txt/update their Facebook status is just looking attention, by wanting someone to comment on it.
no way :S