Tuesday, 27 October 2009
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I May Be Fat, But I'm Still Getting Laid
So I don't have my pre pregnancy body anymore, I've accepted that. I've put away my size 5 clothes and hung up my sexy size 9's, thankful I can at least suck in my muffin top. I post only the "skinny" looking pictures on Facebook and Xanga, the ones with the "natural" lighting that highlight my face more than my body. I have no one to impress except my husband, but I'm still insecure. It's still embarrassing when my 18-month old slaps my thighs just to see it jiggle because he finds humor in it. What can I say? I'm bigger now!
From time to time I go to bars with my skinny, single, no baby girlfriends and feel like an ugly 3rd wheel when they get hit on while I drink beer and watch sports on television; hoping that my mere presence doesn't make me a "blocker". But then I'm happy to go home to my husband knowing that not only does he love me enough to want to be with me for the rest of his life, but he still thinks I'm hot and continues to make sexual advances in spite of my size.
For Halloween my husband couldn't believe that I didn't want to be "Slave Leia" even when I told him that Carrie Fisher didn't have a muffin top and stretch marks during the entire Star Wars saga. He was bummed that I chose to be a well covered up Jedi Knight instead.
When I share this bit of our marriage to my skinny, beautiful, single friends I'm surprised to find out that they're always a touch envious of me and for the first time, I understand.
Sometimes being single can be a bitch. One of my girlfriends is going through this phase of meeting fools that stand her up or random weirdos that flash their penis or recite the dumbest lines. My hot guy friend has a problem with going out with women solely for their looks and got his heart broken by a beautiful vegetarian who is going through a divorce. Now he eats meat with a vengence.
I'm mortified for my friends and for women and men alike who try so hard to look for good people only to get rejected over and over again. Just like I advised my guy friend who's into looks, "give the not so perfect girls a chance." She may have a crooked nose but will love you and worship you for who you are even when you've gained weight, broke out in pimples, and got into an accident that paralyzed you or deformed you for life. Who knows, maybe her crooked nose was a result of deviated septum, which is covered by most insurance companies, and can be remedied right away. Then, if you truly loved her, you'll miss her crooked nose. Ok...I'm going on a tangent here.
What I learned was, looks are temporary, love is lasting. Although I'm happy for the MILF's who walk into my son's Gymboree class looking like they could pose for the Victoria Secret catalog, I'm happy that my husband wants me to wear whatever is in the Victoria Secret catalog!
And when I'm feel frumpy looking because I wear yoga pants and sweatshirts to hide my weight, and my red rimmed glasses to hide the bags under my eyes, I should be happy that I'm loved by the two most wonderful men in the world - my husband and my son. No plastic surgery can ever buy that type of love and confidence for myself.
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Hear, hear! Sometimes it's hard to settle for "less than perfect" when you're a snob.
Slave Leias are all store-bought, lame costumes anyway.
^_^ Right on! It's like the saying goes "Love conquers all"
Haha, well said!
Aww this was great. Thanks for sharing it.
I'm embracing my "chubby" side as my mom calls it. Guys call it "dayumm" lol. Do I wish I was a bit smaller? Sure. But it's still me deep down.
If someone isn't interested because of my size now, then they'll just realize what they missed out when I get back to my regular weight and size. LOL.
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.
No plastic surgery can ever buy that type of love and confidence for myself.
I love this sentence. :)
:D
this is why I think appearance is important for beginning relationships...but not everything. this post has definitely proven how I feel on the subject. I've been seeing a lot of posts about appearance being the most important thing in a relationship, but it seems as though people forget about the long term status. I'm glad you're happy with who you are and who you're with.
Very well put! Makes me feel better about my weight
Great post,
being single is a bum because of weirdos and what not... haha save me
Real love has no barriers!!
the kid part with the thighs was a nice warm funny moment, more women need to take this page out of your book. it's great you have such wonderful guys in your life.
*cheers!
Rock on, Girl! I also agree with Gotasha@xanga, It is so true: Real love has no barriers! Kudos to those who can still rock and be happy with who they are and what they currently have! Woot!
good for you!
Great post!
haha, you should do therapy sessions for jessica simpson.
lmao
This is a great post! Us size 9ers may not have the slenderness of our friends, but we've found something much more rewarding, and I love that you have embraced it. Congrats on your family and learning and you are ok just the way you are!
I'm skinny and not getting laid. Dang.
:D great post!
I think more people need to realize this.
Simply being beautiful does not guarantee happiness, but being loved does.
I only hope to find a husband like yours.
And "My hot guy friend has a problem with going out with women solely for
their looks and got his heart broken by a beautiful vegetarian who is
going through a divorce. Now he eats meat with a vengence." - Sorry, this made me laugh. No offense to your friend or anything. Maybe it was just the way you wrote it - it was funny.
ha, i think that you're completely right.
love has nothing to do with appearence, LUST does. you don't love someone because they're beautiful, they're beautiful because you love them.
i've always been a big guy (i played football in high school, and now i'm a soph in college and i go about 225), so i've always been a little self concious about my weight. but seemingly, i've always had more luck with women than a great number of my friends. relationships are about who you are, not how you look. ;)
Great post.
"now he eats meat with a vengeance..." HAHAHA.
wonderful!