I'm about to hit the one-year mark with the boyfriend, and trust me, this is something I just never thought possible. Not just with him, specifically, but in general: I've never really quite imagined with someone for over two or three months. It comes to mind that a lot of the times, people in relationships are always fascinated by one another in the 2-3 month mark: everything is so new and unfamiliar that we have that natural desire to want more. But then it comes to the point where you begin to lose interest or all the things that once attracted you doesn't have the same allure anymore. Maybe it's my generation -- the ADD generation. We move too quickly to stay, always leaving something behind for something shinier.
My friend told me that it's at around the 4-5 month mark where things start really going south, the make-or-break part. And I'm of the opinion that it's true. This is the time where those flaws are being shown more...perhaps due in part because it's affecting YOU now. I think this is where the "Talk It Out" routine becomes most used, and unfortunately, the most overplayed. There's only so much you can talk about before realizing A) S/he will change or B) S/he WON'T change.
Me? Well, my longest official relationship before this one was in high school, 9th grade, for around 7 months. It was my first foray into the relationship world, and in retrospect, it was okay, you know? I guess it was nice; right now, I don't care much about it. My longest unofficial relationship relationship happened in my freshman year of uni. It was an almost 2-year tug-of-war of power dynamics. We were never officially dating -- and when I say "relationship," I mean it strictly as "a relation between people" -- but a lot of people thought we were. We were always together and bickering. It was awful, the shit I went through for this thing we shared. Neither one of us were willing to change or compromise, but we wanted the other to change and compromise. It was all very selfish.
I'm not saying that because I'm in this relationship and it's almost been a year that, now, I know everything. I mean, no, I don't. I'm still a noob in this, but through my past relations, I know what NOT to do, and what I DON'T want being done to me. The past is a learning experience, and my current one is something I am consistently learning from as well.
What do you think? What was your longest relationship?
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My longest relationship is the one I'm in right now. It's been a year and almost a month.
5 years. That was a LONG time.
mines the one Im in right now. 8 years (9th grade) and engaged (Now 4th years in college)! :)
I'm about to hit the one year mark as well. :) This is my longest relationship
My longest relationship was when I was 17 and lasted for almost 2 years. And it was the only time I've ever been "in love" with a guy and my first "heartbreak" it was the BEST thing in my life and at the same time the WORST and really the entire time we were together, except for near the end I would always get butterflies in my stomach and I would still get nervous to be around him. And when we would get in big arguments and not see each other for a few days and then we kissed, it felt like it was the first time all over again. But other guys I have been in relationships with. . .I don't get those feelings as often or some times at all, as I did with my first love.
my longest relationship was about a week away from 3 year mark.
Mine was just shy of 4 years. And it sure didn't end well. When you think about the time during the relationship is doesn't seem that long. Now that I'm out of the relationship, it feels like such a long time!
Nearly 11 months. ^_^
Uh. 5 months before this one. It's kind of hilarious that my longest relationship is with the man I married. And we've only be married just over 2 years.
My longest relationship was about 2 1/2 years. We met & started dating when I was 17 and then later broke up at the beginning of my sophomore year of college. It didn't end well and two years later, we still aren't on good terms.
My longest was shy under 4 years as well. A lot of good and bad memories, but I learned a lot, and wouldn't trade those 4 special years for anything. To me, it doesnt matter how long you last, it matters what you learn from it, if indeed you dont work out. Because obviously if you do work out, something trivial as how long you've been together doesnt even really matter.
My longest relationship was over 4 years. We started dating when I was just barely 17, and still very naive. He was the first guy I loved and I let him get away with a lot of things that I would dump a guy over now. It sucks when I think about how much time I wasted on him, but I know I learned a lot from that relationship. My current relationship is about to hit the 2 year mark and I've never been more in love than I am right now. =]
Over 4 years now and still going.
a year & two months =] the one im in now
two years and a half.
xo
This is my longest relationship. Over 2.5 years and counting.
5 years and still going
My current is the longest. It'll be two years in March.
I've gone as long as a year. After that point, she wanted to get married and I was still in school. I guess that's the downside to dating a cougar.
18 months! I'm so glad it wasn't any longer. He was going to beat me!
@DaRkFaiRy314@xanga - so proud of you =) i wish yall eternal happiness !!!!
My husband and I have been together for 2 years and six months (today) and married for 1 year, 5 months and 4 days so far. :) This is my longest relationship....and by far the best, which is good since I'll be with him for the rest of my life. Haha. :D I love him!
mine is three years and counting =)
A little over four years.
18 months last sunday & still counting <3