Tuesday, 27 October 2009
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First Love, First Kiss...First Boyfriend?
I met my first love on the first day of school in middle school. The 12 year old me, who thought boys were gross, was totally smitten. Let's just say it didn't end well, awkward crushes aren't exactly my thing. Fast forward to 11th grade, junior year in high school. First Love and I hadn't talked since 7th grade (we basically avoided each other). I decided to give it a second shot so we'd at least be friends. Things went really well for 2-3 months, but since we never told each other we liked each other and we were both shy, things ended really badly. Overreaction on my part, I'll admit it.Fast forward senior year. I, once again, initiated in making up with another friend from middle school who I hadn't talk to since then (noticing a pattern here?). We got really close, but the problem was, we were both going to different colleges. To make the story short, he stole my first kiss. Bastard.
It's not that I expected something spectacular, but it was done for the wrong reasons. For me, I let him because I really liked him. For him, he knew it was my first (he had more experience), and it was more of a claim, marking the territory, to put it more bluntly. How do I know this? Let's just say afterwards, the first thing he asked me how far I had gone with First Love. How did he know about First Love when I never told him anything? He did some "research".
All matters aside, these guys aren't terrible people, and I'm glad to have known them. It's just unfortunate that I am no longer on speaking terms with either of them.
I never was a fan of labels, but both of these guys weren't ever "officially" my boyfriends for different reasons. But where does this leave the nonexistent/future First Boyfriend? Well, he gets the title.
So, in order to make things easier, instead of calling them "First Love", "First Kiss", "First Dude Who Has the Balls to Call Himself the Boyfriend", I'm just going to wait until the right one comes along and elevates his status to "Husband". If things don't work out with Husband and me, he will be demoted to the eternal status of "The Bastard". Sound like a plan?
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sounds good :D
haha great!
but i think its a sad story...:(
That's normal to feel crushed. And I agree...labels are stupid. Emotions for a person are a lot more important than some label. For instance, two people who are married may just be miserable and not in love anymore, but they still have the label "married." Meanwhile, a bf and gf can be deep in love and not be married.
If he's the first guy you ever cared about, then he would be, in my opinion, your "first love." Don't worry about this guy though...at least you know he's not the right guy for you. You have plenty of time to find a nice guy, trust me. Focus on your future, and the right guy will come when the timing is right.
Husband and I always called each other "partners in crime". Confused a lot of people, especially when we defended each other from flirtatious interested others... but it was worth it!
We never really called each other boyfriend/girlfriend, although we were exclusive. Now that we're married, I call him my boyfriend all the time. It's great when people see the rings and just can't figure it out :)
A havoc. What fun!
Guess I'm lucky my first boyfriend was my first love and my first kiss and is soon to be my husband >.<
how sad :( but kinda witty at the end :P
I also feel lucky mine is also my first everything.. first love, first kiss, first everyyyything...and after the past 8 years together (4 of them long distance )-- soon to be husband..
Sad...but go for it XD hope you find that "Husband!" haha! I never really thought of it that much. I mean, I had a "first boyfriend". But it was that awkward high school love and we were both kind of naive and stupid.
my first kiss was in the middle of a game of Spin the Bottle way back when. Kinda funny, but I never wanted to admit I was a little prude ;P It didn't mean much to me, I barely knew the guy. Too much tongue anyway, yuck! I count my boy now as my first and only love (ever)... he's the one I feel for the most and maybe, eventually, he'll be the hubby ;P
I don't want to remember the last guy. Ever. He used me, so he doesn't exist to me. I guess you could say he's the "bastard"? >:[
Good luck with that.
my first love was to a boy who helped us move our boxes when we moved into our new neighbourhood. he had blue eyes, dark curly hair and the sweetest smile. i was 13, he was 12 (i know, such a cougar, rowr!) and we 'dated' (more or less held hands, hid in the same hiding spot when playing games with our friends, went to school together until I went to junior high school first, etc...) for almost 2 years, until he moved to kamloops. being the mature one, i told him we'd write and keep in touch, but we didn't. that was bound to happen.
my first kiss was stolen by whom i THOUGHT was my first bf (but just a jerk who wanted to know if he was going to get laid by a virgin after dating for a month) when i was 18. he was 22, university student. someone should have told me something was wrong with that equation around then, but it was at a bus stop. we missed 3 busses during that kiss. although he was a jerk who had an 1 night stand after i told him "i dont plan on having sex until we've dated 2-3 yrs!" (see my innocence?), we broke up and ended on a sour note. now we pretend we don't know each other although we share ALOT of mutual friends (over the years) on FB. anyways, I know we put a great importance to our FIRST everything but I think attempting to find my last love is just as important. life is filled with experiences and breaking the "cherry" of your firsts... so good luck with that~!
Hahah! Lol, I like your plan ;)
My story is kind of different to yours, lol. Since.. I never really liked anyone properly when I was younger. When I was younger, it was just a crush. When I was 15 I had a huge crush on a guy who was 2 years older than me (he's in Uni now, lol). But... I can say that my 'first love, first kiss and first dude who has the balls to call himself the boyfriend' is my current boyfriend :) He's my first long-term boyfriend (almost 4 month, which is long for both of us) and he's my first kiss and he's pretty much first everything, ALTHOUGH we haven't reached to 'that stage' yet, lol. :P
My story is somewhat similar to yours... My first love was someone I grew up with, Stopped talking for a period of time then reconnected the summer before sophomore year. Tried out a relationship and it worked for a month or two... then it ended kind of bad. Ended up having to see him and his new gf(s) freshman year... though it was obvious there was something still there. After freshman year, we lost contact again. Ended up seeing him 3 years later and finding out he had a baby and "going through a divorce."
My first kiss was a silly little relationship with another guy I grew up with... Pretty much the stereotypical awkward first kiss. However our "relationship" went bad because he got someone pregnant. Lost contact for some years then he ended up contacting me on myspace. Contact was sporadic... Don't talk to either of the two anymore... =/ Sucks though because regardless of how things ended, they were my best friends beforehand.
However, my first serious, long term boyfriend... was a douchebag. Our relationship was the epitome of unhealthy. Together for 3 and half years... ended horribly.. and no longer talk. No loss of mine though really. All I miss is his family.
Your plan sounds pretty good though. May have to adopt that one. :P
ahaha sounds good! (:
i love this post! (: haha, i can totally relate. keep them standard high! (;
Lol I had my first kiss when I was drunk. So he's "The Dude That Got Me Drunk And Was My First Kiss". But I wasn't completely honest to him. I was in my "I'm So Not Gay" phase. Now I know better :)
Sounds like a great plan lol.
Also had the guy who stole my first kiss (the bastard) We never dated... and my first real boyfriend who lasted about a year.
Still talk to both but will never go back to either.
Heh my first 3-ish relationships were never firmly established either so I just started calling them semi girlfriend sorta thingy friends....
hahahh YES, i agree!
First love - 13 years old
First kiss - 17 years old
First boyfriend - 18 years old
All VERY different guys.
LOL love your last line.
First kiss was at 17, a couple months ago. Guess that was when first bf happened as well.
ya i can relate=/
First love...i guess i realized i loved him when i was 16
first kiss...15
first boyfriend...i think 13
haha just thinking about it all i realized ... life is kinda weird. :)
From "Guy I Like" to "Husband"? Sounds like skipping some levels there.