Tuesday, 27 October 2009

  • Always Falling for Mr. Perfect


    So the other day I met this guy at a volunteer service project. It was lust at first sight. He was perfect- tall, handsome, smart, friendly, funny... the list goes on. When I get home I decide to do some personal investigation via Facebook to make sure he doesn't have a girlfriend (or boyfriend...) or any other dating deal-breakers. He doesn't. He's involved in tons of organizations on campus, has great taste in music, and is pre-law.

    At this point I should be jumping for joy at the concept of meeting such a great guy, but instead all this information leaves me disheartened. He's too perfect. He's the kind of guy that every girl loves and every guy wants to be. I can tell by the amount of Facebook friends he has and what they say on his wall (yeah, I was totally being a Facebook creep, don't act like you've never done it). Basically, I don't have a chance.

    Another guy that I've liked since I started college over a year ago is the same way. That guy that all the girls crush on but never think they actually have a chance with. I don't understand why I always fall for the guys that I consider to be way outside my league. Couldn't I just crush someone who actually has a few flaws for once?

    Have you ever liked someone who you considered to be outside your league? Did it ever work out?

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Comments (37)

  • Roadlesstaken@xanga

    I'm not sure about outside my league, but I definitely liked girls that were outside my comfort zone.  Overall, it has not worked out to my favor =(
  • tsh44@xanga

    I guess I have never had a serious crush on anyone that was out of my league. I tend to be attracted to the more common type of guy. I have had fangirl type crushes on actors that I had never even met in person before but that was not really the same thing.
  • lenybobsyouruncle@xanga

    remember there are no leagues. the hottest and most attractive people are intimidating people thus they don't get hit on as much. break a leg, and if he really is a good guy, break your own, not his ;D
  • ccarothers@xanga

    Pretty much I feel like every guy I am interested in would never be interested in me.  I am resigned to my single fate and it's ok. ;0)
  • mewithoutu77@xanga

    you'll never know until you've tried it out.  no one is out of your league until you try it first.  of course the first couple of times, you're going to fail but just pick yourself up and try again.  my first few attempts didn't turn out the way i wanted or liked it to be but now, if i want something, i'm going to go after it even if i'm not completely qualified.  
  • MsKittyCatty@xanga

    I was usually attracted to guys below my league, because as a teenage girl, I wanted to fix them. Once I grew up a little, I met a guy in my league and we got married, so I never got a chance to crush on someone out of my league. A guy I would have normally thought of as out of my league has had a crush on me since I've been married, but then I met his gf, and well, I would think I'm in a better league than her, so maybe he was attracted to girls I would normally think below his league anyway.


    Haha, I said league like, 6 times... (7 now...)
  • Lovebipolar117@xanga

    I'm always attracted to girls I think are out of my league.


    For the first time, a girl likes me back! It's exciting.

  • Insomnia_Pickles_XtraTomato@xanga

    the first bf i had i thought was way out of my league- but who knew? he had a crush on me! lol it didnt last long, i think he is that same type of guy ... it was a weird brief relationship that ended awkwardly, i think. my bf now is less "perfect" but, more perfect for ME.

    but don't be disheartened by MY story, lol. i'm sure it... works for some people! lol
  • FreeeVerse@xanga

    @Roadlesstaken@xanga - Awww poor Alex! *HUGS* You are liked by me (But I'm not really out of your comfort zone, am I? HAHA! )
  • jenafwa@xanga

    during highschool, I crushed on this guy who's out of my league too. He's like smart, good at all sorts of sports, funny, good looking... but whenever I am around him, I get all shy-ed up, and couldn't speak... so nothing really went on...


    I really wonder if I was more outgoing and try to talk to him, then would things have been different? Back then I have a couple of classes with him EVERYDAY, and there were many times we were assigned to sit together, and yet, we've only talked for a maximum of 10 minutes throughout the whole 3 years i was crushing him..
  • ceekh@xanga

    Yes. I wasn't confident enough in myself to go for it. Afterall, I kept thinking, that there were so many girls to compete with, why not settle for someone who isn't all the trouble? I should have though, because there was attraction between us. But I actually don't regret it.

    He's too good which means he's too boring. I have a lot of flaws but that makes me a pretty interesting person. I'd want someone who's compatible with me and has flaws that I'm attracted to.
  • ieatcrayons

    Just recently i went out with a girl who was "out of my league" and it was really weird. Not in the sense of intimacy or attraction but our mentality's were the same. We both tried to dominate the other person "wearing the pants" so to speak.  Did it work out nope we dated on and off for about 6months and that was it.
  • breaking_expectations@xanga

    I've gone for someone out of my league, I ended up having a chance.

    Just remember to be wary of games they may play because they can.
  • ieatcrayons

    You couldn't be any more right @breaking_expectations@xanga -. The people who know they're "good lookin" all they want to do is play games and see how much they can get away with.
  • WaterfallPhilosophies@xanga

    Oh yeah, I've dated Mr. Perfect and it didn't work out because I found out he was far from perfect but worse.  It's like buying a name brand only to be disappointed that it was made poorly and soo not worth the hype. 


    Now I'm married to Mr. Imperfect who has sooo many flaws it's wonderful. 

  • Swhatley@xanga

    Don't worry, I'm a fb creeper too.
  • EuropeBrazil@lovelyish

    you know, it's often the case where people who are "perfect" are very lonely because everyone thinks they're outside their league. Maybe, if he is all that perfect, he'll be able to look beyond your most apparent external qualities and with time learn who you really are. Of course, it's often the case that when a guy's soo good in all those things, in the love departament they're big shallow jerks. But I still have hopes for you.


    I found one that isn't a big shallow jerk, ^^
  • Icecold4u@xanga

    The girl...that I am with, I still believe she is very well and far out of my league, and I'm still...in disbelief that I have hit this jackpot, making up for all the bad luck I've had for so fucking long...No, this isn't a comment I hope she will read and go "awww" over. Not at all ^^

    She is also the person that has changed alot of what I think in love andd....there are no leagues, period.


    It comes down to, if he really thinks he is out of other peoples leagues (Vain and egotastic "perfect people"), if you believe you are out of his league (Lowering your self-confidence, boooo), and if your willing to puff out your chest (Not literally!), say to yourself "I am better than those other girls, and can win his heart...THEN GO FOR IT!

    Not only will you possibly get this guy..but know more about him simply by how he answers (whether he is vain, self-centered, etc.), and atleast you will have tried. What If, is way worse than "Oh Well".
  • OngishLyOngLee@xanga

    all the time, all the time.
  • Sun_Starflower@xanga

    It happened twice in high school. The guys were absolutely perfect for my standards but unfortunately they a) Didn't feel the same way about me and b) Were possibly gay. (Facebook didn't reveal what their orientation was!) :o
  • miradolls@xanga

    lol never worked for me :)
  • Salivarysatisfaction

    There is not a single person who is "out of" someone else's "league". The notion is dumb. Personally, I go for whatever I want- and I'm usually disappointed with people who are considered "perfect". Yawn.
  • XoAsianBabioX@xanga

    why don't you go for it? its worth a shot!
  • UnopenedSuitcases@xanga

    @lenybobsyouruncle@xanga - haha agreed. just because someone's "out of your league" doesnt mean you shouldn't give it a shot!
  • HollowTendencies@xanga

    so far zac efron and i have yet to make it work out, but i'll let you know if there is any change

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