Sunday, 25 October 2009
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The Ferris Wheel
When we reached the summit of the ferris wheel, there were butterflies in my stomach. My inclination was to blame my fear of heights and the shaky, carny structure. In reality, I was just excited because of the person next to me. We kissed, and I teasingly rocked the chair to illicit a reaction.
After I returned home, my future seemed as sweet as my cotton candy covered fingers. I had never been to a carnival on a date before, and, after surviving all of the rides, I can admit it was a really great idea. It was the kind of date that keeps up at night, where you lay on your back staring at the ceiling thinking about what a great time you had.
It wasn't the first or the last time I went on a good date. The older I get, however, the more I realize that dates can easily become routine, ordinary, and even interview-like. Since dating is a fundamental component to every relationship, it becomes increasingly important to go on good dates.
In order to take someone on a good date, one must understand that every date consists of only three elements: you, your date, and the environment. Since I don't know you or your date, let's focus on the environment. The location you select reveals a lot about you. It should be a place where both you and your date can feel comfortable, and it should be a serve as a catalyst for conversation, fun, or anything else you are looking for.
In school, I learned heart pounding adventures increase the likelihood that a date will find you attractive. As a result, my (first) dates usually revolve around horror flicks, roller coasters, marathons, and gun shows (joking). I am not ugly, but I am still single, which leads me to believe there must be more to dating than adventure. And, there is (are you surprised?).
What are some of your good date ideas, Xangans?
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I've usually stuck to the traditional dinner ideas, and my past two girlfriends came to me, so it wasn't too demanding on my part. I still need to work on my dating game so, I'm in the boat with you on learning some new and exciting date ideas.
any place with a good view and a nice walk is always nice.
No movies.
Ice skating. Amusement park. Bowling. Walking around at Night with a Chocolate bar. Somewhere high so you can watch the stars. Zoo. Academy of Science (aquarium). Any big city-- SF. Making her dinner. There are so many...
Make sure that on your first date, you talk about something so you can easily transition into a 2nd date.
I'm so pro at dates. :) Good luck.
Damn it, I got so excited because I thought this entry was about chemistry...
But I guess it was "Ferris Wheel" not "Ferrous Wheel"
Got my hopes up for no good reason.
:O my first kiss was on a ferris wheel, right at the top <3
first dates have to be fun, i just like walking around at dusk and talking :)
lol the girls i normally date hate making any sort of movement.. its a first date so they usually dress up so i'm pretty restricted to just nice dinners. i'd love to take a girl bowling or to an amusement park but i think you'd have to get some kind of feelings of compatibility first. i wouldn't want to take a girl who i can't stand on a date where i'd have to spend the full day with her. mind you these girls i usually just meet. do the coffee shop or bar thing first, get to know them and then plan the second date around it.
Art museums or concerts :D
@Starring_Hobo89@xanga - date me?
Do something fun and spur-of-the-moment that both of you would enjoy. Don't get so caught up in how it should be a 'perfect' or 'cookiecutter' date. Just go with the flow, and be yourself!
@Starring_Hobo89@xanga - Haha, your comment made my day.
ice skating, go karting, mini-golfing-- i like things where you can compete and also laugh your ass off at each other and also have the opportunity to show that you can laugh at yourself. also any kind of project- like a pottery painting place, or anything that involves making something is going to create a bond.
@Starring_Hobo89@xanga - lol I think we all love your comment! here's a cheesy joke for you chem nerd: =)
Two atoms walk into a bar.
One atom stops and says to the other, "I think I just lost an
electron."
The second atom asks "Are you sure?"
The first atom replies, "I'm positive!"
@Starring_Hobo89@xanga - You read my mind. Movies are a terrible place, you can't even talk to your date or get to know them and dinner is often just kind of awkward and too intimate, I think, so it makes people feel uncomfortable and like they really have to try to be interesting leading them to not act like themselves.
Best thing to do, I think, go somewhere fun where you can both just relax and have fun, goof around for a bit.Typical date would be a movie and dinner, which definitely lost its spark by the 100000000th time (exaggerating, of course). I've gone a few that were out of the box, but none that was SO great that it kept me up at night. Awesome that you got to experience that though! :]
I learned in social psych about MISATTRIBUTION OF AROUSAL. Okay, so how this works is you go somewhere high -- where your heart gets beating really fast. Then you wonder why your heart is beating fast. "Oh, it must be this girl I am with. She is so attractive, that's why my hearts beating." When it is actually because of the height. Those psych majors are tricky.
@xsteph_ox@xanga - already taken. Sorry :)
@IchigoBunny@xanga - if you're into chemistry jokes, there's actually a whole website.. hmm i forget it now... uhm i get an email a month with a chem joke....
@ImpaledFlutterBy@xanga - Relax. Lol. That's comfortable. I think heart racing, adrenaline pumping locations are better :)
@IrishCream41@xanga - :) I like making people smile. That's why I put smiley faces everywhere. WEird huh?
@Starring_Hobo89@xanga - Damn it. You stole my comment about misattribution of arousal. >_< I am ashamed my psych major self didn't come to this post quicker like a clarion call or some shit.
@Starring_Hobo89@xanga - Its ok. I'm not really into the internet dating thing anyway.
@Starring_Hobo89@xanga - OMG Those are the exact same things I love to do with my boyfriend. haha Especially the zoo and museum part. History museums are the best. I'm such a nerd. haha
Everyone says no movies, but that was my first date with my boyfriend and we've been together over a year now. :P
We knew each other beforehand in a class we shared, so it's not like we were totally foreign, so I guess that made a difference... It was the opening night of Batman, too, so we spent a lot of time in line, it was actually pretty awkward! >_<;;
But for me it was adventurous enough, because I don't really stay out late (or I didn't at that point anyway).
Anywho... The beach is kind of nice, especially one with a pier, there tends to be arcades on those, and you can go biking or kayaking if you're more into sports. I'd say anywhere that has food, bathrooms, and multiple kinds of entertainment available!
my boyfriend and i had our first official date as a couple on santa monica pier and we rode the ferris wheel. after being together for two years, we're over most of the "first dates" here and there. but we just keep coming up with ideas to spice up the adventure aspect of our relationship. i like dates at the beach, whether you go in the water on a hot day, or comb the ocean side at night. i like horror movies to canoodle to. i like dinners to get dressed up to (boys, as long as the place looks moderately fancy, it can be cheap as hell! italian restaurants are good because the atmosphere is dark and romantic). i like ferris wheels and roller coasters. i like dates ;) but i like the free ones much more. go to the park for a picnic. go to the beach and spend the day there with a picnic.museums usally are free. parking costs money but you can roam the museum and just be together. free is nice :)
Maybe you're single because you used the word "illicit" when you meant "elicit" =P
I just discard the idea of dating entirely. Cliche dates like that are only enjoyable when they spontaneously happen, in my opinion.
I HAVE NEVER BEEN ON A FERRIS WHEEL IN MY LIFE UNTIL THIS PAST SUMMER AND I REALLY DON'T LIKE THEM! I NEVER KNEW HOW SCARY THEY WERE UNTIL THIS PAST SUMMER! SHIT, I PICK ROLLERCOASTERS OVER FERRIS WHEELS AND I'M SCARED SHITLESS OF ROLLERCOASTERS! SO TAKING ME ON A DATE ON A FERRIS WHEEL WILL GET YOU NO POINTS WITH ME! AND BESIDES WHO IN THIS DAY AND AGE DOES DATES ANYMORE IT'S ABOUT HOOKING UP THESE DAYS EWH!
I've never been on a date...getting stood up hurts.
Best dates for me would be at places like carnivals, ice skating, bowling, going to the football, a concert, something that is going to be fun and bring me out of my shell and hopefully the guy aswell. Going to the cinema is just the worst one, you can't talk to the other person and get to know them, it's more like a thing to do with your boyfriend for a wee day out or something.
I didn't read the post, but I had to say that the picture at the beginning is breath taking!