Sunday, 25 October 2009
-
Do Lesbians Hate Men?
Now first of all, don't get me wrong. I support the gay community, but I'm stuck in the middle with my family. See, my sister has recently been divorced from her husband of ten years and my family and I have discovered it was because she was seeing woman. As long as my sister is happy, I don't care if it's a woman OR a man providing for her. But lately, now her and her SO talk down every man there is to bash on. For example, my boyfriend, who has never even raised his voice to me the least bit.
What's with the change already? I know getting a divorce probably makes you a little sketchy on the opposite sex, but does that give my sister and her SO the right to think every man is the devil?
RecommendRelated Posts
Post a Comment
- Back to datingish's Datingish Site!
- Note: your comment will appear in datingish's local time zone: GMT -05:00 (Eastern Standard - US, Canada)
About the Author
-
- From: Jdunkx4@xanga
- About Me: The trouble is that we think we have time.
Stats: This Week All Time Posts: 0 1 Views: 0 1932 Comments: 0 64 View all posts by Jdunkx4@xanga
Comments (68)
No. She's just bitter; straight women talk shit about guys too.
Don't generalise; based on just one person, it doesn't hold true for a whole community, that's just where stereotypes come from. If I speak Mandarin to my parents, does that mean I don't speak English, just because I'm the only Chinese person you've ever seen? No.
No. Your sister just has her head up her ass. What makes a woman a lesbian is her attraction to other women. She is just generalizing and making herself look foolish.
No.
Next time she says something, punch her right in the mouth.
No. I knew a lot of lesbians and they were really really good friends to me. I can't say best friends, but it was close. Like an intimate girlfriend close w/o the intimacy.
lol, and I got clued in on important girl stuff. XD
No actually lesbians love their lesbros. Most of my friends are guys I think it has more to do with her divorce. She's probably bitter and her partner is probably a bit insecure. Please don't make things even more difficult for our community by claiming we hate men. >.>; That's as logical as saying straight chicks hate women.
That's the kind of stuff that makes me mad. I have a lesbian friend who does it. I just try to separate myself from her when she starts it, because it's ridiculous.
i think she's just bitter because of the divorce (not sure about her ladyfriend). but i sincerely doubt that a preference for one gender means one hates the other gender.
No. Most of my lesbian friends just think guys are annoying when they ask them to make out with another chick. :P
no offense, but tell her to get the stick out of her ass. i know plenty of gay and lesbian people and rarely do i hear them bashing the other sex. in fact, they know what they want and they simply just say "that isn't my thing". my gay friends love girls to just hang out. and my lesbian friends do go out with a bunch of people, guys included. being a lesbian doesnt make your personality horrible. in fact, i know many lesbians who will flirt with a guy just to get a drink. i know that's bad but it's funny when you're in on what she's doing :) people get a long, despite sexual orientation... just like other ethnicities and races get along despite language or color of skin.
yes.
no, she's clearly bitter
I have a lesbian relative who has nothing against me or the men in or outside of my family. She has every right to generalize males as good-for-nothing, especially since all the men she's dated have been total asses. Yet, she doesn't.
Your sister probably had some pretty bad experiences with her husband and just hasn't been able to cope.
As for all the people above who say you are implying that all lesbians hate men, I think they're being way too defensive. You're just asking an honest question. I have had the same question, since most lesbians I know around my age have the "all men are stupid" attitude as well.
@MissPixieGlitter@xanga - agreed. after a divorce I can see why she'd vent out on men.. haha but i hope not all lesbians think that way.
Meh. It's clear that your sister just had a few bad relations with men so she needs some way to back her sources to prove that all men stink. :P Don't worry about it too much. Some people just need a way to vent, and this is how she does it.
You sound really naive! Yes, some lesbians hate men, your sister is bitter over her divorce and taking that out on ALL men, starting with the CLOSEST one to her, excluding family. But as a effing generalization no not all lesbians hate men.
And the reason you sound naive? Just because your boyfriend has never raised his voice to you doesn't mean shit. They could be seeing things about him that you DON'T see or REFUSE TO see. Raising ones voice is only ONE way a person can be a jerk. You also don't really sound like you support your sister being with woman as mush as you say you do based on the way you stereotype lesbians, and the overall feel of your post.
i dont think all lesbians hate men, i've been struggling in one of my classes a lot recently and this random lesbian girl started helping me out and thus saving my ass.
its likely the divorce that's causing your sister to bash. my mother even admitted that she had a low opinion of men in general after my father ditched. i find the fact that my mom's a man-hater kinda amusing, on a positive note, that means she has no interest in ever dating again.
Do lesbians hate men? Really... This is a ridiculous question. Maybe some people indeed do hate men... But you cant categorize people because they have the same sexual orientation. There very well may be racist straight men. That doesn't mean all straight men are racist.
Or how about this question...
Do GAY MEN hate females? Arh.. No!
Now, I guess they have the right to hate men. Because honestly, I don't like the majority of them either.
But they DO NOT have the right to talk about your man. So tell them to shut up.
I doubt that being a lesbian automatically makes you hate men. A lot of people think lesbians and feminists are interchangeable, but they're not. (Just for the record, feminists also don't automatically hate men, but that's the more common stereotype.)
Perhaps your sister and her SO see something wrong with your boyfriend but you are oblivious. Maybe your sister thinks you deserve a guy who is better for you. Don't dismiss her opinions just because she's of a different sexual orientation than you.
I have had lesbian friends, so NO.
i think its more self affirming herself in her coice
No we don't hate men. Some of my closest friends are men. That we are in love with another woman does not make us man haters. You'll find that there are probably more straight man haters than lesbian man haters. Your sister is just bitter which is odd because she is the one that went off to be with someone else
No, but I hate your alien face.
To my knowledge of the whole coming out process your sister may have been in denial of her orientation and this divoce served as a way of letting her come out and show her true self!
The odds of a purely heterosexual person turning lesbian/gay because of a bad relationship are very small because that's not who that person is. Take myself for example: I have had bad relationships but I couldn't see myself dating a woman because of it.
Some lesbians do hate men but some straight women hate men to. I'm sure you've done your fair share of bashing men, I know I have lol. Also, just because i don't date women doesn't mean I don't like them. That's just not who I am!
I'm glad to hear you support your sister and I hope she's happier now :)
i'm sure there are some who do, but i don't think that's why lesbians aren't with men. they just aren't attracted to them.
@snapeful@xanga - Agreed!!