Saturday, 24 October 2009
Who has not gone through a bad break-up? Sometimes the bad break-up simply leaves us with heartache and sad memories. Other break-ups leave the rest of us just hating our exes.
Story 1: My boyfriend, for example, had gone through a bad break-up back in high school. The relationship lasted over two years!
Of course, my boyfriend now is happy with me. But whenever the ex came up in conversation, his hate for her was obvious. He would confide in me his thoughts about his ex. I was glad he could tell me how much he wanted his ex to suffer, and I mean really suffer. There were conversations where we would plan how to ruin his ex's life (and some were quite humorous). This is not to mean my boyfriend is not over his ex-girlfriend. People harbor feelings for over lifetime's.
His wish: That his ex-girlfriend is left unhappy, loveless, and suffering. This would make his life just a little bit happier.
So far: Not going to happen. She is happily in a relationship, making her way through college, and already living on her own. But hey, my boyfriend can still dream can't he?
Story 2: I went through a bad break-up in high school. However, I was the one simply left with the heartbreak and sad memories. Recently, I heard my ex returned to our small town.
For months, I felt the need to talk to him. Maybe talk to my ex about the past, ask him questions. Maybe catch up. I never wanted him to suffer or ever felt any hatred toward him.
It was not until recently that I found out that his life is shit. He's drinking all the time, he's jobless and loveless, and far disconnected from his family. A lot of my friends think he's a jerk now.
And...for....some reason...I was silently satisfied.
After the conversation with my friends, I found myself never wanting to talk with my ex again. I felt totally over him. Ironic that I was the person who did not my ex to suffer and he did, when my boyfriend is always constantly hoping his ex is suffering and she's not.
So my question to you readers,
1) Have you ever wanted your ex to suffer so badly? And if so, what is the worse kind of suffering you could imagine for them? Is it just a small situation or did you plan a whole lifetime?
2) Secondly, what made your ex so bad? Why do you want them to suffer?