When you get married, the preacher will say "in sickness and in health" when you say them, take them seriously because you never know when and how serious you or your spouse can get sick.
What if you were sick before you got married, like in my situation, I was suffering from some unknown illness yet my fiance stayed by my side, holding my hand as I doubled over in severe pain. Other guys whom I dated ran as soon as I started having what I called then an "episode" which means severe pain and crazy meanness. One guy even told me "I can't handle you" and left. That said to me you are not the right person for me. I thought to myself I need someone that will stand by my side, hold my hand, let me cry on his shoulder when I'm in pain. I found him, and that is my husband.
He called the doctor for me set up an appointment went with me right after we were married two weeks I believe, and when I was advised I needed surgery he said "how soon I want her to feel better." He put his life on hold for me. He the day before surgery held my hand literally, shoved laxative mixed with Gatorade at me saying "you have to drink it!" because I was having a laparoscopy and they needed all stomach contents removed. I was also having a D&C, which there's no preparing for that!
After surgery he was the one who walked me up two flights of stairs to our apartment and got me in bed. For the first two days, he was by my side 24 hours, helping me up getting me out of bed making sure I had everything. When I went back to the doctor for follow up he was there with me, and I was diagnosed with endometriosis. Endometriosis is not curable, not deadly, but it is painful. The doctor said mine wasn't as severe and even so, I am starting to have problems again. But still I have a husband by my side, and even though I am not able to work, he is providing for me, working 19 day stretches at his job and trying to keep me healthy.
So when your dating someone see if they stick by you through a cold, or the flu because when it comes to marriage its a lifelong commitment and you need someone who will be there through it all and won't give up when the going gets tough. I love my husband forever, and even though its been 7 months since we got married together we have seen more of the sickness and health than the rest of the vows we promised to uphold.
Would you stay in sickness and in health?
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yes.
of course, otherwise I wouldn't said it!
but too many people only stay in "Health" and run away when problems occurs instead of trying to work it out! that is why divorce rate is so high in the US!
Absolutely - I got extremely ill about two weeks after my wedding. And I've been sick ever since. And my husband has been above and beyond wonderful - I'd never give him anything less. Sickness and in health is pretty explicit! No one should get married unless they mean what they're saying.
Absolutely.
Of course, if i wasnt willing to help my future spouse through anything i wouldnt be getting married to him.
I'm sick myself. High blood pressure caused by high cholesterol. I get manic periods where I get heart attacks. My girlfriend knows it, and she's ready to face it.
of course
yes, of course I would stay in sickness and in health. I would love him no matter what.
Absolutely--marriage is about commitment regardless of circumstances..through thick and thin.
I'm so happy for you and your husband, that you found that true love that transcends all. I hope your condition is soon able to improve somehow..so that you two can enjoy more of the "in health" parts of your vows, but in the meantime, it is evident you remain fulfilled in each other throughout it all. Very heartening to see..more couples should be like you two. <3
my girlfriend is sick almost every day with nausea, and she also gets sick really easily. it's SO hard, and sometimes i just wanna blow up or break down and cry but i've been with her through everything.
Of course! I have many close friends with possibly life-threatening illnesses, and I'd never abandon them. I surely wouldn't leave my husband (not that I'm married) because he was ill!
yes..
Congrats on your marriage. You're truly blessed for a husband likes yours. I really wish my now bf will forever stay like the way he is, caring and nurturing, but who knows if he'll really stay if I come down with some incurable disease. Hopefully he will. I mean, it's a great burden on his shoulders, and I would feel really bad to keep on depending on someone for the rest of my life. Consider yourself lucky. ^_^
yes. and congratulations on finding a guy who is willing to do that and for being the woman who is willing to do that also. you're totally right about how in todays culture people are much less likely to really mean what they say at the altar and that causes the high rate of divorice, obviously. so it's great to hear from the people who aren't just in it for the honeymoon phase and are really committed to their mariage. I hope you're encouraged by all the comments that people have left when you face hard times. :)
hmm...whenever i hear this, i think about mental illness. what if "sickness" is severe bipolar disorder, where your spouse bounces between manic spending sprees and black depression? or alcoholism? what about if your spouse gets a brain tumor, and becomes very nasty to everyone around them?
i believe i would stay through anything once married, but i think if i knew someone had, for example, a severe chronic mental illness, i might not want to get married in the first place. but that's just me; they could probably find someone who could handle them and love them for it!
I'm so glad that your husband was there for you.
my boyfriend was with me in the ICU right after i had my car accident. he slept in the hospital windowsill, he spent a night at my house since it was closer to the hospital, he woke up at 5 am to drive to see me one day even though he had work at 1 pm.
i still can't drive since my accident, its been 2 months and we live an hour appart. he still drives to my house at least once a week for a few days on his days off, even though i can't reciprocate. he's even driven me to his house, and back, just so we could spend more time together. he's just wonderful :)
and yes i would do the same for him in a heartbeat. hopefully some day we'll get that in writing :)
Of course :)
awwww thats really sweet
for my SO i definitely would :)
i dont know about like exes though, it's different this time I can feel it
I know alot of people say yes and can't really put it into practice, but if my SO was put in that position. Yeh, I'd definitely stay by his side ^^
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deffinately. there is a history of a disorder similar to bi-polar in my g/f's family. and she see's her mom struggling with it currently. her fears are that when/if she gets episodes like that then i won't stay. However, if you can't love someone at their worst, how can you say you love them at their best?
those other guys that ran away from you asap are punks
you are truly lucky to have somebody at your bedside 24/7 doing everything they can to help you get better..that is husband material
My fiance sticks by me, and I get sick a lot. I have a very weak immune system. He also stuck by me last year through a very complicated pregnancy [I aborted], which had me nauseous LITERALLY 24/7 and vomiting at least five times a day.
your husband sounds like an amazing man :) I'm glad you found him :)
My husband has a brain injury that has left me at times feeling like I'm married to a stranger. The results of it have completely changed him. His physical health is bad but that's not nearly as bad as dealing with the memory loss, mood swings and paranoia. I'm still by his side, I will always be by his side even when he has no clue who the heck I am, or when he is yelling at me because he is angry about something that never happened etc. To me love is a choice and a commitment. It isn't really love if it can't handle the hard times. For me people are not disposable and love is forever.
Most definitely. I'm very fortunate to also have a husband who is so supportive of me and takes care of me in my time of need. I've been sick for the past week and like my soldier, he's there fighting the battle with me. I'm really sorry about your sickness and I hope you feel better.
I have definately had to deal with my boyfriend in sickness and hurt-ness. He got super sick with some stomach thing the first year we dated, he also burned a massive hole in his leg in a motorcycle accident, he lost several people (and a dog) that were close to him, then he got diagnosed with ulceritive colitis, and blew his back out. It has definately been a challenge. The back injury has been the hardest one for us to deal with as it has been really limited...we used to snowmobile all winter, and motorcycle all summer, and we couldn't do any of that. It has been really tough as he is all depressed from it because he feels hopeless....