Thursday, 22 October 2009
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Women Beating Their Men?
I was just recently watching the Tyra Banks Show and today's topic was Women Abusers.
The whole thing was about how women punch and slap and even spit on there husbands or boyfriends. One woman even pushed her boyfriend down the stairs. The girlfriends claimed they did it cause they loved them. But I think they are just doing because they knew their boyfriends would stay with them. I would never hit my boyfriend. I mean, I may have jokingly hit him. But never out of anger. The roles are slightly reversed. It's scary because I never knew this happens in relationships.
For all the women out there: Would you or do you hit your boyfriends?
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I saw that segment as well, and it's unfortunate that something like that exists in our society. :\
I would never hit my boyfriend. He doesn't deserve that kind of treatment. :(
no. i would never raise a hand on someone else out of anger. and my SO is the most understanding person in the world. we argue, but our arguments consist of an abundance of rhetorical questions. he rarely raises his voice, and i never yell in an argument. i can talk in circles until you get confused, and by then you'll just get annoyed, but that's another story. there are other ways to sort out issues, but being abusive is not one of them.
I pushed my boyfriend away from me once and I immediately felt awful. I just thought about how he's never gotten physically rough with me and how he didn't deserve it. I also know he had issues like that in the past with a girl who had done similar things.
I could never see myself hitting/slapping/throwing things at him. It's just disrespectful and abusive, and no one deserves to be in an abusive relationship.
Well...I slapped an ex once, and I made it clear that I never wanted to see him again.
Though I don't condone hitting boyfriends, sometimes I think some assholes deserve just one good slap before you walk out the door.
I would NEVER raise a hand to my boyfriend, 1. because I love him and 2. I dont fight anyway, I cant hit anyone other than my little brother, purely because hes a pain in the butt
Oh sure, I beat mine all the time.
Of course, I'm joking. I would NEVER hit my mitch. We try to keep a relaxed environment. We're both happier that way.
I always playfully punch my boyfriend in the arm or slap him. Not one of those hard-core slaps though...a playful slap that makes him laugh and toss me around, haha. I would never hurt him though...not unless he attacked me for some reason which is ridiculous too.
Why people possibly think "I hurt him/her because I love him/her" is an actually excuse is mind blowing...You don't hurt the people you love. :[
I'm with you, I don't hit seriously, or out of anger, but I'll hit him jokingly, and we play-wrestle and all that. (I even hate using the word hit when it's a joke...)
@gatorgirl54@xanga - sooo....I...guess...girls do too?
@dearFLOPPY@xanga - Haha, I do the same. I confuse him out of an argument. Talk in circles til he forgets what we were talking about.
lmao! That would be cool! I love it when women beat me beat me!
hitting them because they love them is the stupidest thing i ever heard.
Hitting from either end of the relationship due to anger is never good. I know a couple where the woman physically abuses the man who doesn't hit her because she's a woman. They have a pretty messed up relationship :/
I think I've slapped a boy out of anger once in my life. Granted, he really did deserve it (even my English teacher agreed with me. He witnessed the entire thing and told him off AFTER I slapped him). I've never hit a significant other though (not that I could actually do anything except tickle them when I try to beat them with my tiny ineffectual fists -__-)
Besides, emotional damage is more effective/lasts longer and if you can't inflict emotional damage on your SO, then it probably means they don't care about you anyway so there's really no point in the end (not that I'm promoting emotional damage! Just saying they should care if you're hurt)
I've hit my boyfriend before after he called me a psychotic bitch (probably not the best responce I just went and proved it). I felt bad as soon as I did it but it didn't hurt him.
I saw that episode too. The one woman who was like "I still love him" and crying and asking him to forgive her was exactly like my ex...which is why I stayed for 5 months. I think that sometimes they really do believe they love the person which makes it so hard to leave. The important thing to remember is that no matter how sorry they seem it will happen again and it will get worse. The best thing to do is leave. And if they follow do what I do and get a restraining order. Because love isn't supposed to hurt.
I told my husband if I ever hit him that he can (and should) hit me back. I can't see myself ever hitting him though. For one, I love him too much and two, he's huge and no amount of force from me is going to have any ill effect on him at all.
Yep. Smacked, kick, etc. You name it. I've done it. But only after retaliation after they have done something to me. Like if they spit in my face.
If your man hits you don't fucking sit and cry hit his ass right back bitches! Stop being so damn weak!
I think many of the posters responding aren't thinking on equal level terms. If a guy were to hit a girl, there could be serious repercussions. Because society doesn't deem it as harsh as when a girl hits a guy, many girls aren't or don't find the need to restrain themselves since there isn't a fear of society coming down on them -- like the guy is supposed to just take it. Guys are just at too much of a disadvantage if you understand what I mean.
Since equality is often stress, don't many of you think that you also have that fear of repercussions like you could go to jail -- and NOT ever hit them out of anger regardless?
@pretend2fly@xanga - "Because love isn't support to hurt." Huh? Hahaha. But do you think it would have been better to have just returned a verbal response instead of hitting him back when he called you a "psychotic bitch"?
@gatorgirl54@xanga - "Though I don't condone hitting boyfriends, sometimes I think some assholes deserve just one good slap before you walk out the door."
Do you also believe that some bitches deserve one good slap too?
This is actually a huge problem in relationships. Men are not nearly as likely to report spousal abuse because of the stigma involved. Their masculinity would then be in question. However, it happens so frequently. Women are just as capable as doing just as much damage to a man that won't defend himself as a man is capable of doing to a woman.
sometimes we get into chomping wars or something ... like. he grabbed a chunk of my sweatshirt in his mouth, so i chomped on his arm to try and make him let go. we scrambled around a bit more... there were still red marks from my bite by the end of the night lol...that's just us playing.
ummm but yeah, nothing to specifically hurt him for manipulative purpose.
I think its one of the biggest double standards around, bigger then the whole if i sleep around im a slut if he sleeps around hes the "man." You lay a finger on a girl and you get the free ride downtown, she hits you and you look like a guy who can't handle his woman or his relationship. @TangMSU@xanga - I'm with you on bitches getting a slap when they truly deserve it!!!
I agree that if the damage is the same when a woman hits a man- the repercussion should be the same. In my personal instance- I hit like a fucking girl. I could try and close-fist punch a guy, but I seriously couldn't hurt him. Now, if he punched me....
My current boyfriend and I have many anger issues and we've blown up before on each other- but we've never resorted to violence. And he is the kind of guy who gets in bar fights :3
No, I would never ever do that..
The plain and simple core of the matter is this: hitting your significant other is DOMESTIC VIOLENCE. Whether it be male on female, male on male, female on male, or female on female- if you're in a committed emotional and/or sexual relationship with a person and you physically hurt them, it's domestic violence.