I love my SO. I like to hold hands and kiss and sit in laps and all the other things people do when they're in love. I like being around people who are in love, it makes me happy--I've always felt this way, even when I was single. I don't think anyone should have to stifle their feelings because they happen to be in public. I'm comfortable with people expressing their feelings (physically and verbally) near me, and am often surprised to hear that others don't feel this way.
I am particularly annoyed by the term "Get a Room," mostly because it's often prompted by nothing but a kiss. Affection is a good thing. It releases endorphins and all kinds of feel good chemicals. In short, it makes us happy. And happiness is infectious. I'm not advocating any kind of sexual/genital contact in public, but a little cuddle now and then is perfectly acceptable, even desired, as far as I'm concerned.
How do you feel about PDA (public displays of affection)?
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Kisses, hugs & light cuddling are fine. When you're a step away from sex or groping each other, that's a bit much...
PDA is acceptable in moderation.
It depends... I mean, an innocent kiss or hug makes me happy and it's cute to see, but I've seen people grab eachother's butts in walmart or flat out making out, and I personally don't want to see it.
Hand holding and a simple kiss for me. Anything beyond that I keep private. Not for my sake, but for the sake of others.
I personally hate PDA (I have issues with being touched and watching other people touch each other), but it's obviously up to the couple.
A good reason I've heard as to why PDA can be annoying has nothing to do with the level of intimacy though, but rather the fact that it's OK for a straight couple to be as affectionate in public as possible while a gay couple gets ostracized or fetishized. It's short of like flaunting straight privilege, know what I mean?
PDAs are healthy. They don't hurt anyone. I wouldn't understand why people would think it's hurting other people.
I like PDA. Nothing excessive, always in moderation, but I enjoy being with my girlfriend (it's not often that I'm with her since I'm in school in another state), so I love doing the things I can't while I have the chance =)
moderate pda is okay, beyond that, not so much.
I like to keep it to hand holding and sweet kisses. It's a little weird to me to see people hardcore making out in public. Especially in restaurants and food courts, which I see a lot of for some reason. But other than that I have no problem with it, I enjoy being affectionate.
its cool as long as you are not slobbering down your lover's throat or dry humping. i hate when i go to theatres and hear and see this. its like wtf?!?...y did u waste your money on a movie just to not watch it and be basically screwing in front of me?!? I personally am not into pda but if its clean im not against it. its a free country.
Dry kisses [aka not french or gaping mouths] and hugs are okay to me. Everything else is a no-no. I don't want to see that, especially if I'm a sad lonely single girl. lol
Hugs, holding hands, kisses and cuddles are totally fine, imo.
It's what's going too far that bothers me (near sex).as most of the above people say only in moderation
there's a point where enough is enough.
holding hands, holding your SO by the waist, hugging, and light kissing are all fine.
however when you are making out/tongue kissing, groping each other, putting hands into shirts/pants, etc. that's not appropriate for a public place.
i don't mind when people kiss and cuddle..
but serious make outs.. or kissing the other's ear.. or groping.. that's when you should get a room.
i have a boyfriend and i don't want to see that stuff.. >.<
I love holding hands, kissing my husband wherever we are....public or not! And I like seeing other couples do the same. :)
People need to loosen up. PDA is fun!
holding hands or walking arm and arm, a hug (not grabing other body parts) and a simple kiss are fine. out and out make out session or anything close (like in the photo) should be better served in a more pvt. area
I have no problem with PDA besides the touch of envy. le sigh.
Some PDA is appropriate, but there is a point when it becomes awkward and rude.
Such as when I was driving my friends home at one point, they both sat in the back of MY freaking car, and made out... making it so I could not see out of my back window. It was so damned rude, that I freaked out about it later. My car is not a taxi, thank you very much. Plus they'd like grope each other and shit. Not cool
You can hug, hold hands, kiss [but not make out], and cuddle in an appropriate manner. That is how far it should go.
@MarnieAyn@xanga - It's not really hurting other people, it's just awkward and rude.. especially when you're like a third wheel.
I can deal with holding hands or a simple kiss. There are limits. It makes others feel uncomfortable and I feel it's disrespectful. There are some things that shouldn't be done in public.
its okay as long as its not too much
because then other people feel awkward
and its kinda rude if ure jst like marginalising the other person for like 15 mins while u do ur thang xD
UGH! I KNOW RIGHT?! I hate when people say "get a room" to me and my bf from a simply little kiss. Personally, I'm fine with PDA all the way up to making out. Anything beyond that, though.. is for private areas.