Tuesday, 20 October 2009
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The Science of Dating
The scientific definition of dating is: the use of chemical analysis to estimate the age of geological specimens. I think it’s a more viable definition of dating than what I’ve seen in contemporary terms.
To rephrase: using chemical analysis to determine specimens. It makes you think doesn’t it--considering the modern, lackadaisical terms and usages of dating (re: speed-dating).
This scientific analogy brings up the fact that dating is not only about getting to know people to consider further romantic involvements but how you go about it reflects the type of person you are.
I’m sure this further contemplation of the process does not reflect well on most casual daters but that’s the whole point. We’ve lost something in modern courtship. No longer is wooing about getting to know someone so much as it is to obtain someone. As if people were mere possessions and relationships were only trendy destinations.
In most situations, chemistry reflects compatibility whether it be physical or emotional. It is not imposed upon nor is it necessarily expected. If there is chemistry between two individuals then the next test is to see how they relate with this chemistry. Flings and one-night stands show a lack of sophistication in how both individuals relate to each other. You might have passion but it usually does not last. A match can ignite a fire but you need kindle to keep it going. What is kindle? It’s the wooing and romance that is amiss in modern hook-ups.
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Why do they call it chemistry of love? I know my chem completely, but love still eludes me...
i think love and sex have always and will always be at a societal equilibrium
some sex w/o love, love w/o sex, taboos, too much sex, etc etc etc ... it has always been so.
I think love, attraction, and all that stuff is something deeper that happens in the sub-conscience. It's the way you just happen to like someone. You don't really know why but it's just the way it is.
Here are some articles on the science of sex...pretty interesting factoids. There are a bunch of them but I only linked to 2 of them.
http://bit.ly/4pE3I8
http://bit.ly/u8DS9
yes, i agree. but many people have now separated physical satisfaction and romantic satisfaction, and that one doesn't necessarily need the other.
I always thought that love is nature's trick for humans -- to get them to reproduce. The only worthwhile "chemistry" would be how to design the right formula for a "love potion".
The last part of this post assumes that flings and one night stands are meant to be romantic relationships when they are often done for purely sexual reasons. I don't see them as being immature or unsophisticated because of that.
There are sexual relationships and there are romantic relationships. They can be either separate, together, or nonexistent, but I think it's silly to assume that where there's one there's the other. People have sex without relationships and people have relationships without sex. Of course certain hook-ups aren't romantic because they weren't meant to be romantic in the first place.
that's why they call it modern hook-ups, they're no feelings in hook-ups. it's just to take care of business. at least that's what it means to me.
some people are pigs or have sex like dogs. it isn't even shocking anymore. nothing really wrong with that Lol this is the new age 'dating' trend
it it their body, so do as they desire. good luck y'all.
@salvatruca_stalking_havok13@xanga - I agree that in some cases one-night stands are passion-induced moments that does not reflect on someone's real nature or social standing. But you have to agree is it easier to have sex or be courted/seduced and what does that say about most people?