Monday, 19 October 2009
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Kissing Crooked Romeo Goodbye
How many of you have been in a really crappy relationship? Ladies, all your heads should be nodding right now. Let's face it, if you have gone out with more than one guy, you must know how a seriously bad, hellish relationship can be...maybe not HELLISH as such but you get the point.
What I am saying is that these bad relationships couldn't have been shot down as 'bad' after... say, a week, no, way more time has to be spent in a bad relationship to actually know that it is indeed BAD.
A girlfriend of mine dated this guy for all of five months before they finally broke up. They were the most mismatched pair in the world, like separate poles, on two different planets and even as a third party viewing the whole thing, I could tell that was one bad bad relationship right there. He would openly tap other girls' asses and make out with some of them when she was not watching. She mind you, KNEW THIS WAS HAPPENING but he would be a perfect gentleman towards her so she would brush it aside.
During this five month hell train she was at complete liberty to say 'Hey, asshole, it's like totally over between us' but she didn't. All, or if not all then most of the pain we as women feel during bad relationships can be cut short by simply telling the dumbasses-who-are-not-grateful-to-have-us to kick it to the curb. He doesn't feel the pain you do when he cheats but you, on your own completely, decide to stick it through.
Would you play the romantic little trooper and tough it out or would you kiss crooked Romeo goodbye?
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I put up with way too much shit for way too long because I'm so blinded by love and I naively hope the boy will change even after he's let me down for months or years. It sucks. Hopefully next time I'll have learned from wasting three years with an emotionally abusive asswipe.
I'll never tough it out.
Edit: Or maybe, more like, I cannot tough it out. I'm emotionally and physically incapable of being with someone who hurts me.
The moment my ex hit me, I dumped him. My friend's boyfriend hits her (regularly), forces her to have sex with him when she doesn't feel like it (in a violent manner) and calls her a bitch. But she's totally toughing it out. I'll never do something like that. Ever.
I know too many girls who tough it out in bad relationships. Including me.
Goodbye.
@Drizzles@xanga -
pain is love.... pain up the butt hole
@crazykoon@xanga - I... guess...If that works for you, then thanks for sharing your definition of love. It isn't what I think so though. Maybe it'll change in time. But right now, my view of love isn't pain.
i'm currently trying to kiss crooked romeo goodbye - but he's got an evil hold on me. *sigh*
stupid stupid stupid!
I can't have less than i deserve; no matter how much i'm tempted to be naive.
I just kissed crooked romeo goodbye not too long ago..
Sometimes that crooked Romeo isn't as obvious as some of the cases mentioned above (and in your post). It really depends on how much you're willing to endure. For me, I was ok with him constantly being late or disappearing for a couple of days. But the last straw was when I found out he had lied to me. That's when all the other stuff became too much for me and he was kicked out of the house. Some people would have kicked him to the curb a long time before that. Others, even after finding out that he lied, would still tough it out. Still further, some might even decide it's worth saving even after finding out that he was cheating. I guess it really does depend on one's state of mind and how far you're willing to sacrifice your time and emotions.
if someone's a waste of time, i always kiss them goodbye...
i'd dump him
waste of my life >>
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Don't forget, guys go through crappy relationships too. Don't frame it as simply a female problem, because it's not.
That being said, if I was in such an obviously crappy situation, I would totally kick his ass to the curb. Sometimes, though, the fact that you're in a bad relationship can be harder to see. *shrugs*
I'd say goodbye.
I stuck through an on/off relationship for 7 months. I kept going back to him thinking that he would change. It finally ended when he found another girl. 9 months later (after all that mourning/analyzing what went wrong)... I went on a date with another guy. (This was about 2 weeks ago) He was such a gentleman. Everything that the other guy wasn't. After that date, I never looked back, and I see what my relationship for what it really was.Â
I've dealt with an asshole before, so I would kick him to the curb.
kinda makes you wonder if they are just putting up a front on first dates or if girls like to date jerks.
@shoujo@xanga - i agree with you. it's not like it's written on their forehead.
they sneak up on you when you least expect it.
I feel like most of us try and stick it out...I know that I did.
I would dump him if i had sufficient reason to expect he was cheating on me. Hell, i dont want to be with someone who doesnt really want to be with me. There is no 'try, and stick it out' in that type of situation. Its a waste of time, unless the guy is honest and never does that again but i would never take back someone who has cheated.
I toughed it out for a bit. Then he broke it off. He ended up using me, and although it was obvious that it was leading up to that (he eventually didn't call, never visited, etc), I thought maybe I could try and change that. I had been really close to breaking it off when he did it himself, but it was still messy as all hell because he was such a raging asshole about everything.
Ughh. I really wish there was a bit more sex neutrality in these posts. This post is MERELY a thread about a woman ('ahem' 16 year old girl) complaining about men and women joining in for a pity party; there's like no room for discussion or anything.
On top of it, the topic is so vague -- are you complaining about "bad relationships" in general or are you complaining about "cheating and therefore the relationship turns bad'? If you're complaining about specifically "bad relationships" then make it sex neutral because men can complain about women as much as women can complain about men.
Sheesh.
I am sticking it out now. Totally regret getting back with him. I'm stupid. The worst part is that I don't know why I'm doing this... I guess I'm lying to myself about how he will change. It's been seven months of HELL!
I am so much smarter than this. sigh