One day he asked me; "
I know you love me, but why do you stay with me?"
I start thinking to myself; and wondering. I began to name the obvious:
honest,
trustworthy and whatnot. But I started hating the question because he just stared at me speechless and wanting a different answer but we knew we were not going to get that answer he wanted from me because I hate being put on the spot like that. So, I shut down and stopped playing this game because I did not understand this question. Wasn't it already obvious? Because it was to me.
He told me, one of his coworkers asked him if he was going to marry me one day and he replied, "
Yeah, man." His coworker said "
because she understands you, right?" and of course he replied "
yes." So he continued to tell me; he sees us in the future together because I understand him the most. I did not know how that made so much sense
until after that conversation was over and I had finished crying over something we were bickering about.
He told me he
understands everything about me from the
facial actions, to the way I
talk, to my
moods. Which, of course, is true. He knows when I am disturbed and when I am quiet; my mind is filled with endless
thoughts. He knows I have a hard time expressing my feelings especially out loud but he makes sure I s
ay it. He knows I will cry to myself first until he points it out by saying "
Now, you're going to cry." and of course I will start crying even more, but he
holds me until I get calmer. Until then, I didn't realize that he was
right; he does
completely understand
me as I do understand
him.
Why do you stay with your SO? Are there things you instinctively understand about them?
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I stay with them because I love them and remain loyal. However, it has to be a mutual commitment as well in order for it to work. My last one ended because it seemed that she just gave up on the relationship, despite the fact that we never fought and I did everything I was suppose to as a good boyfriend. I guess some people never realize what they have at the moment.
aw same thing man :)
because he knows me the best and he's the most amazing person in my life. He means the world to me and I can't even express in words how he does.
Of course! Even over the phone or texting, I can tell when he's upset, or if something's bothering him. And I know that whenever he says "Umm.." he's about to ask me, "Can I ask you a question?" I like knowing these things. :)
btw, congrats on what seems like an amazing guy. ;) Refreshing after seeing all these omg-he's-cheating-on-me datingish posts!<3
Because he makes me deliriously happy.
Usually. :PMy SO is undoubtedly my soulmate, and I don't even have to think why I want to stay with him. He knows me so well and we've known each other less than a year, dated for 3 months, yet it's like we've known each other for our whole lives. We have a similar sense of humor. We both thrive on being together rather than apart, love cuddling, have the same likes and dislikes, and if one of us finds something new or likes something the other hasn't tried, we'll look into it. Each of us already knows how to read the other's individual body language (ex: he bites the inside of his cheek when frustrated or, when he's tired, has trouble making good English sentences since it's his second language) We're attached at the hip and love each other so much, it's ridiculous.
Man, I wish I had a man to understand me.
Me and my SO have a closeness similar to you and yours.
I've been apart from him before, we did not deal well as just friends. And being back together, better, strong and deeper than before, its not something we want to leave (especially after many issues from other relationships that proved how special ours was and is).
He's my best friend, my soul mate, the one person I can rely on always being there even if we end up fighting, or even during stressful periods of our lives. I couldn't live without knowing my soul mate, and because I met him and he found me, I do not have to.
He makes every day feel like kindergarden. (:
Iunno :) I've just always wanted to let him know someone loved him. Before we got together I would be so giddy about it, I could not wait until school so that I could express my feelings to him. For some reason I knew I would not be rejected... in retrospect that's sort of weird lol
I helped him through hard times, and now I rely on him for comfort when I miss him, 8000 miles away...
wow something similar happened to me this weekend. he came out and had a heart to heart with me and then proposed..
he always says im too good for him and the reason i stay with him is because he is soooooo great to me. he treats me like im a princess and its like i am sitting in the palm of his hand and hes taking care of me. he knows what to say and he knows how when im down or when im happy. he just knows me so well. even though we have only known each other for a year but we are just so comfortable together and we haven't had a fight at all.
this is the cutest fucking post ive ever seen. it makes me so happy.
Because I'm chained to her bed and RESISTANCE IS FUTILE!
I love my husband more than I can put into words. And most of the time we don't have to. Sometimes we say and understand the most by not saying anything at all. Cheesy? You bet. And it's great.
@BlehhItsTu@xanga - saaaaaaaame :/
ive been dating my boyfriend for about 2 years now. we fight...alot. but i stay with him for the exact same reason your boyfriend wants to marry you. He understands me, and i understand him. i feel like i will never find anyone who will treat me or play with me the way he does. We dont really joke around because he doesnt like that. I love him, and i cant get over him. Ive tried moving on,but i cant. I feel like ive found my soul mate.
He's the only person that's ever really understood me...we'll be talking, and I'll just stop, because what I'm saying doesn't even make sense to me, a sigh, followed by a nevermind, and he still gets me. He'll finish what I was trying to say, and he'll make it make sense. I don't know how he does that. We're so alike in so many ways, but so different in others. We argue, and disagree, but we're over it in five minutes. I understand him, he understands me, it's perfect. :)
awwwh. thats so sweet. I stay with mine because i feel secure when i'm with him. he's the only one to tell me the whole truth, and i can do the same with him. he's and i share the same humor so we're able to laugh and joke about the same things. we're both kids at heart, so we make the most fun out of things.
well.. to be honest, I understand him and he.. somewhat does.
He understands my actions but not my feelings and thats just because hes a very blunt person so I dont blame him.
But all in all, we are still together because we love each other and can provide each other happiness through respect and attempts of understanding.
@Forever_Unlimited@xanga sameeee.
but seriously, she is just the one who i can always rely on. she's my rock. :D
We're psychically linked. Just kidding.
My boyfriend and I stay together because we not only understand each other, but we mesh well, if that makes sense.
its weird, but we really both know each other way to well, like i can see when something is bothering her in her facial expressions and she can tell about me just from IM or talking to me. we also seem to text when either of us is thinking about the other. we were best friends before getting together, it seems our friendship got stronger since we are dating...
My girl accepts me as I am. Sure, we need to compromise on some things and things aren't perfect. But she accepts my past, my mistakes, my flaws, and all the good things about me. She never judges me. She loves me for who I am and I do the same. The more I know her the more I love her and I know she feels the same.
awwwwwwwwwwwww this is such a cute post!
This is too cute.