I was woken up by a text from my friend saying, "I think ___ is hiding things from me..." Me, being the nice friend I am, dove deeper into the statement. Apparently, her long distance college relationship is not going as smoothly as planned. She later said, "There have been a lot of parties lately at his school and he is now hiding his tagged photos and videos. I saw some of the pictures before he hid them. He's dancing with a bunch of hot girls and one even kissed him on the cheek!"
Now, I know some people don't like to put all their junk out there because parents, aunts, uncles, professors and what not can access these pages. But hey! I don't blame her for being suspicious. I've seen some of the party pictures too and let's just say he wouldn't show them to mama... Plus, he doesn't have the greatest reputation in the world. He is known for being promiscuous, flirty and having many, many girl friends (and girlfriends!). He doesn't even have "in a relationship" on his profile, but she does. (I know that isn't really important, but still. It just adds to the conspiracy)
I told her she can either confront him about the whole picture thing or just go on like she sees no evil, hears no evil and speaks no evil. She has chosen the right thing to do and is going to confront him. (Hooray!!)
Have you ever been suspicious of a boyfriend or girlfriend because of what he or she has on his Facebook or Myspace?
How did or would you handle the situation?
Have you ever hidden something online because you thought your SO would be angry if he or she saw it?
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Eh, I wouldn't hide things. I'd try to be honest even if I did something less than acceptable.
I believe honesty is the most important part of the relationship.
Another reason why Facebook has become the ultimate homewrecker...
if i honestly thought i had to hide things from mySO, i'd reconider the relationship. i should be doing things that i have to hide from him, and nor should he not want to see what i think is acceptable and therefore leave up. if he does, or i do, then we have more serious isues than just facebook. lol
however, i know he comments on (rather skanky) pictures of girls and purposely has set up his feed to not show these comments, but i'll occaionally be beside him when he checks their replies to his comments, etc. i've spoken to him about it recently though, and he's promised to either stop doing it, or enable me to see the comments. because if he's saying things or looking at things that he shouldn't, then there's something wrong. and i told him if he needs to look at women other than me, there's 12 million free porn videos i'd be happy to watch with him, he doesn't need to be looking at sexual pictures of girls he sees everyday :P
idk my boyfriend and i are very private people so we don't have the in a relationship thing up ,but we both decided to remove the relationship status this weekend.
@sarahzthoughts@xanga - no joke!
I only hide my pictures from my parents and professionals. They're not bad at all, but even so, a harmless picture may look "crazy" to them.
Anyway, I'm an honest person. I was once suspicious of my boyfriend for communicating back and forth to his ex girlfriend on myspace. I saw no evil, spoke no evil, or heard evil (if that's the correct order). I suppose you can tell what happened. My boyfriend turned into my ex. It just happened the hard way. A heart break that I'm over with. : )
It's time for her to speak up. Nut up or shut up.
My boyfriend and I mostly use facebook for farmville. LOL
I have allot of family on facebook. They do not need to know what I'm doing all the time. Hence, I do very little on facebook.
@sarahzthoughts@xanga - For a quick breakup, add him/her on Facebook. lol
eh. I got over it.
dumb gossip bitches.
"He doesn't even have "in a relationship" on his profile, but she does. (I know that isn't really important, but still."
i think that's REALLY important!!! he's hiding the fact that he's in a relationship! that's horrible. i'd be crushed if my boyfriend didn't have that on his profile if i did. if we both didn't, that'd be different.
what i don't know won't hurt me.
i haven't been on my bf's fb page since we became long distance 2 months ago. i'd rather hear from him and not make myself anxious by snooping.i, on the other hand.. hide as much as i can on fb because i know that people like me snoop others all the time. =) i don't have pictures of him up in my dp and it doesn't say i'm in a relationship. it says i'm married to my bestfriend. teehee. =)
lmao. And this is why social networking sites are stupid (and yet I'm on both Facebook and Myspace). They exponentially increase your chances to get involved with drama.
I hide things because I don't want my whole life to be out there, on display. But I don't hide things because I am worried about what my boyfriend would think.
@falsefictionlyrics@xanga - im like that too
I dont want my facebook page to be someone's source of entertainment.
LOL
no my boyfriend hardly uses facebook xD
my boyfriend at the time blocked me on facebook so i couldn't see flirty messages he gave to friends :P lol. pretty hilarious.
but i think if your SO is okay with you dancing with other girls or guys and having them kiss you on the cheek it's okay. as long as you aren't hiding it. but if s/he doesn't like it definitely don't do it.
I don't think it's right to hide anything from each other on Facebook. Messages are private, and therefore not to be seen unless they care to share--but comments and pictures, those are public. So if someone is "hiding" them, then there's probably something to worry about.
@purplepanda27@xanga - Hey, I don't think I've ever seen anyone put their status as married to their best friend! That's real cute!
A few years back I found out my ex (we were together at the time) was telling an old crush he loved her and leaving all these other flirty comments. I was pretty pissed about that.
its not about what I'm hiding on facebook.
Its about what I'm hiding on xanga. XD
As soon as he asked me out, my ex hid EVERYTHING on his page, but just for me. He forgot he was mutual friends with a few people I knew and they let me know about it. Suspicious, eh? Needless to say I'm the type that doesn't ask questions, but I would if I had any qualms from now on, regardless of the reason. I ended up being used by ex-douche and played MAJORLY. I do trust my boy with all of my heart and soul now, so I don't see me ever asking questions in the future. I'll just tell those annoying flirtatious girls to gtfo my man ;3
@sophia@xanga - yeah, guys who can't do that are hiding it. there's no other reason for it, especially if they're active Facebook users.
Check out this video...it's a comedic approach to this type of situation/entry.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=K6NdPrqgGt0&feature=player_profilepage
Yeah, I've been in that situation and have seen friends in that situation before. Long distance relationships are hard, and stuff like Facebook and MySpace makes it harder sometimes because it creates unnecessary drama. It makes me worried sometimes because my boyfriend has his comments hidden on his MySpace, and it makes me wonder why. People are naturally paranoid and curious to begin with, and stuff like this just makes it twice as worse...