I wouldn't feel completely comfortable with it. I'd talk to my boyfriend about it, but in the end it's his decision who he wants to spend time with. I completely trust him :)
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Actually when I find out someone has a crush on me, I tend to avoid them. If I can't avoid them, I just maybe might not hug them or talk to them as much. It seems a bit mean I guess, but it makes me uncomfortable that anything might lead them on even though it's clear I'm not interested in anyone.

I'm sure that someone with a significant other would have a more complicated experience though what with the established romantic interest, but I feel that my lack of interest in relationships makes crushes think I'm playing hard to get or something. Hence, the avoidance. 

No.  My boyfriend and I try to hang out with friends of the same sex, and if we're hanging out with someone of the opposite sex alone we ask each other first.  Plus, why can't he hang out with his female friends with me around?  I can always invite him if I'm haning out with any guys.  I trust him and he trusts me, but why put ourselves in situations where the other person would have a reason to question the other.  Neither of us is particularly jealous, but we both are ok with these guidelines we've set up, so why wouldn't we act on them.  To hang out alone with a person that is openly flirting with him, would go way past these guidelines, and the same for me, so better safe than sorry I guess.

Eh, this is a tricky situation. It depends how much the person likes you, whether you have a history with them and on the insecurity level of your boyfriend/girlfriend.

I would do my best to avoid the guy who has a crush on me.

If I had a boyfriend, and he was hanging out with a girl who clearly wanted more than friendship, I would probably tell her to back off myself. Of course, I would let my boyfriend confront the situation first, but if he failed to make it clear, I would do it myself. Friendships need boundaries if there is a boyfriend/girlfriend in the picture. No excuses.

@A_Monster@xanga - that's ridiculous. One of my best friends is a guy, and he's become like a brother to me. We hang out alone all the time.

As for the post in question, one of my other best friends is in love with a guy who is dating someone else. It makes things awkward sometimes, but she would never make a move on him. However, sometimes I don't trust him not to take advantage of her.

I don't think you can make a blanket statement about this question. You have to look at the people involved and gauge who's likely to try to seduce someone, and who's willing to be seduced/too weak to resist. Vanillesence is right, though, friendships do need boundaries if a significant other is in the picture (and sometimes even if one is not in the picture).

And if I were the person who was writing this blog, I might give Mandy a hint that Meg isn't all sweetness and innocence. However, if James isn't the type to cheat, then there's really nothing to worry about.

I think there's no problem whatesoever. As long as James is as cool as you think.

I would not spend time with someone whom I knew liked me, unless completely unavoidable.  I would expect my boyfriend to do the same.

I kinda don't believe it when people say they "can't help" flirting, and chalk it up more to a lack of self-control.  Sometimes people just like getting attention, even if they're not interested, they may respond to the flirting to keep it up.  I don't think that's right.

He is interested in Mandy, at some level to some degree. Perhaps he's not interested in a meaningful relationship, or even any relationship at all, but psychologically his behaviour isn't just some random spontaneous phenomenon. There's a reason he flirts, and makes physical contact. It satisfies him in some way, and whether he knows how destructive this all can be, I can't say for certain [even though you state that he is oblivious, statistically this very often is not the case].

Regardless, the boundaries of the situation depends on what is understood and mutually agreed upon between Mandy and James.Ignorance should not be an acceptable excuse in relationships where communication is open and honest. He should be aware of how threatened Mandy feels because she should tell him directly. He should also consider how his actions towards people of the opposite sex might impact on his relationship.

@A_Monster@xanga - You and I could never date.

No, I HATE to be lead on.  This happened in high school for me.  I knew this guy for three years and developed real feelings for him.  I'm not exactly sure if he knew that I liked him, because guys are oblivious despite all the hints i gave him.  Half of me would tell myself that he didn't like me as more than a friend, while the denial made me think that he might have liked me as more.  So I still hung out with him, and we would joke around and stuff.  If he'd just told me outright that he didn't like me like that, I could've squashed that little hope and moved on.  But instead, for three years, I idiotically hung on to the dream.  Not blaming him here, it was all me, but still, it is wrong to hang out with someone in such a manner as the guy in your post and in the situation you described.

I wouldn't be comfortable with my girlfriend working with someone that I know likes her. It's not that I don't trust her or I don't have any confidence in her, but I just don't like the idea of her working with someone that has intensions with her.... I don't like the idea that if somehow she accidently wears a clothing that has error and has a spot revealing a spot on her body, the guys going to be starring at it all day... I just don't like the idea that if the guy will take every advantage he can, to get her like him back...

I'm not innocent of such convictions myself... I know that it's wrong, but sometimes it's hard to not make a move on a girl/person that has great qualities....