Saturday, 17 October 2009

  • Some Guys May Be Assholes, But...

    Girls have to stop complaining about guys until they start showing better taste in them.

    There, I said it.

    I would be the first person to admit that guys are by no means perfect. However, I know for a fact that I'd never heard a guy say to me "I like bitches".

    I've heard the equivalent from girls.



    I have had more than several girls utter the words "I like assholes" or "Girls like assholes". So if girls supposedly like assholes like some of them claim...do they have a right to complain about them after dating em?

    Somebody help explain this phenomenon of girls claiming to like assholes to me. Do you agree that if girls had better taste they'd have less to complain about?

    Sound off

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Comments (50)

  • ccarothers@xanga

    I actually had this conversation yesterday at work.  I have a theory.  I honestly think that girls find a jerks confidence and the way he carries himself to be attractive.  I think that's why nice guys get overlooked sometimes because they don't always exhibit that "If I want it I'll take it" attitude.  A commanding guy is attractive.  When you really get to know him, you see what a d-bag he is and that's when the complaining starts.  Really, sometimes some girls just like to complain about guys.  One bad guy can sometimes ruin a girl on all guys. ;0)
  • gatorgirl54@xanga

    I feel like girls tend to put up with their boyfriend's shit more than guys will. I think we become pretty blind once we love someone...and we keep hoping, thinking he'll change.
  • FueltotheFire@xanga

    I'm one of those girls.  I like a guy that is commanding and is an a-hole.  However, and this is a huge however, I like him to be that way, sometimes.  I want a confident guy who can joke and behave in the "I want it, I take it way" but knows when to stop.  My boyfriend is a complete a-hole half the time.  He teases me and he's a bit of a jerk on the outside, but when you get to know him, he's sweet, and caring, and wants to take care of me like I take care of him.  Girls want a guy with a hard shell and an ooye gooye center.  It's hard to find, and ever harder to put into words.  That's why you hear a girl say she wants an a-hole, what she really means is she wants a guy who is manly and tough on the outside but nice to her.


    Oh and have you not heard of the book, "Why Men Love Bitches"?  Guys often want a girl with a bit of an edge to her, that they can still take to home to mom.
  • SaClaudy@xanga

    "I like assholes" and "girls claiming to like assholes.." could easy be misinterpreted... 
  • Kevin_is_a_pirate@xanga

    girls like assholes
    The same can be said for guys ;)
  • shoujo@xanga

    I totally want that as a bumper sticker. If I had a car crappy enough for bumper stickers, that is. ;)

    On a more serious note, I believe there is a psychological term for this behavior. Girls do tend to put up with boys who treat them badly. Some boys put up with girls that treat them badly, as well. But it does seem to be a higher proportion of girls who put up with it than girls.

  • mywordsx@xanga

    I think they're getting assholes and confidence mixed up.
  • BlizzZX@xanga

    i am asshole hear me roar
  • cluelessazn13@xanga
    they have the confidence! but it's offset by their assholeyness >:[
  • jeezshoua@xanga

    I like a confident guy but by no means, I don't want to date an asshole.
  • youaintjam@xanga

    Girls subconsciously fantasize about taming their asshole men. It's the ultimate trophy, like "I'm so awesome, my man gave up his old ways for me."

  • melllisa@xanga

    all of the amazing nice men I've come across are somewhat timid. They eventually become my 'brother' and someone I enjoy talking to, especially complaining to about such and such.
    The assholes on the other hand have the confidence and that is definitely what I'm drawn to. To find the balance between nice and confidence in a man is very difficult to find. I guess majority of girls have that same problem as well.

    @ccarothers@xanga - i completely 100% agree with you. That is the only explanation I've come with as well that makes sense!
  • DeathzDezign@xanga

    @mywordsx@xanga - I was thinking the same, I think some women are confused

    I think assholes have a different degree of confidence that women think they find attractive, and therefore end up in the wrong situation most times. I think the reason why so many women find married or taken men attractive is because they exert that positive confidence.

    The two need to be distinguished. Assholes will forever be assholes, and confident men will continue to attract the right women.
  • mynameisblueskye@xanga

    "So if girls supposedly like assholes like some of them claim...do they have a right to complain about them after dating em?"


    What person that is in any way right in the head complains about something they like? If saming isn't cutting it, change it up.


    Plus, has anyone ever heard of this familiar theory: "you are the company you keep"?
  • RingxAroundxtheeAmbluence@xanga

    Yes I think if they had better taste & would choose a guy that would respect them then they wouldn't nearly have to complain as much.

  • mynameisblueskye@xanga

    @Kevin_is_a_pirate@xanga - Haha! You win.
  • AutumnShadowsQ@xanga

    Nice guys tend to be pushovers. They tend to be indecisive. I want a guy who will, once in awhile, at least, make the choice of where we go for dinner! I don't like making all the decisions in a relationship. Sometimes, I want a guy to say, "We're gonna go play video games now. If my friends come over, so be it." The confidence boosts attractiveness, especially in bed. I haven't found a nice guy yet who says, "I want to do this tonight!" He's always got to ask what I want to do.

    I'm not saying there aren't nice guys with confidence, and assholes without it, but that seems to be a trend that happens a lot.
  • xjadersx@xanga

    I like a guy who is a troll sometimes, I do not like when a guy is an asshole to me. It frustrates me and then I end up being bitchy. My boyfriend gets it, so if he gets into an asshole mood he usually stops once I get all bitchy.

    I agree.... girls shouldn't complain about boys until they're willing to let a nice guy come into their life.
  • MsKittyCatty@xanga

    Haha, good post!


    I've had a lot of girl friends complain about guys and I was like "Well, you're the one who wanted a 'bad guy'" It's annoying, and I KNOW it gets annoying to guys. I am very happy with my sweet dorky man and would never want an a**hole.
  • bass_chick57@lovelyish

    @ccarothers@xanga - yup, that's my theory too!

    But I also have this problem of the d-bags who I end up crushing on also have a soft side, but they never show it! Like, you can feel it in there, but you can't get it out! Ugh. All men are not assholes. I know a lot of great guys. But they don't have the confidence, the ego that an ass has. So it's a challenge to find a guy that doesn't act like a jerk, but is still confident.
  • gkill84@xanga

    if girls want to b w/ an a-hole, then plz stop complaining, about what an a-hole he is...you get what you seek for..!
  • jupiter312@xanga

    I think they mean "I like confidence".  Sadly, one of the only places to find confidence is in the assholes.
  • tokyoexpressman@xanga

    So the trend I'm hearing seems to be, "I don't mind if my boyfriend's an asshole as long as he's nice to me."

    The term "playing with fire" comes to mind here.

  • discover_hienie@xanga

    i don't like assholes and i dont think that i ever will.. they can dream on cuz i am not running into another one
  • laytexduckie@xanga

    I hate that some girls would rather date an asshole who treats them like shit than a nice guy because they claim it's "adventurous." 

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