Saturday, 17 October 2009
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Do you have CPS?
What is CPS? It's what I like to call Close Proximity Syndrome.
How does it work?
Well it goes like this...when you're around a guy/girl long enough, you end up developing feelings for them even though you didn't have those feelings to begin with.
What brought this up?
Well someone asked me if I was ever stuck on a deserted island, who would I rather be stuck with:
A) Someone who loves me that I don't love or
B) Someone that I love who doesn't love me
I chose A because I have no survival skills what so ever, so I need someone to take care of me and I know I have Close Proximity Syndrome so I'll eventually love him back. Yes it sounds selfish but if we're talking about survival, I think I'm being practical.
So who would you choose?
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It's called the mere exposure effect (or familiarity principle). The more you are around a person, the more you like him/her.
Definitely A. I would rather live with the feeling of knowing someone loves me than suffer from the fact that I must be near someone that doesn't love me.
I have CPS, I thought I was the only one
i think everyone has it in some way or another.
either way, both will fall trap to CPS and love each other because they're stuck on an island and don't want to die alone. another question is that would you want your s.o. to die first or you?
haha id probably choose B
I think most people feel more secure when they know someone loves them, and I think that's why most people would choose A
Haha, pretty interesting way to put it. I think it depends on a lot of factors. I mean, first of all, she'd have to be attractive. Then she'd have to be funny and witty. It also depends how long the desert island stay was. How often I saw her. How good a bond we have. But I think I would rather choose B. With my charms I think I should be able to get into her good graces! Haha. Well, hopefully it's a girl.
Proximity absolutely dictates mate selection.
@DeathzDezign@xanga - My thought eXactly
I'd pick A merely for the fact that I tend to fall for the girl who likes me.
3 of the relationships I've been in were because the girl liked me. :\
I get crushes like that. But usually after I date them for a week or two I end up losing the feelings.
I'd rather be on an island alone, quite frankly.
i had a friend who i used to live with who ended up falling in love with me. it was really awkward for me because i didn't return the feelings and was always afraid of saying something to hurt his feelings or leading him on or whatever. so i would have to say b.
Girls and boys shouldn't hang out.
I'd choose A also. I can't even cook. lol.
but this is interesting... i likelol ... i think i would choose A.
sometimes i think my bf was an example of this, but i think that was me just trying to convince myself i didnt love him from that first weekend we met and i couldnt eat or sleep for 3 days. but we still stayed just friends for 5 years.
I'd choose B.
I always feel guilty when someone likes me a whole lot and I don't reciprocate the feelings.
B. Maybe he'll come around. A girl can always hope.
Assuming I were still single and all, A. My husband, back when we were just friends, had feelings for me before before I did for him and he won me over quite thoroughly, so I know it's possible and can be very sweet.
I love everyone. So A.
A, for sure. It would be good for my ego! xD Plus B would hurt, and that person would probably be annoyed by me and not help me survive.
i so have this. its ridiculous. the fact that you sit next to someone in science does mean you are meant to be together. I don't know when I'm gonna learn my lesson about that one.....
I do believe this is the type of "syndrome" everyone has in one way or another.
"A" would probably be my choice if I was single. This "CPS" happened with my now-love of my life. I had been hurting from a really, really harsh breakup and it took me a very long time to recover from it. I met him during this recovery period, and I liked him instantly for his outgoing personaliy, and I knew he liked me...however, I "friend-zoned" him for a bit because I just wasn't ready for another relationship yet. He asked me out quite a few times, but I was scared and he knew it...he never pushed me, never was overly persistent. It must have been just the right amount, because the more I hung around him, the more I wanted to be his, and eventually, I started loving him and it felt so good. I accepted and now we're attached at the hip...and I'm sure he's my soulmate. It's the greatest feeling in the world.
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deinitely A) It's always easier to be in the otherside of the game, no point loving someone who doesnt love you.