I always hear girls talk about dream guys or the perfect guy as if they were real. To be honest, I have a list of characteristics of my perfect guy but I didn't think they actually existed in my world. I always tried my best to think that my perfect guy was out there to make up for all those jerks in the world, for all those hurtful sweet talkers, and for all those guys that did not cherish their loved one. I hoped that one day, I would actually be able to run into my dream guy and everything would just melt into place perfectly on its own.
Coincidentally, I think I have met my dream guy, but things aren't exactly the way I thought it would be. Is it fair that my dream guy actually exist in my world but I can't be with him? He is truly perfect in my mind; he's smart, athletic, musically talented, a gentleman, and also very handsome. There's just obvious obstacles that prevent me from making a move.
Number one, he's not interested in looking for a girlfriend, and number two, I have a boyfriend (I love my boyfriend though and he's who I really want to be with). I've known him for about a year and he's a great friend, but never have I ever one thought about expressing to him what I thought about him. I honestly would not consider that I like him, just a strong interest in getting to know better. I think it's pretty silly how badly I lose my cool whenever I see him, I'd freak out and say, "Oh my god, it's N-----!" I also noticed how I cannot help but stare at him. There would be situations where I'd sit in front of him and I carelessly start to stare. I think that's he's caught me staring at him but disregarded it. For me, it's really hard not to think about what it would be like to be with him, not that I do want to be with, it's just nice to wonder from time to time about things.
When thinking it all through, knowing that my dream guy really does exist in my world makes me happy, but would not effect my love life at all. He's everything I want in one package, but who really needs their dream guy when they have a soulmate out there. Although I'm still young, I really hope that my current boyfriend is the one for me, the one soulmate for me. And even though my dream guy exist, I'd rather live in my silly, non-reality yet reality world of thinking about my dream guy while actually being with the one I truly want to be with.
Do you think your dream guy actually exist? And what if he's right in front of you, what would you do?
It's something nice to think about, right? :)
This is my dream guy:
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yes, they exist....in dreams... :)
Um hello? Me? *Waves*
Just kidding of course. I'm rubbish =P
am always confused by these posts that describe some perfect person the poster is longing to be with, then they're like, "although i have a boyfriend and he's the one i really love" ... wtf? that is weird.
my bf is the one i long to be with, and he's also the one i love, and i would be really hurt if he was endlessly staring off at some other "dream girl."
Of course they do. The trick is finding them.
Yes, but most of them are married.
@MilkyWhitesezMoo@xanga - oh also - you don't know what someone is really like til you're with him. he could have this herculean beastly bod, but cheat all the time or even hit his gf - you think you'd know, but you wouldn't.
You noticed how you mentioned him as "dream guy"?
The dream guy is a fabrication of your desires, it's the perfect guy in the perfect world. Since we live in a imperfect world with imperfect people, we have imperfect love. Which leads to this qoute, "No-body's perfect until you fall in-love with them."
If they did, I would've been married by now.
i am your dream guy
I don't think so, it's just like dream girls don't exist too.
i think dream guys do not exist. they'd be too puuuuuurfect and toooo hot to handle haha lol! and other guys would be soooo intimidated!haha :)
though there are other guys who are near i mean that close to being our dream guy. :)
Hahah i met my dream girl, but just because they're YOUR dream girl/guy doesn't mean that things will necessarily work out between you. I'm sure dream girls/guys have ideal SOs too. =P
I think they exist, but the real one kind of takes you by surprise in the end.
The people who make us happy are never the ones we expect.
Well, it depends: A.) is you dream guy a collection of images you've seen and created the perfect image of manhood in your estimation out of? have you "overshadowed" a real person with those ideas so that you are no longer looking at the real person, but an ideal? No one wants to be on a pedestool. It's way to hard to balance. B.) Did you dream about a man and then meet him and find out he existed? All cultures have cases of such things.
Most of my dream guys have girlfriends sadly...
Then they really realise.... no one can ever fully fulfill perfectly like in dreams.
you just have to find each other.
and prepare yourself to be the dream girl, too.
he can't be the only "perfect" one- you have to work at it, too- no one wants a hot mess.
I have my dream guy :)
Where did you get that first picture at?! That's craziness right there... I think about my dream man and then I realize that might not be possible. It doesn't break my heart though, I gave up on Prince Charming and hope to find a decent equivalent some day. One who looks fairly similar to the guy in that first picture. Ha.
Don't take this the wrong way, but how would you feel if your boyfriend wrote a blog like this accompanied with a photo of his "dream girl"?
I found my dream girl! Everything I am looking for in one package and I found her while she was still single, so luckily, we are now together =)
It seems very odd to me that you keep thinking about this dream guy even when you have a boyfriend. I would definitely be hurt if you were staring at your dream guy and fantasizing (whether sexually or not) about him through the day.
this is stupid. this whole blog is stupid. if work wasn't killing my soul and the news wasn't slow, i wouldn't read this drivel. there is no such thing as perfection. there are only "people." men and women with all their flaws, insecurities, talents, lovehandles and virtues. only "people." mr. perfect does not exist. if a man likes you enough, is attracted to you enough, wants to fuck you on a continuing basis enough, he will make the effort to make you happy. let me repeat this. an imperfect man will make the "effort." and your 2 cent intellect will confuse this "effort" for "perfection." you haven't found "mr. perfect" because no man has cared enough about you to put in the effort. put another way, you just weren't worth it. i feel like i'm the only adult in a room full of children.
I love this song.
Danny Fernandes - Fantasy
It's you and me
Let me play the lead role
In your wildest dream
So baby tell me
What's your fantasy
Matter fact
Just kick back
I'll show you things
You'll never believe
I'm talking bout'
Candle light dinners
Trips around the world
There's nothing I wouldn't give her,
If she was my girl
She'd never see the winter
Take a second, and dream
I'll show you things
You'll never believe
@hardlyhandsomest@xanga - Your quote is awesome! "Nobody's perfect until you fall in-love with them." awwww