We've all got em, and that includes me. There's one story I keep retelling to my friends and it never gets old.
Here goes:
I met this girl and we decided to go out for New Year's Eve. She was cute and seemed to have a brain, but boy was I wrong! At least about the latter part.
I guess I should have known better after a conversation we had one night before our date. Somehow the subject of "Twilight" came up and she went off on this extreme tangent/campaign to inform me of how amazing the book is and how I must read it. I acknowledged her sentiment and tried to move the conversation forward, but she spent about twenty minutes professing her love for this book about vampires and...gay. It was very, very strange..but I let it go.
Anyway, we met up in front of a Barnes and Noble and she immediately leads me inside. I thought to myself "Oh okay, we're gonna hang out in here then and chat in the cafe. That's cool."
WRONG!
She leads me up a couple of flights and when she came to a stop she pointed at a table in front of us and said to me "Look, Twilight." I turned my head and indeed, there were stacks upon stacks of this wretched book staring me in the face. Not knowing what the hell to say in this weird moment, I simply said "Uhh..okay?" and let out an uneasy laugh. Then, she led me outside of B&N and into the street.
At this point I was probably thinking something along the lines of "What the fuck was that all about?" However, I didn't lose hope that the night could be an overwhelming success.
Boy was that idea squashed quickly. This girl probably had the worst people skills I've ever seen. This girl was a mute. I had to make about 99% of the conversation and whenever I tried to get her to talk, she would give me a one to five word answer at best. I don't know if she was intimidated or what, but if that's the case then why the hell did she agree to meet up with me in the first place? Either way she looks bad there.
To top it off, she spent half the time texting on her freaking sidekick. This girl was a few years younger than me, and it made me wonder whether it was just her or whether most people her age had 0 manners.
We eventually arrive at this yogurt shop that she said she wanted to go to. So we go in; she got her stuff, I got mine and we both sat down. Instead of trying to make conversation, she just sat there eating her yogurt very intently. I stared at this girl for about a minute until I lightheartedly said "Why so quiet? Talk to me." At that point, she put down her spoon, looked up at me and said in a very serious tone:
"....I'm enjoying my yogurt..."
Wow.
When we left the place I straight up told her "You know, you don't seem interested in anything I have to say. And it seems like you have nothing to say to me so if you want you can go home." Honestly, we didn't know each other so she didn't owe me anything. There's no reason for her to stick around if she didn't want to, so I tried to let her know that she can cut herself loose if she wants.
Then she really pissed me off by trying to convince me that she really was having a good time. There's nothing more disheartening then someone bullshitting me to my face. But again, I let it go hoping the night would improve. It didn't.
To sum up the rest of the night, I ended up telling her on four other occasions that she should go home. It was that bad. I mean I can only do so much talking for so long, and I like to have conversations not monologues. So what was I to do?
There was one point where I was desperate to get her to say something. So I said "Tell me something I don't know." She weakly responded with "...I dunno...". Then I did get a sentence out of her where she said something like "Well we're just getting to know each other" to which I replied by saying "Well it's hard to get to know someone when you're not saying anything." God, what a basket case.
Other people might have given her a second chance, I didn't.
So that's one of my dating horror stories and I'm sure you guys have some good ones you might like to share, especially considering that Halloween is fast approaching. Nothing is more spooktacular (yes, I said spooktacular) than a good dating horror story.
If you don't have any stories, then can someone offer me a viable explanation for what this chick's deal was?
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wow
BAD dating experience by the sound of it
i guess it's never been that bad for me because i talk quite easily to people and i've never not had someone open up to me that i was sincerely interested in:)
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She's just too into herself. First off, you turn your phone off during a date. You never answer a phone unless you really have to (i.e. if the ID says Dad or Mom or something similar). If you have to take a quick call, excuse yourself. I know I wouldn't give her a second chance. It's like you said. The date is only enjoyable if both parties participated.
OH, DEAR GOD, TWILIGHT?! You take that as a warning sign, you hear me. You see Twilight and you run in the opposite direction. That shit is not worth it. D:
You're a jerk. She is just shy. Sorry you're too good to talk about her interests (I know, Twilight does suck, but nobody can have all the same interests), and you're not interested in inconveniencing yourself by putting a little effort into helping a shy girl open up. But don't tell her SHE'S not interested and get offended when she tells you she's having a good time; she probably was. Just quietly. I don't see anything she did so wrong except feel nervous and shy. She was probably texting her friend because she was anxious and looking for feedback. Ass holes like you questioning her motives and grilling her every 2 seconds judging every damn thing she does do not help her open up. If you don't like her, that's fine. But it's not something inherently wrong with her.
Bad is a guy showing you his tattoos, scars and SCABS in Starbucks. Fuckin disgusting.
I have a quick one. This happened when I was in my earlier teenage years, and had very little "dating" experience.
One of my best buddies was really into this girl, but she refused to go out with him unless he could set up someone with her best friend and it would be a double date. Being the good friend I am, I agreed to this blind date.
We get to this restaurant and there are these two girls, one very cute brunette (his date) and one cute blonde amazon woman! She was attractive, but was very tall. She towered at least 5 or 6 inches above me. I was above average height for my age, so I was really not used to and quite uncomfortable with this situation.
After the initial awkward shock the evening was fine, but I was not interested in going out with her again.
Worst thing on dates= awkward silences.
I went on a double with my boyfriend (now ex), my best friend nad her boyfriend. My best friend and her boyfriend grew up with me, so it proceded into a "tell embarassing stories about kaitlyn." once my boyfriend got in on it that they (mostly my friends boyfriend doing the bashing) he started in on it too. Great fun.
Haha, she probably would have talked to you if you had been like, "OMG TWILIGHT!!!! I MUST READ THIS!!" I have a feeling the date would have gone better...for her.
I went out on a date with a guy who blazed while I was sitting right beside him in the car. When he was done, he sprayed cologne all over himself (and me) so that other people won't know he smoked up. It was just so bad - smelling like Axe and standing next to a guy who was high. I should've just left but he was my only ride home and I didn't have enough cash to take the cab all the way back to my place.
whoaa. @_@. terrible sounding lol. awkward too. grr. it takes two people's efforts to make it un-awkward lol. and ew the twilight thing lol. o_o...scary. just PLAIN scary. lol. -walks into b&n points out twilight in the teen read section, walks out- how more horrifying can it get? lol. hahaha. maybe she's o-o an older teen/chick who got sucked into that whole twilight mania shit. i mean you would think that people our age would THINK and actually know better to fall head over heels over some romance crap, but i guess o-o some of us are just as naive as the tweens. lol. and T_T i have not had an actual date date. like one to one date. never. maybe someday lol. >: sad really. but i promise i won't act like that twilight fanatic. pinky promise loll. =__=
You sound like a hopeful and optimistic person. One of those who are on the "half-full" side of life, aren't you? I would bolt the minute the words "Twilight Books" came out of her mouth. I wouldn't even bother faking an emergency phone call. I'd probably make something up like "Oh, I think my appendix just burst, I better go check it out before something bad happens..." Twilight freaks are worse than cat lovers, seriously.
lol...mute girl.. i hate those. i dated a very quiet guy once...it was bad as well
@not_izzy@xanga - Okay if she's so shy then why did she go on an avid "tangent" of how much she loved Twilight? Clearly she's not that socially inept and is capable of talking -- I would be frustrated enough that I would do the SAME thing. And when ever a guy has asked you if you were having a good time, didn't you say "Yes" because you felt bad? Of course you did. I don't think in any way he was an asshole, I think he made his best effort and despite whether or not your shy, there is no reason-- at all--- to text all night long. It's rude and inconsiderate to the other person and personally -- no matter how nervous i've been on a date, If I was interested I SHOWED interest. I didn't mull over my yogurt like it going to get up and run away.
Most amusing is when girls break up with real boyfriends because they want one just like the main vampire character..he doesn't even exist!! I've seen 2 cases and heard of more following this mentality.
I've had only a few, thankfully. Nothing major.
One that comes to mind is this guy I went out with--we were walking around a mall and he excitedly pointed at those shoes that pop out wheels, going on about how much he really wants them--seriously wants them. We are in our 20s. He also spent the entire time randomly ramming into me and bumping into me in what he thought was cute fashion, but hard enough to knock me over each time. And not believing (or choosing to ignore) me when I finally told him to stop it because was not at all amusing in an annoyed manner.
The other, I wasn't sure if it was a true date or not--we had great convo going smoothly. Until all a sudden I'm presented with, "Okay so don't freak out...but...well, there was this huge sore on the back of my head that just wouldn't go away for forever! So I go to the doctor..and yea, herpes." First time we spent together alone, this is what he chooses to tell me--and then go into great detail on specifics surrounding it all....um, yea. No thank you.
Maybe she just wanted you to stare at her like how Edward stares at Bella. That would've guaranteed you some action from a Twilight freak.
Haha
Coming from a fairly quiet person, I have a very hard time opening up & making conversation with people I don't know very well. Therefore, it's pretty awkward at times even though I really try to talk to the person. I'm guessing that she's kind of the same way so in that sense, I think another chance would be okay. However, because she was being rude & texting while you guys were out, that would be grounds for no chances. That's just plain rude & I would take it as a sign that the other person was bored.
I can't think of any of my own horror stories.
@laytexduckie@xanga - see you sound like the kind of girl that knows how to act around people. we need more like you
@salvatruca_stalking_havok13@xanga - lol yeah, live and learn..
@not_izzy@xanga - im a jerk? i had to make 99% of the conversation and she was on her sidekick half the time and im the asshole? you have as much sense and manners as she does i see.
@Asianrockgurl@xanga - lol i trust that youll keep your promise = P
@Shopgirl0393@xanga - wow, if a guy is more interested in shoes than you are, run the other way asap.
and how the hell do u get herpes on your head...nevermind the fact that that guy lacks tact. wow. where do these freaks come from...
@LonerB@xanga - i try to be optimistic. at the same time, i had heard that twilight fans are usually freaks but i dont like to stereotype. i try not to at least. boy was i taught a harsh lesson...
@MaddiGoLightly@xanga - thanks for sticking up for me = ) i mean i dont know how i could be the asshole. i tried to get her to talk, i did all the talking and she was on her phone. and im the dick?.....
Lol. This story made me laugh.
I remember the first date I went on. I was seeing this guy way before we even went on our first date. I was a little hesitant about the whole thing since we never really went on a date. So, he asks me out and claimed he knew where I lived, and told me he was going to pick me up. But when my mother wanted to meet him, all the sudden he supposedly "forgot" where I lived, and I had to go and find him because he got lost.
He finally met my mother, and my mother was telling him to respect me, asking what he wanted/expected from me...etc...My father couldn't do it (absent from my life)...so my mom had to do it. My mother gave me twenty dollars and told me if anything just leave. When we got to the movie theather I insisted on paying, which was my way to see if he would try to stop me from paying. He did and told me he was gentleman and his mom didn't raise no jerk. HA!
So when we finally got to the ticket booth, and he paid twenty dollars for his and mine tickets. You should've seen the look in his eyes while he was taking out loads of money out his pocket, it was more than I had. Heh! The tickets would've been cheaper who we had our high school ID's, but I don't think it would've changed the look he gave me afterwards.
When we finally got our tickets he told me "next time you're paying for your own ticket" and he even avoided buying some movie theather junk food and told me if I wanted it that I should pay for it myself. No doubt I did, but I didn't share with him. The whole entire time he was just sitting there to himself, like someone forced him to be there or like someone was going to take something away from him. He had no sort of enjoyment or movement at all.
So, after he dropped me off at my door, I made sure that this will be the last date we went on. And if we was going on a date we wasn't going alone. And I can say that on every "date" we been on I always had to pay his way because he didn't have any money....And yet I wonder why I stayed with him for nearly two years...I'm glad I broke it off because it wasn't a good relationship anyway.
@xerxes2044 - Where do you think the stereotypes come from? Cold, hard experience.
@xerxes2044 - I'm flattered that you think highly of me. Unfortunately, I'm a guy. XD
@laytexduckie@xanga - latex duckie and ur a dude? lol my bad. well then youll know how to treat a girl well. there, correction made.
I would have been annoyed and made an excuse about having an emergency and then bailed.
I think this girl expected you to start to sparkle when she uttered the word "Twilight," whisk her into your arms and exclaim some variation of that sad-yet-hopeful phrase, "I'll be your Edward if you be my Bella." Just my spin on things.
But, yeah, wow, that does not sound like fun. my friends do the texting thing all the time - in the movies, at the mall, at the beach - you name it, their phones are out and their thumbs are flying. it really is irritating - if you want to hang out with me, then hang out with me. if you want to hang out with your phone, let me know so i can make other plans.
My worst date was a double date...my friend ran off with her boyfriend, leaving me with my "date", her boyfriends cousin. All he wanted to talk about was how many girl's he had had sex with - for almost an hour and a half every topic somehow related back to how many girls he had had sex with! I'm assuming he was telling me this to...I don't even know. After this long, horribly boring monologue about sexual partners, he looks at me and says something about "adding one more girl to the list." I "accidentally" spilled my drink on myself, and "excused myself to the little girls room" which is code for I ran out the diner's back entrance and hopped on the next trolley.
she's probably jsut socially awkward.
@xerxes2044 - Thanks. Hahaha. It was just a play on "rubber duckie" except it's made of latex.