Apparently plentyoffish.com is an online dating site for singles (obviously) who just want to "find someone to share those special moments with". What surprised me is that my dad has an account and profile on there, and he has a girlfriend. I heard him talking about it to his friend, who is single and looking, and my dad seemed pretty excited about. After his friend left, I asked him about it and he was completely honest-"Emily, you know that I have a girlfriend, but she's not looking for anything serious, so I have this wonderful site to talk to other women once mine & Nina's course has run..."
I'll be honest, I was a bit shocked to find my dad so calm about Nina's standards, but I figured that since she talked to him about it instead of just using him, he has a reason to be happy... at least I hope she isn't using him. And then I asked myself if it really works.
So, what do you think about online dating services? Is it something you would do to find a SO?
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I met my gf on POF nearly a year ago. I was looking for a relationship, went on 4 or 5 first dates with other women before I met her and never looked back. I'm very happy with her and am thankful for POF because without it I doubt our lives would have ever crossed paths.
It's a pretty good site, met some people there!
I tried it once, and it was CREEPS GALORE. I met a guy in person and he totally invaded my personal space - not cool! And I got contacted by a lot of men older than 30, and the oldest was 57!
It doesn't work very well if you don't live in a large city (which was my case, so that's probably why i didn't have a good experience with it). Honestly I think it's better off to meet someone spontaneously and naturally.
I'm still not all for POF.. because i found my ex on there while we were dating.. I mean LIVING together. I know a lot of people feed their weird need for mutliple partners this way, and I don't like that.
THOUGH, for its intended use, I guess I could understand it. If you have no other outlet to meet people, it makes sense. I wouldn't use it though, myself.
Plenty of Fish may be one of the worst to get involved in. It's commonly known as just a hook-up place. Others, however, really aren't so bad. Match, or Eharmony.
I think that dating websites have some benefits. They put together two people with similar interests and say, "There ya' go, she probably won't think you're weird because she's into the same stuff!" It takes away a lot of the jitters one might get when meeting someone new in real life (or even out in the great wide internet, away from a dating site), but it should be kept "online" as little as possible. As soon as there is interest they should call, then meet, and go on a date. So many people get hooked up in a 2 year + online relationship where they've never met the person, and that is really damaging to a person.
All-in-all, I think that dating sites can be great, but don't expect more than what they offer (which is just putting you together with someone) and don't let it take over your life.
They all seem a bit sleazy, which is intimidating, but if you are careful you can have a few decent conversations. Neither my friends or I have ever found anyone who became a friend on any of those sites though.
i don't think online relationship really work that well. i had my experiences though.. haha i rather see that person in person.. lol i learned the hard way, but it's cool seeing guys though anywhere haha
ehhh not my cup of coffee
Never tried any "online dating services" but I've seen it happened before and you can meet a few decent persons there who is also looking for a serious and committed relationship.
I used POF last year and met five or so guys before meeting my current boyfriend. We have been together for over a year now :)
doesn't seem to work for me because the whole going on date after date really tires me out...
that site is actually pretty decent =) I'm on it and I've talked to a couple of great guys
I hear some good stories about online dating services and funny ones about peeps who met and got married over online MMORPGs. But, I don't think I could personally do it. Sometimes it's easiest to put on a front when you're on the internet.
its something that, if i do try it, i'd be very wary about.
I was on that site for a while before I realized its mainly for hook ups. I couldnt figure out why all the guys wanted one thing and after they didnt get it, POOF! would be gone.
I just had a break-up last month over that site. was seeing a guy from a pay dating site for 2 months, we were MONOGOMOUS and sleeping together after about a month. When I found out he was still on that site and he said it was "for fun" and he wanted to see how many 50+ women wanted him, I dumped his ass. He was 43 and thought it hilarious that only women in their 50s wanted him. NOW, they can HAVE HIM.
I'm a non paying user of Match.com, eHarmony, Chemistry.com, and made profiles on Lavalife (that got deleted for lack of use). As a nonpayer, I can only see names and the occasional photo of my matches but I can't communicate with them. If I was 100% seriously planning on meeting someone to spend the rest of my life with I might decide to pay for the services.
I've actually had dating/communication success with MySpace more than these sites.
But from what I know about Plenty of Fish, it seems to be full of people who are not your run of the mill types. My sister has used the sites, and the guys she has met on them all have some huge negative situation in their life. One guy had no job, the other a wife... just pretty uncool things for someone in her age group (late 20's early 30's) to have if she was looking for something serious. My roommate is also a user of PoF and I've seen her matches and they're all dirtbags with drug problems, literally. I'm not saying drug problems make you a bad person but they do alter who you are. I wouldn't trust PoF for anything serious, since if people don't have to pay for it they usually are just looking for one night stands. Sites like Match.com and the like do a pretty good job (if people answer honestly) of screening people.
If those success story people on TV are the real thing, then by all means good for them.
A dating site is good to help ask/get answers for all the questions people don't think to ask right away - or forget to. I'm pro dating sites, I think they're a good way for those too shy to make the first steps to communicate to, well, communicate.
I met my current boyfriend on Plenty of Fish. We're in a long-term relationship and both would like to be engaged after another year or so, give or take. Normally I wouldn't recommend this way of meeting people, but I ended up a very lucky lady with everything I could ever wish for in a man. I'm 21, he's 24.. and it's very clear at this point that we're made for eachother. Love is incredible. ♥
I personally HATE POF because that is how my boyfriend of 3 years cheated on me. He would logg on and talk to females, and when i was visiting my parents 600 miles away, cheat. I just don't trust people online, because you don't know what their real situation at home is like-if they are really single, trustworthy, or not!Â
I actually met my husband via Match.com. So it can work, if you're willing to sort through the idiots and freaks to find the decent people on there.
-Katie
Their a fucking nightmare... I went out with two different girls, just to try it out. The first totally lied about her appearence ( i'm guessing the pic she had was from 15 years ago), and age. The second was married. After that i talked to a few others but most had kids and major issues such as un-finished divorces, social disorders, eating disorders, and substance abuse problems. The bars and clubs are safer and far more accurate, you know exactly what your bringing home.
It may not work for me, but I know it can for others, so... to each their own, I suppose. : )
I've used POF for about 5 months...still no date *shrugs*
no, I prefer guys that have the guts to talk to me and ask me out in person.
it's alright if you are like busy with work
Yeah... I consider POF as leaning towards the trashy end of the online-dating spectrum. But maybe that's just me..? *shrug*
Anyyyway, I really don't have a lot of room to talk, as I met my boyfriend on myspace, of all places. XD