Thursday, 15 October 2009
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A Strange Sex Fantasy
So, I know that we all have our own sex fantasies from bondage to role playing and whatever floats your boat, but my question is would any of you put up with your partner calling you another love interest's name in bed?
My boyfriend and I experimented with it this past weekend. While he says it might steam things up in the bedroom, my opinion is mixed on it. I know he's with me, if he didn't want to be he would have left years ago, but I feel like I'm holding him back from a wild sex life in college.
What do you guys think?
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Like someone's actual name or a fake name? I wouldn't tolerate someone's actual name that they know.
I believe I made this mistake one time in the past, when I was married. I'm no longer married.
I don't mind pretending to be a fictional person, but pretending to be a real (non-celebrity) person that we actually knew would just be too much of a turn-off for me.
uh WHAT ... no. just no.
Oh hell no.
You have issues, to put it bluntly.
I wouldn't feel comfortable if I knew it was an actual person that they were referring.
Maybe if it was just some random name, that they like or something like that. Okay.but definitely not if it was someone they wish they could [have] be/been with.Eh...like "Megan Fox" or something? That would just bring down my self-esteem. But if it were another girl he knew personally? Hell no!
guess depends what it is xD
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No way.
No. :/
Not unless I was dressing up as a celebrity, and he called me by that.
But not some girl he knows.
If it was role playing, and new fake names. It would be fun.
hmm, the only time i MIGHT think this was ok was if it was some serious role-playing, like "we're pretending i just picked you up in a bar, and your name is...uh...Mandy", but not another interest. and anyway, the best way to really good sex (so i hear) is to really truly see and connect with your partner...and that's certainly not gonna happen if you disengage from them by actually pretending they're someone else :-/
Gah! I would be sad. No.
But I've never had to deal with feeling like I'm holding him back by being with him; he's always very clear that he wants to be with me alone and tells me almost every day how happy and lucky his feels to be married to me and all that, blah blah. I don't know what I'd do in your situation. That must be hard and I understand why you'd have mixed feelings. I wish you the best!
Not some chick's name that he knew. And he's always to busy saying my name.
No cuz it would make me feel insecure or that the other person was better and although he may not leave you for that person, he wishes he were sleeping with the other person. Or maybe not even that, but that the other person was better than you in bed and since he is not willing to cheat he is doing the next best thing.
IDK I'm pretty sexually open, but this is just too far...
No, it just carries on this illusion that you're somebody you're not, and that's not the kind of relationship I want to have.
Yeah, maybe if it was a fictional character it could work....
"Big bird, Oh Big Bird" -- whatever character floats your boat
Otherwise... no.
Wow! I would NOT tolerate that or handle it well mentally. It's been said that some people picture other people during sex (not all the time, but it happens). My bf says his mind goes blank during sex cause he's too busy concentrating on me so that he doesn't accidentally cum before I do lol (I'm sure he's telling the truth, but not completely naive to the fact that there could have been a few occassions where someone may have entered his mind). This I can take (because I don't have to know if it does happen), but if he were to say someone else's name (celebrity or not)....I'd be turned off immediately and really self conscious and hurt. So yea, this request sounds very....odd. I mean, unless it was during role play (and with fictional people/characters) I would not appreciate being called someone else's name.
@Starring_Hobo89@xanga - ROFL! I lol'd. Hahahahaa!
I'm not sure myself. But I think I'd be a little iffy with that issue.
It would break my heart. But I wouldn't say anything. I'd let it slide. Unless it happens often, then he gets a stern talking to.
another love interest? u said another love interest. and youre considering it. wow
Not it is either my name or no names. Might lead to unintended misunderstandings.
how can you not prefer a wild sex life to that? Your partners might forget your name, or mispronounce it, or get it just plain wrong, but they'd have an excuse.
Ick. My boyfriend would have a seriously hurt penis if he did that during sex. No thank you. And I'll freely admit, I'm self conscious enough as it is because I know he had a very extensive sexual history before we started dating - to put something I've worked on getting over in our relationship out in the open again? It'd break my heart. He can think it if he wants - as long as I don't ever find out about it... its not gonna hurt me.
I think to even consider that (beyond role playing// though why you would role play another "love interest" I have no ida) says something about your relationship. Why would he want to do something like that?