Thursday, 08 October 2009
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The Rules of Casual Dating
I was doing some research on dating etiquette when I came across this definition of casual dating:
"An interaction between two people who are looking to get to know one another better, without commitments or promises. Either or both parties can be casually dating other people. Casual dating differs from friends with benefits in that friends with benefits engage in sexual activity together with no commitments to one another other, whereas casual dating may or may not involve sex, but its primary purpose is to determine what kind, if any, relationship will blossom."
Casual dating seems to apply very well to my situation right now. I've accepted two dates for the next week or so with two guys that I don't know too well. I'm reasonably attracted to both of them and they both seem to have many qualities I'm looking for. I want to get to know them better, and dating seems to be the easiest way to do that.
Here's where it gets complicated. They know each other, but not about each other. They are personal acquaintances (possibly even friends), but they don't know that they have both asked me out. I'm not really sure how to handle this situation because I don't know the "rules" of casual dating. Do I need to tell them that I'm seeing someone else, or is it just implied that I could be? If I don't tell them about each other (and they find out on their own), do I leave it up to them to decide what to do? Do I try to keep it a secret or do I just let the entire scene play out the way it will?
What are your expectations in a casual dating relationship?
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you're not obligated to tell anyone who else you are seeing. in fact, that's just makes you look weird. casual dating is all about HAVING FUN. if one or the other dude is angered or hurt over this, then they're a little crazy, or really young in terms of dating years.
I don't see any reason to tell them. They'll find out, or they won't, and it really won't affect you either way. It isn't your job to keep track of which friend of which guy you go on a date with. If They asked you out independently, they shouldn't be surprised that someone else had the same idea.
Multiple recipients. More about getting to know people than becoming phsyical. No head games (dare I wish). Convenience, by that I mean it fits into both individuals schedule.
Yeah I don't think it's necessary to tell them. I mean, you'll want to be honest but don't spill everything. But if they have to fight it out to the death for your hand... lol... That's a little weird.
It's a little hard to say, if they're OK friends and they find out one day that you're seeing the other person, everything might back fire when they both find out they're seeing you. One or both of them might stop seeing you. Just make sure if anyone of them asked you if you were seeing anybody else, be honest and say yes.
for some reason i cant seem to wrap my head around the whole concept of casual dating. like i get it but I dont....I dont know maybe casual dating is not for me?? cause knowing me id end up falling for all the kinds im getting to know...and that would be kind of a big problem
i guess cause im still kind of younger so im just used to...someone likes me awesome i like them back lets be together.....never did the dating thing.
the rules are, there are no rules.
there aren't rules to casual dating. if there isn't commitment, there can't be rules.
Casual dating is just that... CASUAL dating. If they throw a hissy fit at you for accepting both their dates, then that's their problem. As far as I see it, you're doing nothing wrong. Hope you find what you're looking for! :]
I've been in the outer circle of the debris of the nuclear fallout while observing the effects of two besties, one guy - does that count?
your life is like a sitcom lol. good luck. I say, don't tell 'em
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casual dating - it's a casual thing, no commitments. take it off your shoulders and see how it goes. GL
you are in dangerous territory. i had a friend who did the same thing and lost both guys she could've had a wonderful relationship with. pick one now and decide, or you might even ruin their friendship with each other.
the definition you found on casual dating is correct but in my opinion, casual dating two guys who know each other!? that's a no. it's fine to date more than on person at a time but two people who knows each other....it will get complicated and messy. plus its wrong because u dont want to come between two friends, u know what i mean?
but the decision comes down to you. do what u think is best. hope things work out for you!
well i mean there isn't commitment there right? so i guess it's [kinda] fine
do unto others..... well you know the rest..