Thursday, 08 October 2009
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Treat a Girl Like Dirt, She'll Stick To You Like Mud
Please answer me one question, why are girls so desperate? I mean honestly, why is it that girls let guys that treat them like complete shit and want nothing to do with them follow around guys like lost puppies and how the guy talks to them that day dictates how they will feel. I've been there and it's not fun and it's not worth it.
Take this convo with a friend that I had today:
Me: So how are you?
Her: Eh
Me: Why?
Her: Because Doug doesn't seem happy
Me: Hmm
Her: I know you don't care
Me: Well I just honestly think that you're waaay too emotionally attached to someone who wants nothing to do with you
Her: Yeah...
Me: So why continue to torture yourself?
Her: Idk...
Me: Why depend on a guy for happiness when it's clear that he doesn't feel the same about you? You laid it all out for him and he changed the subject. I'm so tired of girls thinking they need a guy to be happy. Especially the ones that push them away the most.
She stopped talking to me after that. Yeah it was a bit harsh but I'm not going to lie to her and I'm not going to say things like "well maybe he's just afraid of being hurt" or "maybe he's just super busy" because the majority of the time (not always) it's a bullshit excuse because he doesn't want to deal with you and is waiting for a chick he digs more to come along.
Take this synopses from the book "He's just not that into you"
"He says:Oh sure, they say they're busy. They say that they didn't have even a moment in their insanely busy day to pick up the phone. It was just that crazy. All lies. With the advent of cell phones and speed dialing, it is almost impossible not to call you. Sometimes I call people from my pants pocket when I don't even mean to. If I were into you, you would be the bright spot in my horribly busy day. Which would be a day that I would never be too busy to call you.
She says:
There is something great about knowing that my only job is to be as happy as I can be about my life, and feel as good as I can about myself, and to lead as full and eventful a life as I can, so that it doesn't ever feel like I'm just waiting around for some guy to ask me out. And most importantly, it's good for us all to remember that we don't need to scheme and plot, or beg anyone to ask us out. We're fantastic.
For ages women have come together over coffee, cocktails, or late-night phone chats to analyze the puzzling behavior of men.
He's afraid to get hurt again.
Maybe he doesn't want to ruin the friendship.
Maybe he's intimidated by me.
He just got out of a relationship.
Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo are here to say that — despite good intentions — you're wasting your time. Men are not complicated, although they'd like you to think they are. And there are no mixed messages.
The truth may be He's just not that into you.
Unfortunately guys are too terrified to ever directly tell a woman, "You're not the one." But their actions absolutely show how they feel"
And there it is. If he likes you he will make a relationship happen. If he doesn't, he'll come up with a million excuses that he knows any woman would fall for because every woman wants to think of their man as deep and emotional.
Now really, I'm not trying to bash guys. Guys can be really amazing. I'm with an amazing guy right now actually. But really girls, wake up and snap out of it. Not every guy you fall head over heels for will want to sweep you off your feet so stop wasting your time with these guys that are trying as hard as they possibly can to scrape you off of them.
Why do you think girls are attracted to men that treat them like dirt? Have you ever been?
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here here :: raises glass :: ive said it before and ill say it again: women have to stop complaining about men until they start showing better taste in them
Low self-esteem. When you don't like yourself and are willing to put up with crap, guess what you will get in a guy? CRAP!
I've been through it and, boy, it is NOT fun!
Works for either gender actually. I checked so I speak from experience. I've noticed the strange pattern - if I am nice to someone, they take it as invitation to be a complete ass. The minute I turn into a complete SOB, they treat me like I am their only purpose in life. *shrug*
Haha guys are indeed rather simple minded creatures. compared to girls.. which i still dont understand.
yes and yes. some things don't change...
I agree with all of it. I have never been attracted to a man who would treat me like that. I think girls who are attracted to such are girls with low self of steem. Girls who think can't get any better. It is sad but it happens and I know a few women like that.
My ex would never call and by the last two weeks of our relationship had texted about once or twice. He then broke up with me over Facebook and I learned later, after trying to be friends with him, that he was just using me.
Seriously girls, if he starts getting slow on communication, then dump his ass. He more than likely has a few minutes of free time, and if he cared, he would call and say "hi, I'm busy, can I call/text/etc you later?"
Not worth getting all worked up over.
@morbidcoronerchick@xanga - not fun at alllll!
I've seen it done before and I can't seem to fathom it myself. It's like when is enough enough?
Coincidently, I am currently observing a situation like this where the guy treats the girl like absolute shit and someway, somehow she always ends up back with him. One of my good friends has been in a relationship with her bf for over 2 years. She says she's in love, he's the absolute one and that he makes her life so much more meaningful and I have yet to witness this.
In fact, he treats the dirt underneath his shoes much better than he has ever treated her. He drinks all the time and gets drunk, calls her disrespectful names, and emotionally and mentally abuses her. What bothers me the most is, she'll come to me for advice and when I give it to her, she goes back to him and forgets whatever I had said. It's so frustrating, really.
We no longer talk anymore because I can't have someone negative like that in my life. I also realized that unless she sees it for herself, how bad she's being treated, she won't change and she probably doesn't realize that she needs to. It's like she's in denial!
I guess the moral of this is, until they see it for themselves, there's nothing we can do. Sometimes you can only do so much before you had enough. It's pathetic, really and sad to sit and watch but until they get a kick of reality, they'll see it soon enough.
i hate playing games and if a treated me like dirt; i would drop him and not bother myself about the guy again. seriously, not worth my time and effort.
If a guy doesn't show that he wants to talk to/hang out with/get to know me, I wont even take a second look at them. Games and beating around bushes are not worth the time. If he/she likes you, they like you. thats it. there are no "signs" or "tell-tales".
Good post!
I have a friend in the same position as yours. And I said the same thing to her, and she still doesn't listen =/
I had a few friends in that position, and no matter how much I tried to tell them, they never listen. :\
Because they want the guy so they're just pretending that there is hope there. It's kind of lame, but I've been there before too... like hardcore. Until I realized that the boy who was sweet to me was the one for me. So luckily he agreed to go back out with me. 2 and a half years later we're still together.
Kudos to you for being harshly honest! Sometimes, that's all a friend can do.
Ugh, I hate that. Girls need to know and realize that not every guy they like is their "Prince Charming". If they brought relationships into a realistic focus and stop believing in that silly fairy-tale "happily ever after" nonsense, girls wouldn't be like this. You can be happy without being in a relationship.
The only reason my brother's friend is popular with the ladies is because he is a misogynist. He treats his girlfriends as thought they were nothing but sexual objects to do his bidding. What happens? They listen to him. Girls need to stop being so damn pathetic and think they need a man to be happy to the point they'll give away what little self-respect they have left.
JEEZ! I am getting sick and tired of his, "but he loves me" crap. If he did even REMOTELY care for you, he'd show some god damn respect. So far, you're not giving him a reason to respect you.
Girls like that need to grow a brain and a spine.
- Kunoichi
Some girls are attracted to guys who do this. Some guys are the same way- I know a few myself. It's really too bad. Why does it happen? I have no idea. Sometimes there is no answer, or maybe a different answer for everyone.
I have wanted to "save" my friends from this but advice doesn't help. Gentle hints or nudges don't work. Complaining about how the significant other treats them doesn't work. Nothing is as strong as their crazy, unreasonable, alleged looooove. I just hope they do learn to avoid it eventually even if they have to learn the hard way.
People want what they can't have? I don't know. I always wondered why the girls surrounding me 'NEEDS' a boyfriend and suffer going a month without one. Seriously. I mean sure, being in a relationship is cool but I don't see how being single is THAT horrible.
Hmm... because they might not have acted that way at first.... so you're hoping maybe they're being honest. I, personally, have never been really interested in someone who wasn't interested in me first (minus when I had a huge crush when I was 14 years old), but I have stayed attached after he became less attached.... I guess because I still held onto the memories when he treated me well.
...Don't hate the players... ...Hate the game... ...that goes for everything actually...
I think a girl on The Hills said it best.
The reason a girl will still be interested even if he treats her like shit is because she never fully had him. Once she has him, and he treats her like he should, she'd be able to get over it easier.
That was harsh? Man, when my friends were stuck in crap like this I never held back. There's only one way to get them out of a situation like this. Lay it all out so they feel worse thinking about being with them than they do when they are being treated like crap by them. It's obvious when they are unhappy with someone. But for some reason they are oddly ok with being miserable, being abused either physically or emotionally. So I put them on a huge guilt trip and make them realize that they are in charge of their own happiness, they don't need someone else to do it for them. Especially when that someone is an asshole. Sadly it's the only way I've found, because if I just go and kick the person's ass for treating my friend like shit, then I'm the bad guy...go figure.
OMG. I agree with this post.
Like there's this girl who always complains about how this guy cheated on her blah blah blah, that he was at work with another girl and texted her stuff, etc.
She's listed countless things that he supposedly has done to her, and yet she still wants to get back with him and chose to stick around.
Had she not stuck around at all, he would have never "done" any of those "hurtful" things to her, but she chose to be a doormat.
It's so pathetic.
Girls need to have a little more self-respect.
My ex is engaged right now and I didn't even bother to stick around long enough to get myself extremely depressed over it.
He told me he's seeing someone and that he was sorry for whatever he did to me (even though I think he wasn't) and i was like....ok, that's nice, I don't care what he does.
I am so glad someone finally posted about this book! I love it! Every woman should read it! The movie is also good, but because it's a rom-com, it doesn't show enough of the book's message which is: If a guy seems distant from you, it's not because he's "scared" or any other excuse girls make up. It's because he's not that into you! You'll be much happier breaking up with the guy and waiting for another guy who IS into you!
My brother has racked up an impressive string of sexual conquests solely by being a selfish, thoughtless prick. Women find it irresistable, apparently.