Wednesday, 07 October 2009
-
Do You Make Time For Special Occasions?
Birthdays, anniversary, "monthsary" - Corny, I know, but a lot of the couples I know (including myself) do celebrate making it to the next month. Valentines Day, Christmas, New Years
Ok now, typical occasions (from what I've seen/been through) in a relationships that are usually deemed important are as follows:What are some other occasions you guys think are important to spend together/celebrate as a couple?
Also, do you think any of these should be put on the top priority list? When do you have to say, "I'm sorry, not today."
I know sometimes there are exceptions to not being able to spend time together for that day. Maybe some kind of emergency, or maybe one of you is just too busy. But, when does it become an excuse? For example, let's just say it's your 2 year anniversary of being together on a Thursday, but your SO says "I have an exam on Friday. Sorry, I can't spend Thursday with you. Let's just do something on the weekend." However, that SO was not too busy to play hockey with his pals on Monday night til 10. Shouldn't he be studying?
Feedback and comments please! Especially on the scenario I just provided.
RecommendRelated Posts
Post a Comment
- Back to datingish's Datingish Site!
- Note: your comment will appear in datingish's local time zone: GMT -05:00 (Eastern Standard - US, Canada)
About the Author
-
- From: destinyshorizon
Stats: This Week All Time Posts: 0 6 Views: 0 9748 Comments: 0 273 View all posts by destinyshorizon
Comments (17)
We celebrate things when we can. For our one year anniversary, we couldn't celebrate on the exact day very much, because of classes and homework and other college obligations, but we made it work somehow. We would've liked to celebrate more, but there was just no time. It doesn't matter so much, because every moment he & I spend together is a moment in which we celebrate our love :]
well, don't needa do every anniversary..
but i actually like to do something EVERY WEEK...just to keep things alive
Well I don't have a SO atm, but I do think it's important to spend YEARLY anniversaries together. Not monthly, they don't really count for anything, maybe you could do that for the first 2-3 months.
Don't care much about monthsaries. I used to keep track and actually greet my bf, but with the one I have now, I just grew past it. XD We celebrate whatever we wish to celebrate. I've never had an anniversary with anybody so... eh. I've never celebrated Valentine's Day either. I don't know why limit specialness into certain days. I give him gifts during the randomest times. XD We might celebrate Halloween or Christmas (even though I'm not really fond of the season) but I'll do it just to have a good holiday for once.
yeah, we always do. birthdays, birthday weeks, thanksgiving, halloween, any sort of holiday, anniversary, his exam went well, etc. whenever. i guess it helps that we live together, so i see my SO everyday, and its easier to do little things to "celebrate", even if its just a little cupcake for dessert.
birthdays and probably christmas would be special for us. we mostly just hang out with each other and it's all good. yearly anniversaries too. i don't really do monthly anniversaries. and as for the subject of procrastination... lol.. i'm probably more than likely to do that except i was on xanga or something. both of us are procrastinators i don't mind it. it's not a huge deal.
For that scenario you provided, i don't think its a big deal for him to want to something on the weekend instead. you don't want to be the one responsible for him not doing as well as he could on his exam...and even if you were doing something special, he'd still need sleep so you wouldn't be able to just hang out and talk until you guys ran out of things to talk about.
As for playing hockey on Monday, if it's a weekly thing then i have no problem with it at all. If it isn't i still don't have much of one, because Monday is far off from Friday, and I never study for anything till a few days before anyways =) AND! he might have been studying Monday and needed a study break =) Which I always do =)
Besides, after dating for 2 years....does it REALLY matter that you celebrate one day later? hahah me and my boyfriend didn't even celebrate our one year close to the date at all =P since I was out of the country =P
*shrug* for 2 years, I'd say you're over reacting. Especially since they want to do something the next day-ish =)
(and sorry, i just assumed you were a girl and your SO was a guy, but if not i really am sorry!)
If he said that he couldn't celebrate your two year anniversary because of a test but he stays out until 10 the night before the test playing hockey with his friends? That just pretty much means he didn't want to spend time with you or he was guilted/forced into playing. Either way, tell him that it hurt you and that you felt lied to/betrayed by his actions. And remember try to not sound accusatory and try to stay on the issue that is present, not every other time he has done that. Trust me, every time I bring something up with my boyfriend all hell breaks loose because he always brings up stuff from the past that has no relevance to the present. If he starts doing that or if you are too angry then take a 10 minute break to cool down. It will help a lot so you won't say anything hurtful to each other.
special occasions every time we see each other. we're in an ldr. only see each other every other week or so. xD
for us, special days we can either celebrate earlier or later. it's nice to know that they care.
seeing each other in a LDR is a special occasion every time :)
@Sugar_Sassy@xanga - Ditto.
@rachel - yeah, you guessed right! I am a girl =)
Yeah, its like, I don't want to overreact and everything, but like emilyd_foster@xanga said, I mean, its not the hockey that's the problem. My point is, yes, doing something on the weekend is cool with me. BUT, I think in all logic, if you're going to turn your girlfriend down for some occassion you apparently deemed important because you "need to study for the exam" but then go and play hockey? I mean, if you're going to study, then actually do what you said and study. You gave up one thing, I think it's hypocrisy not to give up the other. He could have said "Guys, I can't play tonight ok? Ive got an exam, and I already turned my gf down for Wednesday" If he wants a freaking break, then he can go get some food, and sleep. If he has time for hockey, then he should have at least, some time for me too.
I don't wanna sound harsh, I've been thinking and re-thinking this for a while now. The explanation I gave to you is just what really gets my goat, and makes me upset. You had some really good points. And, call me selfish (yes, I know I am/can be) but I know that if this was reverse situation he would resent it more than me.
I have very strong opinions on this subject. I think that celebrating anniversaries is not a priority. Its nice to acknowledge the length of time you have been together...but it is NOT necessary to go to dinner every single time or buy gifts or whatever people do on those dates. Valentine's Day is a joke and I personally refuse to celebrate it and thankfully found a man that agrees with me and believes me that I don't think it means anything. Think about it...the card companies and the calendar is telling you to show someone you love them...do it EVERYDAY randomly not one day out of the year.
Now...onto the whole hockey dispute. You said his test was FRIDAY, he wanted to study THURSDAY, and played hockey on MONDAY. Really...look at that right there. I know I personally do better on a test if I study the night before. Ever think that maybe that was the case for him too? Playing hockey on Monday which is 3 days before you even had plans has NOTHING to do with you. Let the guy have his friends. Did you end up hanging out still the weekend? If so...what are you really complaining about? Not getting to see him to celebrate or not being able to see him when YOU wanted to. Now...if he tells you no he wants to study and then plays hockey the SAME night, that is lying and that is a whole other issue.
Overall...all that matters in my mind is that the person is there and loves me and cares for me. They don't have to try to show it extra because of some date on the calendar. And maybe that makes me different...but it sure as hell makes it less stressful and more fun and spontaneous
@sufikitkat@xanga - Yeah, sure month celebrations shouldn't be a big thing. But since we've started out he has ALWAYS made them a big deal. In actual fact, his exam was on Thursday... 3 days to study. Well, minus the Monday. He STRESSED to me the exam was realllyyyy important to him. If the exam was really as "important" well... duh, you stay home and study instead of being a hypocrite.
@destinyshorizon - I still say its fine for him to have gone and played hockey. Stress reliever. Sometimes its nice to just be with your friends. But I guess that's why I am different from most women.
Sexual Tips for Guys- How to Find Her Sweet Spot
Finding sexual tips that'll improve your lovemaking can be extremely
The 'O' myth of womenAdifficult with all of all of the conflicting information that's out there. In
fact, every site seems to disagree on what is the best technique for pleasing
your woman.
So how do you know where to start when looking for advice which will improve
your sex life?
new study reveals nearly half of all women never manage reach the big O, yet most believe
we should be having at least one orgasm during sex. By Annette Lin
Hands up if you’ve ever faked an orgasm. Keep it up if you’ve done it either to “get it
over with” or to keep your partner happy. Well, you’re not alone.
Nearly half of all sexually active women in Australia “never or rarely achieve
orgasm during sex”, according to a new study conducted by Galaxy
Research.Women Hot, Hot, Hot
Whether
it's a favorite top, super sexy jeans or seductive stilettos, there's just something about
certain clothes that brings out our inner hottie.
Most of us have one or two items in our wardrobes that draw out our inner goddess.
It's as though you're wearing a superhero suit - and your superpower is sex
appeal. For DJ Suga it's what she calls her 'goddess dress'. 'Whenever I wear
my red Grecian-style dress I just want to strut. The V-neck plunges just
enough to create a sexy line without showing too much and the bold red color
ups the sexy-goddess factor.'How To
Last Longer In Bed - 4 Strategies For Improved Sexual Stamina!One major factor that determines how long you will last in bed is your
mental attitude. You should
have a positive
mental attitude when you are having sex. Stop worrying about
your problem while having sexual intercourse with your woman.
I know premature
ejaculation is a very serious and embarrassing issue for most guys, I
understand this because I was once disturbed by this condition. But it does not
offer you any benefit if you keep worrying about it during sex.kisses and the meanings behind themWhen we feel an intense romantic connection with someone, it is only
natural that we will want to experience passionate kisses with him or her. What message
are you sending out when you kiss someone romantically? Believe it or not,
there are different types of kisses with different meanings and intentions
behind them. You could be sending the wrong message
without knowing and scaring your love interest away without even knowing it. Or you
could be a kissing expert with great kissing experience and knowledge. How much
do you know about the art of
kissing? Read the different types below and learn what the meaning behind
each kiss is, as well as the message each one sends out!Want to Learn the Secret Technique to
Seduce Girls?Allow me to tell you a truth about guys and what most of us want from
women...
Simply put, we want to get laid!
When we start talking to a girl or bring her out on a date, our ultimate goal
is to get her in the sack. While you might want a relationship or simple companionship, your
first thought is wondering what sex will be like with her.
Top—and
"I wanted to get rid of a headache."Bottom—237 Reasons to Have Sex
"I wanted to be nice."
"I wanted to feel closer to God."
"I wanted to change the topic of conversation
The Truth About Pants And Women
Long ago, womenwore skirts or dresses. Pants were too tomboyish. Too mannish.. until the
recent decades. Skirts and
dresses were associated with femininity while pants were associated with
masculinity. Too uncouth for women.
Things have changed tremendously. Now, practically every woman owns at
least a few pairs of pants or jeans and can look very feminine, very sexy in
them.
7 Great Kissing Tips