Tuesday, 06 October 2009
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Is True Love Worth Waiting For?
For those of you that read my "Text Message Break Up" post, you should know that the boyfriend I had at the time as pretty much an ass. But that situation wasn't the only example of him being an ass. Throughout the majority of 3 year relationship, I had only really been staying around for his happiness. I was endlessly miserable because he would constantly ignore me when his friends were around and I was always the one making plans and so forth. Basically, I was the only one putting effort in the relationship and I was settling for it because I believed that was as good as it would get. Wrong.
We had our break up and naturally I was miserable and hopeless at the time. Then a guy entered my life that was the complete opposite of my ex. He was sweet, attentive, caring, and he actually listened to what I had to say. This guy is the perfect example of what every woman, I guarantee, wants. I didn't start actually dating him until maybe 6 months after we met because I wanted to be for sure he was the real deal, which he is. I'm certain this is the guy I was meant to be with.
My situation had really got me thinking of the people and situations they experience, around me. I'm constantly hearing about how they lost faith in ever finding true love and they continuously settle for their current partner, which they aren't 100% happy with (and is guaranteed to end in divorce). And I think that's the problem with today; everyone likes to "think" they found the one but they really are just settling and are not willing to wait for the right person to come into their lives.
Do you think true love is worth the wait?
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I think there are several "the ones" out there. While my boyfriend and I work very well together and I love him very very much I am confident that if something happened in our relationship we would both be able to find another person we were compatible with.
If I knew true love existed, I'd definitely wait. But I'm 99% certain that it doesn't.Â
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I think love is worth the wait, but there's a reason why you're with the one you're currently with (for those who feel they're just settling). For those who are single, and are wondering if their true love is out there, I guess the only way to find out is to put yourself out there. Everyone is different so I think it would be hard to say that there's only one love out there meant for me, and I'd go out and find it rather than wait for it.
@suggestivetongue@xanga - agreed.
And I think that you shouldn't just sit around in a relationship you're not happy in. There's always someone out there that will make you happy. Settling for someone is being unfair to yourself.
Yes. :)
Human beings, as a rule are rather adaptable creatures. I don't think there's just 'one' person out there. Rather, I think there is a whole plethora of people who you are or aren't compatible with.
The problem is, the whole finding part...
Agreed.
Sometimes you have to be patient for something better to come along and they usually do. I used to jump into relationships because I was afraid of ending up alone or worse...no one would ever love me. But I was wrong. After I met my husband, I never knew that I could always be happy. He makes me feel that way.
I'm sure there are other guys I would be content with and I know my boyfriend could find another girl he was compatible with. Do I want or need those people? No. Do I want to find out if I'm compatible with another? No. I'm more than content; I'm complete.
@lastlyfirst@xanga - exactly.
i think it is, but i haven't found mine yet. so i don't settle with any bad relationships, i settle for single instead. :)
It IS worth the wait! I was 21 when I had my first and only boyfriend... All throughout my teenage years and college, lots of people said I was too picky or dellusional if I dared to think prince charming would ever come knocking on my door. My boss even said I must have a childhood trauma or something since there was nothing else apparently wrong with me and I still didn't get together with anyone. *ROLLS EYES*
Well, guess what, prince charming came basically knocking on my door, and he's more amazing and wonderful than I could ever hope for or even deserve and we're planning to get married in two years or so. And funny thing is... none of those persons who mocked or made little of my commitment to wait for the right person is in a relationship right now.. well, there's one who is but she's as miserable as one could be with it.
I sure hope so...I been waiting a long time now, I hope it's not for nothing...
Right now im just willing to wait and see what happens
Definitely worth the wait.I waited 23yrs and i dont regret one bit of it. Nobody should ever have to settle for anything less than what they deserve. (=
As hopeful as I sometime try to convince myself to believe in true everlasting love; I still don't believe in it, ultimately. Why not? Even I, myself, am not sure why. I just don't.
"True love" and the "perfect partner" are myths. Finding someone who is compatible with you whom you love is perfectly reasonable.
I just ask myself, "how possible is it for me to find someone better?" if I'm unhappy in a relationship. If it's anything less than almost impossible, then I'm out.
Yup. But I think that things aren't perfect but they shouldn't be super difficult.
@Salivarysatisfaction - That is my thought as well. My life is not a fairy tale, but I'm happy almost 100% of the time.
i don't believe in settling, but i'm way too cynical to think that there is true love or the one that's perfect for me. but kudos to you! sounds like you met your dream guy!
I would believe so. I'm not gonna date just anyone out there
I think it is worth waiting for. I was in the same exact situation you were before I found my now-boyfriend and love of my life. I met him and I was like "damn, I think we're meant to be together..." and now it's just the best.
@Salivarysatisfaction - That was very well put...
It's a little funny that i'm surprised to see a thoughtful response on this site...
in my 24 years of experience... yes. my wait has been worth it.
@lastlyfirst@xanga - yes.