DISCLAIMER: THIS LETTER ONLY APPLIES TO ALL WOMEN WHO UTTER THE WORDS "ALL MEN ARE ASSHOLES."
Everyday I see women complain how "all men are assholes."
What an ignorant statement..
Of course, when you confront them about it, many usually reply "Oh, well not
all men, but
most.
"
That too, is an ignorant statement...
You see ladies, men aren't assholes. In fact, the majority of men are just as nice as you.
Then why don't you seem to run into these "perfect" men that you all dream about but seem to think are an urban myth? It's simple.
You don't give them the time of day.
Go to work, go to school, or just go out walking down a busy street. Now look at all the men. Most likely, you'll only notice one or two. The "hot" ones. All those others are just the hay hiding the needle.
Those pieces of hay are most likely the nice ones. Though because they aren't as attractive or "noticeable" you don't seem to find any reason to care about them. What about that one dorky, possibly overweight guy who always talks to you or says nice things about you in class or at work. He might lend you money when you can't afford to buy lunch. Maybe he'll try and help you with your work. Will you date him though? Well, most likely not. He's "beneath" you, after all.
So many of the women I've met seem to have this superiority complex when it comes to relationships. They want the hot, badass, fight-the-law type of man. Sorry, but most men aren't like that. Women want a man who is perfect, but truth be told, there's no such thing as perfect.
In my opinion women are just as shallow as men, possibly more so. Maybe not in the complete physical sense, but they won't accept less perfection.
(Now of course, this doesn't apply to all women. In fact, to be honest, it doesn't apply to most women. This applies to all those who seem to think that all men are "assholes." )
Do you agree?
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I think you should acknowledge that most women who utter these words, have been in some horrendous sitautions with men and have went through a lot in their relationships. So, I can kind of understand where the women who say this are coming from..
i'm an asshole
eh a lot of men are assholes and it's hard to find a good man nowadays.
not all men are assholes. you just really have to search for the good ones. ;)
well from my experience, my friends, my family, my church, school, work... i've pretty much concluded that all men are assholes. in my entire life i've never met a single man who wasn't and i figure at almost 23 years old i've come in contact with THOUSANDS of straight up assholes.
and i've dated PLENTY of men who were unattractive I'm not shallow, i don't go for looks. and i don't want someone who is perfect... at this point i would settle with respect, consideration for my feelings, taking responsibility for their actions, faithfulness... but it just doesn't happen.
i think you should acknowledge that most women who utter these words are more pathetic than the filth they spew from their disgusting sewers. women who've had "bad relationships" and decide that "all men are assholes" are the stupidest, most shortsighted women in all of history. it's pathetic. just because your hot boyfriend turned out to be a jerk (WHAT A SURPRISE, SALLY) doesn't mean the rest of us (see: MAJORITY) are jerks.
Not all women are catty, bitchy, or clingy but we understand when our own say that. So, when we say that all men are assholes, most of us get it. Just like when my guy friends say that all girls are naggy, I don't get mad because it doesn't really mean that it includes me either.
i agree with you. And a lot of really good looking guys are assholes because they know they can get away with it and still get girls.
silly girls. stop letting them!
OMG Amen. I hate hearing women say men are assholes or "all men are the same"
thats like saying all women are the same.
Are all guys assholes on a daily basis? Absolutely not. You're right, most are decent people.
But they're not always decent GUYS.
All guys will, at some point, act like an asshole towards a girl. It may not be intentional, or deliberate, but it still happens at some point, no matter if the guy is a good-looking douchebag or an all around, average-looking nice guy.
What if being attractive is part of being perfect? (I use the word attractive meaning towards each person's own tastes.) I usually can't be interested romantically in a guy who I don't find the least bit attractive, and it's weird to me that anyone should expect otherwise.
Just because a guy is nice to me doesn't mean that we would be a good match. Oh, yeah, he's nice, considerate, etc. But does he like what I like? Music, hobbies, places, ideas? 100% of the guys who have gone out of their way to be "nice guys" to me are the ones who thought that I would automatically date/do them or something.. even when it was pretty obvious that we would work as nothing but friends. This includes a few attractive ones.
By what and how you're writing, it sounds like you're upset and/or having girl-finding troubles.
Men are like assholes. Everybo--Wait.
I think I'm messing this up...
@pretend2fly@xanga - So uh...how about that guy in your profile picture? (Just curious.)
It's a blanket statement and will make someone, somewhere mad. Those of us who are smart enough to recognize it as such, can hopefully also recognize that it is grossly untrue and usually only said by spinster-type women.
@pretend2fly@xanga - Perfect confidence with women = asshole or taken; honestly loving + considerate = dork. All great attributes combined = < 0.00001%. Take your pick.
BTW the attributes don't directly make them that way, it's their attitudes that enhance particular attributes.
I've never said that all men are assholes but I have said that men suck, but mainly because my husband just dumped me...of course that is a whole other story :)
Another nice guy rant...
There's someone out there for everyone.
Men are great.
Women are kind of annoying, though. Haha.
The thing is, as the blog stated: women aren't willing to give these guys time of day. Believe me, not all men are assholes. You just have to be willing to date someone that isn't as great looking as; Brad Pitt maybe?
My boyfriend is hot, but not an asshole. Attractive, successful men aren't all horn dog, cheating, lying, losers. But I understand many of those attractive guys took advantage of that and made a not-so-good stereotype for themselves. And yes, women are most definitely just as shallow as men can be (I'll admit I'm very shallow), it's nature to want the most attractive and most successful mate, but of course you want one who will be trustworthy, honest, faithful, etc. Everyone has their quirks, my bf is hot and driven/successful, but he also suffers from mild depression and a little social anxiety. When I was younger I preferred men who were not only hot and driven, but also Mr. Life of the Party (in my experience he wasn't all that he was thought up to be). I'm glad I took a chance on Mr. Shy Guy :)
I don't think all men are assholes at all, I think the problem is communication. Women don't understand the way men think, Hell I'm confused myself, but after being friends with primarily guys and living around them you kind of get sneak peaks behind the curtain.
Rejection is a big thing, a lot of men not only fear rejection, but they fear dishing it out directly as well. That's why they won't call you when they say they will, they kind of hope you'll just get the hint and go away. Sure it's not necessarily the most honest/nice thing to do, but that's what happens. My bf is guilty of a lot of that stuff. He's said he would call and not, he's thrown away numbers after recieving them (well...everyone has done that), said he was busy when he wasn't, pretended to pass out so a girl would leave him alone (okay that was extreme, but it was a hilarious story) and I've heard similar one's from freinds (FYI: He never did that stuff with me obviously or we wouldn't be dating). One of my guy friend's even stopped calling his gf and started ignoring her/acted like he didn't care so that she would get mad and break up with him do he didn't have to be the bad guy and break up with her. Was that a jerk move? Yea kind of, but is he an asshole? No, he's a nice guy and is now happily married to a girl whom he worships the ground she walks on.
i think most guys have asshole tendencies. a man will control these tendencies when he meets a woman who is worth the effort. if you are the type of woman who says that men are assholes, you simply were not worth the effort.
The only women i have met who call men "assholes" are those ones who date the men that are so obviously going to be assholes; the bad boy, the hot player, and so on, and then they complain that men are all assholes... and i laugh, because i love sweet hearts.
@Sounds0fLaughter@xanga - He isn't having "girl-finding trouble", hah. He's my boyfriend. And I agree with what he's saying here.
More like 'Some men are assholes" ... cuz well not all of them are. Just a stupid generalization.
ppl are just afraid of commitment.
@Ale_x_a@xanga - I wasn't trying to be offensive, I was just pointing out his tone.
I disagree with what he is saying, because it basically means, "Sorry, you can't get what you want. You'll just have to compromise."
I don't believe in compromise when it comes to who to be in a romantic relationship with. If there is no man that is my idea of perfect, then I will never fall in love and I will never marry. I am not going to bind myself to someone because they happen to be a nice guy; I require THE guy. I deserve it. And he deserves to have someone that appreciates the reasons why he is THE guy, and not just a guy.
Perhaps we should reword that statement. Instead of "all men are assholes," it's probably more accurate to say that "all men are assholes at sometimes."
I'm pretty sure that all the guys that I've dated (and I've had some pretty awesome boyfriends) have been an ass at some point in our relationship. It's usually during these points when I say "men are assholes." I usually do that when one of my girlfriends is having guy issues though :/ In general, I try not to use blanket statements like that.
Word to the nice guys: sitting at home blogging about how you're getting shafted by shallow girls that only dig perfect looking assholes is not what I would call an effective use of your time. Perhaps this is why we seem to only date the assholes. They're the ones that hit on us or ask us out.