Of course women are told to love themselves for who they are. But then again, they are also told that they are not thin enough, not tall enough, don't have enough cleavage, have too much body hair, etc. It's understandable that women get lost in the sea of messages telling them what is real and what is attractive - because they are definitely not always the same thing. 

You may believe you are beautiful, perfect, etc., but if you can't convince your lover of that, you don't really stand much of a chance. Love is a two-way street. Being open-minded about these things doesn't change the fact that we are biologically inclined to stereotype on a superficial level. It's a habit that must be kept in check, but it's not always wrong.

@QuantumStorm@xanga - absolutely. if we were all perfect, there would be no impetus for sexual selection.

but yes, we are all "real" because we exist. lol.

Nice post. But sadly, the fact is not everyone is beautiful. This goes for both on the outside and the inside. Let's face it, some people (guys and girls) are just better looking than others....to ignore such a fact would be naive. They get more attention and will likely have an easier life.

On the other hand, true beauty is within. However, its also just as naive to think all people are beautiful on the inside. The fact is, there are a lot of crappy people in the world.

Not trying to be negative...but I wish more people would be more introspective and try to better themselves as people as much as they try to make themselves attractive on the outside.

I agree. I'm disliking this current anti-thin anti-fit "real women are plump" mantra that's trying to fight off the thin model issues the media has. You're right, real women come in all different shapes and sizes just like real men.

The real message should be "stop focusing so much on beauty." Take a page out of the male handbook on that. Most men focus less on what they look like and more on what they're interested in (sports, gadgets, comic books, cars, ect).

That's not to say that all women should let themselves go. But then neither should all men. Balance is good.

Yeah, I agree.

what matters is how a woman feels about herself.  maybe i don't get it.

Uhm, there's no such thing as a fake woman... Unless you're a mannequin, but if you are, then you shouldn't feel offended.

I think people say those women are real women because magazines constantly show this perfect image that women think they should be. Most of the media shows skinny women in their stuff. Even ads for plus size women, they try to find the smaller types. I think that saying they're real women just points out that there are other women out there, some bigger and smaller and that not everyones magazine women thin.

But yes I agree with you on the message that the real message is to stop categorizing women and see beauty as an all around thing. All women are women and all women are beautiful. :)

@shoujo@xanga - it is sad but true. Lies about what looks right and what waist size you must have are ridiculous. These days it all about extremes, quite sad.

@MissPixieGlitter@xanga - Sexual attraction can come entirely from personality.  That's how relationships are born from platonic friendships.

I guess, real, is just when you accept and make something of yourself