Sunday, 04 October 2009
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Why Do You Flirt With Other Girls?
Girls, I'm sure almost all of you have had this problem. I hear about it from everyone I know.
Why do our boyfriends still insist on flirting with other girls?
They may claim that they love us more than anything, but why do they still flirt with other girls in a way they don't even flirt with us?
I've just realized the day I post this blog, that my boyfriend flirts with girls often, and he's not even like that to me.
When I told him it bothers me, he didn't even say a thing about it. No "sorry," nothing of the like.
So, boys, tell us...
Why do you flirt with other girls more than you do with us?
and girls, have you ever experienced this? What did you do about it? How did it effect you?
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I'm not really the flirtatious type, so I can't really speak on behalf of these guys. But after talking to people who do, I can only come to the conclusion that it is because their confidence is at a sky high. They have a girlfriend, they are happy and they want other people to see. The only thing is that flirting is the grand result of confidence a lot of the time. I actually saw an example last night- a friend of mine was getting a little too flirty and his girlfriend asked me to talk to him. He honestly didn't realise that he was doing it and felt a little offended. So it seems to me to be a harmless by-product that we have.
Good post too!
my boyfriend doesn't flirt with other girls.
i definitely don't flirt with other girls. i rarely even speak with other girls, but that's mostly because i've had a hard time making friends in college and for the year + time i've been here i've only had 3 friends, none of which i see or talk to anymore anyway.
if my boyfriend flirts with other girls i dont wanna kno. and he knows how id feel cuz if he saw me flirtin with someone else he'd be realllll territorial, haha. just like i like it :P
because it's a fun thing to do.
my boyfriend is so clueless about those sorts of things he can't tell what the line between being friendly and flirting is, he comes and asks me half the time haha
so i just assume he's being his normal, over-friendly Labrador Retriever self than flirting
Go flirt with other guys and see how he reacts.
my bf friend flirts...and treats me the same as every other girl friend so how am i supposed to know i mean more to him :/
My boyfriend doesn't flirt with other girls.
I don't think mine flirts with other girls...then again, I wouldn't really mind so maybe he does and I just don't notice.
Sometimes, I think my boyfriend doesn't realize that what he does can be construed as flirting :/
He's just obnoxiously nice and interested in other people. I've seen him do it to men and women alike, so I don't think it's flirting, but he'll compliment people on their clothes/hair/accessories and usually the girls take it as flirting and get defensive and the men strike up a conversation.I told him about it once and he said that there obviously weren't enough nice people in the world. I'm sort of inclined to agree.
Sometimes though, the girls start hitting on him (and then I want to kill them >.<)
My boyfriend flirts - but I know it's completely harmless. He's just being super friendly, that's his personality, and I know if I'm standing there with him, it's not like the girl is gonna think he's seriously hitting on her. And, if he's flirting when I'm around, I'm sure he does the same when I'm not around - but I'm probably do too. However, there is a fine line between flirting, and just being nice and friendly, maybe that's the real question. Perhaps there is no intention of flirting, they're just being extremely nice.
@Ni_Shi_Wo_De@xanga - agreed. you said it better then I did...
My ex used to flirt with other girls all the time. Eventually, I got sick of it and left him.
My current boyfriend is the exact opposite of my ex, which is probably why we're more compatible.
Uh, my husband doesn't flirt with girls.... or guys for that matter. He's just a nice person. If you're taking something as being flirting, it's probably not - it's probably just him being nice and interested in other people. That's not flirting.
I had this problem with my boyfriend. It killed me inside. It got a little out of hand so I got revenge. Started my own photoblog for guys to look at me. We broke up a week later lol
I'm a flirt! Yes, I admit it. I'm not ashamed. Though I tend to calm down a lot more when I'm in a serious relationship because I'm married. Open marriage or not, I'm married. I mean now I flirt a lot wwith guys because well I have a wife. So, I don't really flirt with a lot of women like I do with my wife. I mean a lot of things I say may come off as flirting.. like if you get close enough to me I start calling to darling or when I first start talking to you I call you dear.
Also some people thinking I'm flirting when I just sit there and listen and tell someone that they deserve the world... what is up with that?
My wife is fully well aware of my flirting because she can be one too but only those who are really close to her. She's all right with it. When we first started dating and seeing each other I looked at her and said "are you okay with this?"-- this tendency of mine made my last girlfriend paraniod and my wife smiled and said "it's your nature and I'm not going to expect you to change overnight...doesn't make me want you less." In fact funny enough, I flirt more with her after she said that, as a reaction.
Though I do still flirt with some girls frequently but only the girls that really really know me because sometimes once someone gets closer to me, I flirt a lot more. Though this time around, my wife just joins in.
My one guy friend just reffered to it as being friendly. Uhm... no you like leading other girls on you twit. I wouldnt be okay with it if my guy had to flirt with other girls, its like saying your open to cheating almost (someone could take it the wrong way and things could happen). There is a difference between being friendly and flirting with someone in my opinion. If your in a relationship there shouldnt be a need to flirt with other girls.
I'm in a LDR and I know my bf flirts with other girls occasionally. Scares me more than anything and I always have a feeling that I am going to lose him at any moment.
Ive seen my bf flirt with other girls in front of me but at the end of the night i know hes coming home to me. It really doesn't bother me as long as he doesn't over do it and i guess it also helps him feel better cause its like an ego booster to him. But if he does go a bit too far i make sure to let him know about it or better yet show him how i felt. (=
@Not_a_real_site@xanga - I agree. If you are in a trusting, secure relationship, it is harmless. It could even be helpful. If I catch a guy checking me out or subtly flirting, I might respond a little but hardly take it anywhere past that. It gives guys a little ego boost just like us girls dress up for no reason.
If you're jealous or think he's trying to really pursue her, then you are either a) correct or b) just a typical, paranoid girl. Either dump him or - gasp! - actually bring up the topic with him and talk it out. Rather than ranting on the internet about what bastards men can be.
Maybe guys are onto something. This is a pretty good article on the topic.
it's the attention. we all know we like it when people flirt with us, and flirting back keeps the attention going.
hahahaa, i thought this question was about why girls flirt with other girls. i flirt with girls (friends) because it's harmless fun and they don't get the wrong idea.