I recognized a friend in one of my classes, and I sat down next to her as we chatted before class. To cut it short, this is how the conversation went:
Her: blah blah blah blah fiance blah blah blah...
Me: blah blah? blah blah ... WAIT, WHAT?
First of all, she's 20/21. Second of all, we're still in uni. We haven't graduated yet, although this is our last year, and she's planning on going to grad school right after. I didn't ask anything else about the engagement besides the obvious "how did THIS happen??" (She told me they had been on-and-off for around five years, and they always came back to each other so they figured, hm why not?)
I guess I shouldn't be so surprised anymore. I guess once you're in your early 20s, everyone is going to start becoming engaged, right? Or maybe that's just something that I'm telling myself now. I just can't really believe that it's time for legitimate engagements, not "yeah, he says we're going to get married!"
How old were you when you became engaged? How long did you wait before officially marrying? What was the youngest age you heard someone become engaged?
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Married at 20, divorced at 23.
I was 22, but he was my first boyfriend ever. So fairly immature compared to others my age. I don't think we should put an age limit on anything, though... I know 19 year olds who have amazing marriages and 40-50 year olds who don't know the meaning of marriage who should have NEVER gotten married. I feel that mine is fairly successful - we've been married 5 1/2 years now.
My friend got engaged a few months after turning 18 and was just
starting her senior year of high school. Ick.
I got engaged @ 22, after 3 years of dating and a year of living together. We aren't getting married until May 2011 though, as this is my senior year of college and I'm in the process of trying to get into graduate schools and don't have time to plan a wedding on top of everything. Plus when we end up getting married I'll be 24 & he'll be turning 25, which I think isn't to young.
The youngest I knew of someone getting engaged was a 16 year old who got engaged and pregnant all at 16. Supposeldy married the baby daddy, though now they say they never were actually married so who knows, one thing is for sure they're not together anymore.
I don't think age really matters though, its more about the individual people and if they are ready to get married or not. Like someone else said some people are ready at 18 while others aren't ready at 40.
Engaged at 19, but thankfully didn't go through with it. Now I'm "unofficially engaged" (i.e. committed and assuming marriage before we become common law spouses) to another guy at 24, although we've been like this for a few years.
Knew a girl who got engaged when we were in 10th grade. They fought a lot afterward and she kept getting mad and throwing her engagement ring around the school bus. Then she dropped out.
23 ^_^
early 20's? Isn't that a bit too young for engagement or getting married?
Hahahaha...on and off for 5 years, so why not?
She would be on and off with him in high school. Oh yes. She's gonna stick with this one.
Umm my friend got engaged at 17 and she married at 19, and her and her husband are doing great, they even have a wonderful baby together =). But as for me I got engaged at 20, I turned down my original proposal at 17 because our relationship was still blooming and I wanted to know him better. So after 3 years of being friends in high school, 3 years of being boyfriend and girlfriend, and living with each other for 2 years, I got engaged lol.
I got engaged earlier this year, I'm 21. Were not getting married until 2011 so I'll be 23 and he'll be 26. Now don't get me wrong, I think 21 is a little bit young, but I'm waiting 2 years, so that should count for something.
Heres a crazy story though. My cousin started dating this guy in April. She got pregnant in May, and as of September 19 they are man and wife. That is what I think is CRAZY!
engaged at 17. Awww yeah :P
on and off? that sounds... not... right. idk. i could see if you were together consistently or something though
Engaged at 18 and married at 18. Our engagement was only six months. We've been married for over two years.
Unofficially engaged at 18. :)
We're waiting until we're both done with more school before he moves over here to my country (he stayed with me this summer and loved it).
I married my high school sweetheart , my first. I married at age 17 divorced at 26
I'm 23 and single...no engagement for me. The youngest I've seen was a friend of mine in college. She got engaged at 18. However, she waited 3 years to get married. I did see a trend of people getting engaged while I was in college, but it's not uncommon in the area I live in. (The southern Baptist culture encourages family values, usually leading to people marrying young.) I don't think it's the age that matters though, but rather what the individual is ready for at that period of time. I've been ready for marriage since I hit my 20's, but not everyone is. It's same concept as with college. Some are ready to go right out of high school, others wait awhile before they go back, while some never go to college.
I believe the statistical average for women marrying in the U.S. is 25, and for men it's 27. In other words, more people are waiting until they hit their mid-late 20's to get married. So I wouldn't worry so much just b/c you aren't engaged just yet. Marriage is hard no matter what age you marry, but it is easier to marry once you are financially stable.
I want to get married after 23 and before 28... but we all know that nothing ever works how you want it tooooo so eh xD I knew a girl who got engaged at 16... and then broke it off like a week later. Lol.
just wait till you get to grad school or turn 22 or 23, not only will EVERYONE you know be getting married, they will also be having babies and buying houses and they you start to feel really old and wonder when your time will come too.
An engagement must come after a period of dating and should never be rushed and should last long enough to build suspense for a wedding. I once thought of destroying this dream of mine, but I won't for any man. I've never been engaged. I'm pretty picky. I want a badass ring. I want to be engaged in bed or at a fancy restuarant in just the right outfit. Thought about making that less too and it's just not going to be worth it. I deserve a good engagement and marriage.
100% not engaged at 26 (to the chagrin of mine and my boyfriend's parents)
most humans live 'till 75-85 now....why rush it? LOL
if you ask me, no one should be getting engaged before 25 because your personality/character/brain isn't fully mature until then, if you're the average person
Hey I've known people to be MARRIED at 20/21, never mind engaged. For myself, I don't want to be "officially" engaged before I turn 25.
Yeah, it started with me before I was 20! LOL It's crazy. The craziest thing is some of those who were engaged the earliest in terms of their relationship time have been married the longest. Haha. But yeah. I'm almost 25, and still not engaged yet. I hope to be soon, though! ;) Haha Even my sister is hoping to be getting engaged by the end of the year, I believe... And she is FIVE years younger than me! LOL
I'm guessing you're not seeing anyone right now?
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This girl in my graduating class of 2009 just got engaged at 18 and one of my other friends also got engaged at 18. It's kind of weird for me because all I can think is that they are so young and they don't have any way to support themselves. I'm not judging and I support them but for me I would wait until I had a job and the right person.
@SeeBeeWrite@xanga - haha. imagining this makes me laugh
also. How do 18 year old's afford engagement rings? I can't even afford to move out of my house/school and I've been working steady since I've started!!!