Friday, 02 October 2009
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Gross. Too Many People Like You.
Do you believe that when something or someone becomes too popular, it gets annoying so you tend to avoid or even hate?
Like Twilight and Miley Cyrus/Hannah Montana, now that they're everywhere, so are the haters and what not. Isn't that normal? When too many people follow the same trend the trend starts to become less and less popular, right? Well, if that's true...how about with dating?
I feel like I'm the only person who doesn't like the girl who all the guys want. It's even sometimes a turn off. I know you're probably thinking that I'm absolutely crazy, but why isn't crazy to not like the person that everyone likes?
I'm not saying I don't want her to be desirable or anything. After all, who wants a girl that no guy will chase? It's just that sometimes it is too much to deal with. One or two guys is okay, but 3 or more guys trying to get with her and I'm thinking "looks like the bus is full." With so many people chasing one girl, it's discouraging. Especially if she doesn't ignore them? It sends a weird signal to me. It's like she's already talking to someone if she responds to any of them. I don't like having to compete because I don't like to lose, but I'm a nice guy. I usually become just a friend and I don't do anything about it.
Okay, now if I did end up coming on top and getting the girl. Now I got all these haters who boost up my ego, but then you gotta deal with the quiet, sneaky bastards who try to persuade your girlfriend to break up with you and get with them...and how do I know about these guys? Because that's how I got my last two girlfriends. "Call me when he ain't around, call me when he lets you down."
What if your girlfriend doesn't defend you when they talk shit about you? What if she laughs and keeps talking to them? Is it really all that crazy to avoid that person everyone wants?
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sometimes girls can't help it. people like them for different reasons. one guy may like her just because of looks, and the other might like her cause shes athletic. regardless, its your personal choice, but i don't think just because lots of people like her, its automatically a turnoff. girls like that don't always go for the best looking guy, or the guy with money (although i know some do). some girls actually want to get to know the guy before getting together with them. how is it bad when a popular girl like that decides to respond to her choice of suitors? she needs to weed out the good ones from the bad ones. i think thats totally fair game. if shes already in a relationship, then shes definitely overstepped her boundaries.
People hate Miley Cyrus and Twilight because they are annoying.
I used to not like the "guy that everyone wants" type..
I think it all depends on the situation. Personally, I would never look twice if there was some girl that had everyone's attention, and ate it up. That's why I'm the kind of guy that doesn't have crushes on female celebrities. I just dont think she'd be at all faithful even if she were to give me a "chance". So I really wouldn't waste my time. I'd rather go for someone who knows that they want to be with me, and is willing to negate all the other males due to the fact that she feels the way she does. I dont doubt that there are plenty of ridiculously attractive people out there that have a heart of gold, and will be true to you...but I'm going to safely assume that those people are usually taken by people who take advantage of their kindness. So my take on the situation is move on, and find someone more wholesome? Avoid the drama that might take place if she does decide to look your way.
@rhea@lovelyish - lol, but you do now? What changed your mind?
I know one girl like that, lots of guys like her but she's clueless so she's a bad example. Sometimes I think you just have to be confident in your way with whoever you pick. It's not bad going for the one that others want after all, it's what you want that matter. My wife was the type everyone wanted.. and my main competition.. her ex-fiance is now getting married t someone else so I'm all up for that lol
@snapeful@xanga - haha thanks. some people let the fame and what not get to their heads and their swollen egos get the best of them.
@dearFLOPPY@xanga - well i dont mean to label her as the "bad guy" or whatever. it's just when you get in a relationship, the friends and the people around are all part of that. its like buying a wonderful home with shitty neighbors.
@ShimmerBodyCream@xanga - oh...well most of my friends dont like them because of all the fangirls...
@rhea@lovelyish - ...and? =P you started liking him? why? haha
@DeathzDezign@xanga - yeah like i told floppy. its like buying a wonderful home with shitty neighbors.
@shadesofillusion@xanga - yeah but some girls care mroe about their egos than the people fighting for them.
@romeosintuition@xanga - women with big egos are just as bad as guys lol.... but sme women can surprise you. Some women have no idea that guys like them or they just think that someone is being "sweet"or etc when in reality.. he's flirting and it's obvious to other guys
I don't mind someone who is sought after by a lot of people in theory. It's not exactly their fault. My problem begins when girls get attention which leads to an overinflated ego. If someone is a great person and as a result has generated a lot of interest, I find it hard to blame that person. What I think you're referring to here is the girl who everyone thinks is hot despite having nothing to offer society in an enrichment sense, in which case I would have steered clear well before any bus crowding began.
And I see I'm late to the party in this case.
Nice tie-in :3
I personally haven't known one person who gets so much attention from others, as you described, to be a desirable friend or companion. The pompousness and need for attention is way too annoying.
@ShimmerBodyCream@xanga - And that is that. :D Stereotypical bandwagons for the preteens.
@IfIWereAchilles@xanga - i was with you til the end. =P im not saying she's only hot, it's just the whole swollen ego.
shooooooooot, i hate dating the person everybody wants. but i refuse to let him go. i just hate all the girls all over him and i don't trust him very much and i do think he does things he shouldn't but i hang onto him cuz i know that no matter what he does, he does love me. he's stuck with me through too much to not love me. he tells girls that he has me and he can't do anything with them, but i don't think that's enough to fight off the temptation of the college girls who love the football player. but either way, i don't wanna let him go because he sticks with me through everything and he and i both know that if he didn't wanna be with me he wouldn't. so he gotta be around for a reason.
a relationship isn't a good relationship if you don't have to fight to make it work.
@romeosintuition@xanga - @DeathzDezign@xanga - Well.. It used to bother me that a lot of girls wanted my boyfriend. Mostly because he'd acknowledge them.. Because he liked the popularity. Our relationship got a lot more serious..And I've noticed that he just stopped being interested in being liked by all the girls. They still want him.. But its the fact that he doesn't care anymore that makes it acceptable. We've been together 2 years.
I still like twilight and stuff like that.
It makes perfect sense to me. For me its also a turn off. Usually the person likes all the attention they are getting and i am not up for a mess of a situation that can be. It almost makes it not worth it for me.
@rhea@lovelyish - lol wanna answer all my comments for me? =P because that's perfect. working through it till they dont matter. =) congrats rhea.
@revealingimperfections@xanga - but is it worth it to fight all the time?
@rhea@lovelyish - my theory has been proven then! haha, congratulations...you've found a guy who can overcome the thought of being liked by many to happily being loved by one =)
@romeosintuition@xanga - "but is it worth it to fight all the time?"...only the individual can answer whether it would be proven worthy to fight in this situation. Love can be very powerful in a sense where you'd do anything for that other person...but I remember this quote from another Datingish entry that kinda stuck with me. "Love never stops fighting", so where does that leave you when you decide to stop fighting for what you want? I think it's all in the individual.
Bottom line dude, if you want her...go get her, doesnt matter how popular she is. If it doesnt work out, it wasnt meant to...but at least this way you'll never wonder how it wouldve been like if you had only tried right?
Carpe Diem....damn I need to start taking my own advice -_-
I tried to date the guy who everyone likes. I couldn't handle it anymore so I made him choose. He didn't pick me.. this happened this morning so it pretty much ruined my day -___-
i don't think that's a good enough reason to not like someone. i also think just because "no guy will chase" some girl doesn't mean she can't potentially be great. other people's opinions may play a factor, but i think you should look deeper than that.
Its definitely not crazy to avoid that girl. I think Im THAT girl that ur talking about. Sometimes...like with me,I just can't be rude to ANYONE. Its not how i was raised,so I talk to the dorks that approach me,I'm just not rude....so maybe if You find a girl thats being chased alot but u also want to chase her....please don't judge. Give her a chance. Trust me,You will know if she's the type that'll cause hardship to you. =]
p.s ur last paragraph is exactly what I experience...those sneaky bastards are always try stealing me from my bf. Ha,I have no respect for douche's like that.
@rhea@lovelyish - you're amazing just for that (: thank youu haha
"looks like the bus is full" that cracked me up.